Hello ZMaiden, welcome to the forum!! Good luck on your life improvement plan, it sounds like you’re going for big things and I have no doubt you’ll succeed.
Confidence and attraction, hmm? Sounds like you need Instant Sexiness. However you’ll need to see which version fits for you (A: Angelina Jolie vibe, B: Marilyn Monroe vibe). To do this, I’d recommend trying the To Go size before you commit to a full version.
I also love Instant Shine and combining both (spraying one then the other) gives me the sexy bullet-proof feeling.
By the way, you might want to check out these threads:
There’s invaluable advice on pheros, which do work.
And as for non pheroadvice, I’ve asked and received really good advice. Others have too so yes. We’re here to research but also help each other grow as people.