Its not that your needy, its not that neither of you can commit, its not that you dont love each other.
As often happens of young people ranging between around ages 16 though 23 your in different places in your life paths right now. That is what is causing the feeling of unsettledness, disconnect and uncommitment. That age range is the “age of discovery” Its when your deciding who it is you want to be and what it is you really want.
Think back to the beginning of college for you. How you felt. Actually you posted a lot and I remember. You were discovering and wanting to experience life. Click on your profile button and then on all threads started by lakerman since you were 17 and take a look at your journey though college. Hers is just beginning and yours is at a close. You have grown.
Your going to want different things right now. People tend to think well “all you need is love” That’s a misconception in a way because when people think of love they just think it means you want all the same things and life experiences.
People throw the word around thinking it has some magical meaning and will solve everything in a relationship. It wont. Its not the word that has meaning its the actions behind the word.
Love is many things. Its patient, kind, forgiving, respectful, unselfish etc etc… its a whole bunch emotions mixed up to make one feeling.
Love is a gift that is given to another without expecting anything in return.
So to the original question of “Is it time to break up”
That depends on whether your willing to stick around while she makes that journey you already made. Do you have the patience, the kindness, the respect enough to let her take her journey knowing full well she may fuck up and piss you off at times ? That’s why you haven’t reciprocated her feelings. Its not that you don’t love her its because you know your not in the same place right now therefore you know she will do things your not exactly happy with sometimes. Eventually she will catch up and things will smooth out but that patience may hold you back a little on your path and cause some turbulence.
Only you can decide if what you feel for her is strong enough to ride it out and see if the path she decides to take leads to you.
Pheromones cant really fix this.
Tisha
This wasn’t directed at me… Tisha gave this advice to someone in a different thread… but I had to repost it because it applies so well and I don’t want to lose it.
Thank you again Tisha.