Hi There
Well I think TUTH is coming on to strong for your intentions. Your better off using this one when you do want a one nighter. Your around 35 and I am assuming your looking for a women in the age range of 28 to 35 so IJ would not be a good choice. By the time a women gets to that age range they are tired of all the “jerks” out there.
AMMO is a perfect choice. Its the perfect combo of mature sexy interesting male.
Ishine which you have mentioned you like is really great to give you that charismatic warmth and youthfulness. Get more of that one.
AMMO and Ishine go excellent together to.
Your outgoing but make your move at a respectful speed and want to stay out of the friend zone.
How much IH did you use when you tried it ? I am thinking you didnt use enough. I can easily use at least 5 to 6 sprays of the regular strength in this one. I buy it in 4X so I only need to use 2 sprays which turns out to be 8 sprays of regular strength. When you hit the right dosage you know it. People really connect and start to open up on a much more personal level.
MX274 is more of a female mix IMO although men can use it. This would push you into the friend zone more so skip that one for now.
Molecule C or TAC is very laid back. If your already pretty laid back I would skip this one or always layer it with something more intriguing like Ammo or Ishine.
A314 is great for work but women love the alpha male and since your outgoing and flirtatious I am thinking you would be able to pull this one off very well. If you want it in to-go spray to try out try MX347
My other suggestions would be P83. Of course it works different for everyone but from the testing I have done with it and the info I have compiled from here and other forums the majority of men really like this one. It helps break down inhibitions and also makes people more expressive with body language. You will see more IOI’s from women. (its sort of hard to describe) They will move about you in more of a sensual manner because it makes them feel more sensual which definitely will keep you out of the “just friends” box and put you in the “interested” box.
Now other advice on the friend zone. You mentioned your outgoing and can blatantly flirt at times. Flirting is a art. You can flirt in a joking manner and get stuck in the friends box. The trick is to flirt in a manner that leaves them questioning if your serious or not creating sexual tension. You do this by using body language while your flirting. I suggest you look up some of the free body language sites on line to pick up some tips. We dont only communicate verbally and pheromonally. We communicate with our bodies as well.
So suppose your flirting with a girl and your not making direct eye contact or your laughing and just being overly smiley. It comes off as your just kidding around. It can be attractive but doesn’t give you that edge to keep you out of the friends box. But if you tone that smile down to a grin, make direct eye contact when you say something flirtatious and sort of subtlety lean in towards them when your speaking it creates sexual tension. Believe me it works.
You dont want to come off as to interested either so keep that in check. Women will be looking for your weaknesses. If you seem like a push over they will chew you up and spit you out. We like a little chase as well. Guys who are push over automatically go in the friend box. I am not a big advocate of PUA’s but there is some techniques they use that help with this. Look up info on the neg hit. This is not a insult. Its a way to maintain your own value and keep them off balance. Makes them curious and work for your attention a little more.
I will give you a example but you will have to make up your own when the time comes…
Hey thats a pretty shirt… It would look good in blue.
You have really nice hair… you should grow it longer.
Those are nice shoes… they make your feet look small.
LOL I like that last one, someone used it on me just the other day.
Anywho…
Attraction is sort of like fishing. You drop some bait and dangle it and right when that fish looks a little interested you pull it away a little and let it float back towards them again. You do this over and over for a little while and when they finally do bite you know they wont spit the bait right out but be hooked 
Tisha