I would like a bit of advice from a Proffesional. I am 27 years old and my wife is 30. My wife is Japanese and we have been married for about 6 years with 2 kids 2 and 5 years old. We maintain a healthy sexual relationship, usually about once every week. My question is concerning the best choice in pheromones to bring out an emotional, close response from my wife. After reading the 5 love languages, I have figured out my wife loves it when I do things rather then show her affection (kissing, hugging, etc.), myself on the other hand loves receiving affection from my wife however it doesn’t seem to be a common trait. She will do a lot for me but doesn’t really show much affection. That is her way of showing me her love (Doing things). We have a healthy marriage but I was wondering what mix of pheromones could I use to bring out her passion and intimate side? She likes the strong confident, passionate, kind man vibe (I am the man and can take care of everything, masculine but not overbearing). We have time together every night when the kids are sleeping, I want her to gain a sense of romance. The love that we once felt while we were dating (before the kids). I believe I’m doing a good job but I need a little boost from the pheromones. Any suggestions?
My first thought from your description is that she sees you as a “sure thing.”
You need to create some motivation for her to act more affectionate and the usual prescription is a touch of dread. A little anxiety and stress may be needed to get better performance from her in her wifely duties as an affectionate woman and companion.
You can be congruent in your pheromone signature with a bit rougher, more dominant behavior by a light touch of something like TUTH or Instant Jerk or even NPA. You will have be subtle with the A-none containing products like these as Japanese are more sensitive to A-none than other races so “a little dab will do ya.”
Thank you for the advice. I have used TUTH on a couple of occasions (still have some), she didn’t really think much of the sweet smell. My feedback form IG was very positive, she liked the smell. I am starting to wonder if I need to go a little stronger. I haven’t tried Instant Jerk and NPA yet, I guess it’s on the list as of now.
We are doing very well. I would have to say this would be the best year out of the 6 years married. We have had many bumps but it seems like everything has smoothed out and we are at the point were we understand each other. The initial girlfriend/boyfriend moments were amazing and of course as expected children will change things up. I refuse to make that an excuse for not having our alone time. It was rough at first but we managed to make it work out. I have to say, me being American and her being Japanese at first caused some problems (culture), bust we have adapted. I would say we meet in the middle with everything. I currently live in Japan, been here for about 6 years. Just looking to spice things up.
Mu GF of two years is Korean and I’m American, so I’m looking seriously at cross-cultural issues in our impending marriage.
The biggest issue so far is her degree of family attachment versus the American attitude of hitting the road at 18. She’s 32 and still living at home (I’m much more mature!) Her mommy still rules her life.
I introduced TUTH on our second or third date and she’s always seemed to respond well.
Before I left Korea, I asked a number of Western expat guys who were married or in long-term relationships with Korean women what were the biggest issues. They all said the biggest issues were always that she’s a woman and the they are a man.
Now, Koreans are not Japanese, but I expect the same truth applies to you.
I agree, I was very much in the same situation. My wife did not leave her parents home until after we got married. My wife is very mature, she doesn’t give off that younger Japanese vibe. this is were the confident man comes into play. Her parents are involved in our life somewhat but not like it was when we were first married. We have our own rules and live by them now. It took some time.
Like you said, I am the man and must take care of those responsibilities while she it the woman. I definitely feel that in our marriage.
What do you think about using IG with TUTH? Would that be a good mix, adding the confident man vibe with a sexual aura? or maybe a dab of A314?
I know A314 comes on a little strong for Asians but maybe its what I need since my wife has matured immensely since we first got married.
Initially at least, your established sexual elationship notwithstanding I would suggest you maybe look at the status products as primaries a bit more than the overt sexuals.
IG is certainly in the frame and at 27/30, I would absolutely not rule-out A314 - IME women do tend to tune-in to A314 on an attraction level much more strongly from around the time they hit 30 (and beyond). Asians especially.
I’ll defer to Whitehall on overt sexuals around Korean women as my experience is much more limited to them in a western environment but personally, I have found that Korean and Thai women do better with overt sexuals like TUTH and NPA compared to Japanese or Han Chinese - at least ones from fairly traditional backgrounds, who can be very sensitive indeed but you do get exceptions with any age/race, so test any sexual products as secondaries carefully from a small dose first.
I also agree that a bit of repositioning you behaviour towards her to create a little dissonance will help - She needs to remember what she liked about you and even miss you a bit to get the attraction going again. So maybe its time to develop some new hobbies that take you away from her but don’t tell her too much so she starts wondering a bit. Being an open book or too much in each others pockets is an excellent passion-killer I’m afraid.
Other products that may help you with bonding include Instant Shine - for a happy/feelgood vibe and the IH/IS combo, whiich has good close/bonding/trusting properties and helps get any issues out in a good/sharing way. P74 and IH/P74 are also very useful for deepening bonds but do need to be used with a more positive romantic/attractive positioning. P96 is also a good bonding/reconnecting/latent attractive product if its back in stock. All of these will combine well with IG or A314 and should have no problems around your wife/Asians in general. You would then add your sexual as secondary when needed. TUTH or NPA would be fin e here as there is good social/status moderation in the rest of the mix.
Initially though, you need to get your primaries sorted and IG or A314 are the way to go here.
Excellent advice. I must say that I recall a couple of months ago when I was always focusing on my gym training, she mentioned that she did seem to miss me about and I could feel her affectionate aura. This was a surprise to me since I have stated before she shows her love to me by doings things. I never really considered that to be an option. Considering I do have kids, I have been strictly trying to spend as much time together as a family which works however I need to sometimes remove myself from our nightly conversations after the kids sleep. As you suggested, not to constantly be away but find something productive to do such as increased studies for my degree or perhaps attend nightly gym sessions. She loves seeing me better myself and creating growth in my career.
I have ordered the ToGo set and will be experimenting with the different combinations. I know she likes The smell of IG and I can sense the difference. I am looking forward to adding IS, IH and IO. I have briefy used those in the past but never focused on the results. I am interested in P74, P96, and NPA Since I have never experimented with these.
I believe naturally she gets a sexual attraction when she perceives me as the “confident successful business man”. In Japan as many of you know, the man who works hard for the family is a very attractive trait, but it seems that a lot of Japanese salary men put their career first and don’t take into consideration their wives which leads to problems. I am looking to balance this relationship. Any feedback on this idea?
Some background information about me. I work in the information technology department for a company. Currently have my Bachelor’s degree and will soon have my MBA. I’m very physically active and constantly aiming for career growth. My downside is the urge to receive the romance that we had before kids. I often show too much emotion at times which is a big turnoff, thus with the help of pheromones and slight change in lifestyle, I believe my wife will show more affection. She seems to get physically close to me if she “misses me” or is very excited about something I planned. That physical connection is what I miss.
