Married Guy Giving It A Try

Field Reports & Anecdotal Experience Men's Journals
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Hello everybody,

I am going to start a new experiment.

I am in my early 30s and live in Michigan. I have been married for almost 14 years, and have a 5 year old daughter.

I Love my wife immensely, but I have not received much in return for my love and in a long time. She hasn’t said “I Love You” more than a handful of times in the past year.

My wife has difficulty opening up and telling me what she wants. She has depression and I think that is part of it.

I am a very dutiful husband and father. Besides being the primary breadwinner (my wife lost her job in May 2009, and now works very part time), I also do the laundry, dishes, most of the cooking, yard work, and take care of putting our daughter to bed and getting her up and on the bus when I do not have to be at work. My wife manages our money (extremely well I might add) and does most of the shopping.

I have two goals:

  1. Getting my wife to open up more mentally and emotionally. I want her to communicate her wants and needs.

  2. I want my wife to touch me more, initiate sex, and be attracted.

I know pheromones are not a “magic bullet”, and nothing on its own will solve all the problems. I have tried “Five Love Languages”, “Divorce Busting” and several other self-help books, and this is something new to try.

My plan is to order Instant Honesty and Turn Up The Heat. I plan on using Instant Honesty first, and see where it goes.

If anyone has ideas, advice, questions, or suggestions, I would appreciate it.

Thanks for listening,
marriedbug

I am trying to put a spark back in our marriage

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If anyone has ideas, advice, questions, or suggestions, I would appreciate it.

check this out, it may help.

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I ordered the Instant Honesty & Turn Up The Heat Today. If things go well, I might try the rest. I will keep you posted.

I plan I trying IO first and follow this plan:

Day 1. 1 spray to hair, Gage your self effects and any seen effects for the day.

Day 2. 1 spray to hair, 1 spray to chest. Gage your results

Day 3. 1 spray to hair, 1 to chest and 1 split to wrists. Gage your results

Day 4. 1 spray to hair, 1 to neck ,1 to chest, 1 split to wrists “”“”“”“”“”"

Day 5. Go back to day 1 or 2 and then reapply half way though the day.

Day 6. go back to day 3 and reapply a half dose of it half way though the day.

Day 7. Look back at your week and try to determine what you sweet spot is for dosage.

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Last night, without any pheromones, my wife initiated sex. I am not sure why, but I had a lot of fun. If I hadn’t been drinking, it might have been even more fun.

Well, today things don’t always go according to plan.

The package arrived today and my wife saw it, and opened it. I have told her not to open things, but she did anyway. CRAP! She wasn’t supporsed to be home today. I wonder how it will affect the experiment. I plan on not mentioning it unless she does.

Well, I came home for lunch and split a spray of IH between my wrists. I was going to do my hair, but it didn’t spray well.

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marriedbug - understood. The first couple sprays may be a bit uneven because it’s being fed up through the tube. it starts spraying smooth as silk after that.

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Well after splitting a spray of IH on my wrists yesterday at lunch, I worked most of the afternoon by myself, so it was probably at waste.

After I made dinner, and got my daughter to bed, I took a bath and re-applied a spray of IH on my wrists. We talked a lot in the evening, but not anymore in quantity or quality than normal.

My wife and I communicate very well about the “business” of a marriage, how to work on household project, what we need to get done, managing money, etc. She does not communicate about her desires, her deep thoughts, her ambitions. I was hoping IH would help that.

Today I am putting a spray of IH in my hair. I am presenting to a group of about 50 people today, lets see how it works out.

Thanks for listening,
marriedbuy

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[quote=marriedbug;317359My wife and I communicate very well about the “business” of a marriage, how to work on household project, what we need to get done, managing money, etc. She does not communicate about her desires, her deep thoughts, her ambitions. I was IH would help that]

that’s nice to hear.:slight_smile:

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Day 2

I tried a spray of IH to my hair in the morning, then went to work where I was presenting with a group of about 50. I didn’t notice any difference in the level of conversation. Maybe it is because people are fairly open with me already.

I am going to keep trying things for a week though with different dosages and spots to spray. Hey, there is a double money back guarantee, so what have I got to lose. I am thinking that if I don’t notice a difference with IH, I might return it and get the A314 instead. Does anyone have any ideas of how long I should give it a try?

When I got home from work, I added another spray to my hair. I did not notice any difference in the level of conversation with my wife. We still talked, but nothing more than usual.

If anyone has any ideas for better results, let me know.

-marriedbug

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This post might help: How to find your sweet spot…

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When I got home from work, I added another spray to my hair. I did not notice any difference in the level of conversation with my wife. We still talked, but nothing more than usual.

Its normal to be doubtful, there’s been people before who didn’t notice anything, just keep a open mind and give them a chance to work for you. As you might have heard this before; a person’s spouse/significant other already knows their (your) natural pheromone signature and sometimes it takes a few exposures to get the full effect going. It may take some time at first.

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For the past few days I have been doing a double spray to the chest in the morning, sometimes followed up by a spray in the evening. I can’t say I have seen any noticeable difference. I think I am going to try a few days off and then bring it back.

Like I said before, the quantity of our conversation is good, I just want to improve the quality.

Thanks all,
marriedbug