Hey glad you found out part of the problem, keep in mind her being on the pill could effect your libido as well. Women who are on BC stop making copulins and copulins are what triggers mens sexual reaction amoung other things of course.
I suggest you get TUTH for yourself and get Isexiness A for her but have it customized with 5X the copulins. I would get it in grapefruit scent but that is up to you LOL
The Isexiness A will up her confidence, make her feel sexy and turn you on.
The TUTH will make you more aggressive and make her more aroused.
You dont need to worry to much around your kids they already have a set impression of you unless they are infants. Just dont wear TUTH around kids who are not familar with you cause it can aggitate them.
Tisha