I am going to meet my girlfriend this weekend after few months. Last time we were together, she complained that she doesn’t get same physical feelings with me as her ex. Some of it might be due to me being a real nice guy, always putting her before me that she takes me for granted. She always tell me that i make her feel special. Are there any tricks to make a girl physically attracted to me? BTW, I purchased, AMMO, TUTH, IS and IJ after she went away, so this weekend i will be using these for the first time!! Let me know guys, what you think!! Thanks for all the views and help ![]()
You provided the answer yourself. Witness the truth: you’ve killed all attraction from the start, hence her response. No mones will change that unless you change your game and it will be an uphill struggle here as she’s already caged you. Not all lost but you need to shift your attitude 180 degrees. No tricks, just pack your shit together and stop being a girlfriend for her. Be a man.
Never put anyone above yourself or before you. You have value and shit to bring to the table make the girl know you mean business. For example if you are texting and you go to sleep and text I am going to bed and she says some shit like "
ok sleep good." Leave it at that and go to bed. This way she is the one waiting to check her phone and is missing you. This can get her addicted to you.
You guys are right!! Its just that its my first relationship ever, so i just didn’t know that then. Can you guys give me more insight?? Thank you very much for the replies ![]()
Yah don’t put in more then she does into your relationship. How is your text game my man? I am a strong believer in the power of text. I have had girls wanting me to drive to their house at 3 in the morniing because they wanted me to… You get the picture. But with text you have advantages that you don’t have in face to face conversations. In face to face conversations you have to be more whitty and charming quicker,but with text you have time to think about what you will say and the ability to have more depth to your replies. You know when you are waiting for that text to come after you have sent a text to the girl? That is a terrible feeling having to wait for that. You can do the samething to her by not responding right away. This builds anticipation and puts the ball in your court. Now don’t be a dick about it and take like an hour to reply but when you get the text from her, set your phone down and think or do something for 5-25min max. Take a shit, watch tv or what ever it is you are going to do then come back to your phone and then reply. Sorry for the rambling. But in short make sure you are the one who makes her wanting to talk to you and gets excited when she gets your text instead of the other way around.
Nothing wrong with wanting a woman, the problem comes when you NEED the woman. Need makes you look weak, clingy and desperate.
The real difference between the two comes from you having a strong core identity. What that means is this…When you know who you are, what you like and don’t like, and what you want from life, you approach a relationship from the perspective of “how does this woman fit into my life?, and should I stay with her?”
When you have a weak identity this is when everything is “fine” or “okay” or “I guess so” and you don’t have clearly defined likes and dislikes and goals in life other than having a woman’s company, the question of how does she fit into your life isn’t there because you and your life are so vague that anyone could fit and if they didn’t, nothing is so important to you that you wouldn’t change in order to keep the girl. The question then goes from “How does this girl fit into my life?” to “How can I change my life to fit around this girl?”
And contrary to what teen romance movies and sappy love songs may tell you, no woman deep down wants to be the center of a mans life, it’s too much pressure and is unfair to her.
If you WANT to keep her, but don’t NEED to keep her then really you need to start defining yourself and your life. Think of an activity or hobby that you like and find something that you can do and enjoy when totally alone (masturbation doesn’t count..I know..sucks) hang more with your circle of guy friends, if you don’t have any guy friends, go get some. But here’s a good one. Sit down and make a list of what you like and don’t like, what kind of treatment do you expect and what things would be deal breakers that are non negotioable? Does she fit in? does being with her enhance various aspects of your life or conflict with them and hinder them?
An example would be this…say you’re into fitness and working out. It’s something you enjoy and do regularly. A woman that enhances that aspect of your life would be one that might enjoy going to the gym with you, or is into a healthy diet too so you wouldn’t be going out and eating fast food that conflicts with your goals simply to be with her…at the very least she’d be accepting that this is just part of who you are and won’t give you a hard time for spending time at the gym instead of with her.
You may find women that will shit test you on that, they’ll complain about activities that take up your time and keep you busy when she wants attention…it’s to see if you’re boundaries are strong…have strong boundaries.
The goal here is to work on you, when you start measuring (to yourself, don’t tell her that’s what you’re doing) and deciding on how she fits in your life, supports your goals and treats you with the respect that you expect and deserve then she’s going to feel that on a subtle and subconscious level and it will show her you’re a man with solid boundaries, a clear identity, and limits to what he will and will not tolerate in terms of behavior from her. Then the physical attraction will increase because you’ll seem more masculine and more of a man to her.
Good advice everyone!! I will certainly change few things abt me..