Samalams Journal

Field Reports & Anecdotal Experience Women's Journals
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Well, it looks like LAM is the one that does the trick with your husband. I’m glad you are making progress! :wink:

Regarding the EO, it was an experiment without too much science or precision in it.
Once I made a TO GO bottle half full with P74 and completed the other half with the Jasmin oil. I used for a few days over summer with great results. Don’t forget to shake the bottle a bit before you spray it.
The other day I applied the oil directly on my skin, waited for it to dry and then sprayed the Phero on top. The results were ok, but not as good as the bottle mix. Unfortunately I cannot say if what made the difference was the technique or the temperature. Or maybe both.

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Tuesday

11:00 a.m. after shower
MX135 2 x spray to each side of neck
ISa 1 x spray to each wrist

Self effects - feeling fine and happy - but I’m feeling this after last nights success with DH’s mobile bits despite my frustrated ending :slight_smile:

Went down to DH in the kitchen and he is his usual lovable / loving self, hug and kiss. Nothing out of the ordinary. Went back to my office and will work there for the day so won’t see much of him although he’ll be about the house all day.

16:00 p.m.
LAM 2 x drops applied between temples and neck
DH is out and I thought I would apply this to see if there are any self-effects and also to let it settle on me for the whole evening - not expecting any action from it as we had our action last night and generally it’s a once weekly affair, but the hopes are to increase this so may as well start him getting used to the new signature in preparation for his ramp up that I am trying to generate. May put another drop or two on later and also a spray of ISa to my hair as this is a good testing week as DH doesn’t have to be up so early for work and not home late either.

20:00 p.m.
Kids in bed.
MX135 x 2 sprays to chest/shoulder area
ISa x 1 spray to top of head
LAM 2 x drops to neck and dabbed on wrist

No reaction from DH for the evening, we were both in happy moods. Went to bed at around 11:00 - decided to dab some LAM across my forehead right along the brow line as this is the part of me that is closest to DH’s nose in bed, DH followed about 20 mins later and we cuddled up with my head at/under his chin as usual, he deep breathes in bed and through his nose so was hoping he was getting whiffs, cuddled until he fell asleep…sigh…

Wednesday Plan
Am going to mix the last of my IO and IH together with some IShine and add a drop or two of cops and wear throughout the day - for myself. Later after the children are in bed I will only then spray on my MX135, ISa and dab on some LAM and EoW to see if wearing it later in the evening only will have an effect - think I may spray the MX135 to my face also as he always comments when I have a new face cream as he can smell it. Also going to mix up a batch of IShine and A314 for DH to wear as his daily spray for his own benefits.

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Wednesday

Made my mixes - using approximate ml’s from 12.5 mg bottles

DH Mix
2 ml A314
2 ml IShine

My Mix
1 ml IO
1 ml IH
3 ml IShine
2 x drops EoW
5 x drops LAM
1 x drop Jasmine EO

9:00 a.m.
Squirted DH with 2 sprays DHMix to neck and off he went to work

Showered
2 x MyMix to neck
2 x MyMix to wrists, smeared up the lower arm somewhat
1 x MyMix to chest.

Feeling fine, with Ishine I feel like there is always a smile bubbling at the back of my head, sometimes I feel like I am actually smiling and realize I’m not. I love IShine and plan to use it daily as a spray, even if nothing else works for me/dh.

15:00 p.m.
Went with my daughter to see horse we might get for her. She chatted non-stop all the way there in the car but this isn’t unusual as she talks constantly. At the yard the horse man was very friendly which is to be expected, haven’t met him before so can’t say if he’s usually a friendly person, the yard dogs were friendly too :slight_smile:

17:00
1 x spray MyMix to neck
Mother came around so I squirted 1 spray to neck before going down to her, she stayed for around 1.5 hours (normal) and we had a good chat. I do feel her mood was more upbeat but mine definitely was, I’ve been very upbeat and happy all day.

19:00
DH home. We had a nice happy, uneventful, evening. He was very chatty! The IO content in my mix definitely works on him, he was also laughing more and louder at things - it was quite animated for him.

I asked for his report on how he felt post his sprays this morning, said he was good, maybe calm for the day - so I’ve explained to him the importance of trying to notice his moods and reporting back to me so I can carry out my experiment properly - he just laughed :slight_smile: He thinks he’s is just wearing IShine so doesn’t know about the A314 mixed in. I wish the LAM, Isexi stuff would work as well on him as the IO and IShine!

Decided against spraying MX135 on my face after I washed off the days makeup.

23:00
1 x spray MyMix to each shoulder.
Went to bed - DH came up about 10 minutes later. Cuddled for a while, but I started to feel quite put out that there was no response from him so I moved away and was in a pretty unhappy mood despite my very happy mood during the day, nighttime in bed usually destroys any good mood I’m in after a while as nothing happens night after night.

He could sense it and kept his hand on my leg, normally he falls asleep pretty easily (too easily) when we are cuddled up, but he continued to be restless as I wasn’t in his arms, still didn’t spur him to make any overtures - damn that man, I get so many sleepless nights lying there beside him with my mind in overdrive about all of this.

This morning he was silent but attentive whilst we all got ready for work and school, he knows what’s wrong, he always does. Had a big long hug in the middle of preparations, this is what he does, it’s like his way of apologizing. didn’t spray him with his mix as he didn’t deserve it :slight_smile:

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I am wondering if you wear a combo of IShine/IH or IShine/B-Nol what you would get out of him? I think you should ask him why he is not intimate with you and what is wrong. I know this part is hard as I do the same with my wife and I never get an answer from her and she always shys away from my direct questions and at times it does create a fight no matter what phero combo I have tried.

You are not alone, but I would at least try and voice your concerns and what you 2 can do to come up with something to help with this.

So you said nothing has worked as supplements at all? I take a lot of supplements and my drive is a lot higher than my wifes and I have got her stuff to take, but she always forgets to take it and it is frustrating LOL.

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I’m going to try the -nol as a standalone for a few day when I receive it and then mix it up with others to see how he reacts.

I’ve spoken with him many times, the problem is I usually do the speaking with him when I have reached crisis point (emotionally) in my head and it turns into a hugh fight between us (Leo and Taurus fights are massive), when I get into a high emotional state I’m not afraid to say what’s on my mind so I’ve been really really honest, but in the heat of an argument, it doesn’t seem to make any difference - I’m baffled.

I am planning on using IO/IH the next time (if) I get into this emotional state again (usually once a month and no not at that time) to help me and him to remain calm and hopefully more open and honest about it all - I think he needs IH to help him to open up when I ask him and tell me what is really going through his mind, I ask the questions and when we have both calmed down we can talk easier but the answers aren’t really answers, just keeps telling me how much he loves me.. sigh…

I remember once a few years ago he was upset one morning when we got up. I asked him what was wrong and he said he was upset because the night before when we went to bed I had fallen asleep very quickly and we didn’t make love, this was when we used to - every freaking night! He said he missed it and he loves going to bed, making love and falling asleep, it’s what we do and he felt sad that we hadn’t - I felt so guilty and completely made up for it that night, now I can’t believe that he does this every night to me! I’ve reminded him of that instance and he remembered and agreed he could recall how he felt about it - but still nothing changed, the reminder was about 2 years ago.

The thing is I suppose, he probably doesn’t feel like he isn’t being “intimate” as he is a very touchy feely person so we hug, kiss, squeeze, rub and touch a lot, and I think that, along with the once weekly sex night, is enough for him now, he is 48 :slight_smile:

To be honest, I could probably have sex with him more often if I was to initiate it every time, I’ve no doubt he will respond and he’s told me he would, but if I initiate then he is happy to go a week until he initiates it, so this means if I initiate then want it again say 2 days later I will have to initiate again, and so on… and then he will never do so - but then I wonder if I just keep on initiating will he get used to having more sex and being to look for it every few days - I’m not sure, from a mans perspective, it the old saying “the more you get the more you want true”? So could I perhaps increase his libido by making him have more sex :slight_smile:

The supplements definitely help him in that when he is on the correct ones he is likely to not lose his erection, whereas when I didn’t get them for a while the problem resurfaced.

Does your wife use phero’s? I thought I read in your journal that she does, do they help her somewhat? I find they are increasing my sex drive which didn’t need it at all - which is another problem of course!!

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Thursday
10:30 a.m
1 x spray IShine to neck

For self effects only to help shake off the feelings of resentment towards DH, though he doesn’t deserve to have a happy wife to come home to :frowning:

11:20 a.m.
Have to log self effects from IShine - building slowly, am feeling like I want to do something or something is exciting is about to happen, this phero’s makes me feel very happy, bubbly, excited, positive, expectant - all good

IShine effects probably wore off by 4:00 p.m. - Mother came around and I was a bit irritated as I’d had enough chat with her for the week, she tends to come around every day even when I’m working!

18:30
2 x drops LAM to neck (r / l side)
2 x drps LAM to back of neck

19:00 p.m.
2 x spray MyMix to Neck
1 x spray MyMix split between wrists.

DH came home, with “the look” in his eyes - it’s the look that says:

please please be happy, subconsciously I know what’s wrong but I won’t admit it to myself and if you let me I will just hug and kiss it all away?

he’s so flipping lovely…

So we had a long long long hug. MyMix was working by then as I was back into a happy happy mood and had forgiven him (albeit silently).

I decided not to be freaking out about the whole thing, just have a nice evening, if the phero’s work tonight then good but if not I can just enjoy the big bear hugs I get in bed ? and that’s exactly what happened :slight_smile: DH was chatty again during the evening so he is reacting to the IO, IShine, IH mix anyway.

I’m going to keep going and hoping I will hit on the formula that works with him along with my improved mood it just may happen!!

Have read a lot again today and am feeling a bit better that it may take a while for him to get used to the ?New? me. My new order with the putative’s is being shipped so that should arrive middle of next week and I will slowly test each one out on him, and also get him to start using his A314 / IShine mix properly along with some TUTH I’ve ordered when it arrives, to help him start feeling like THE MAN again.

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Friday

Woke up very happy this morning, DH had cuddled on and off in his sleep all night, he’s the best cuddler. I was awake much earlier than him so had a nice time rubbing his morning wood which was nicely erect ? it didn’t wake him up of course - nothing would - but I’m sure he was feeling happier in his sleep ? ha! He was in a very good mood while we were all getting ready for the day.

Not going to use anything today, will wait until DH is coming home to begin my dotting and spraying routine. I’m thinking I may add some extra IO this evening and start a deep conversation?

18:00 p.m.
2 x drops EoW to neck
2 x drops EoW to back of neck
2 x drops EoW to each wrist

Will cover with phero’s before Dh get’s home.

19:00 p.m.
2 x spray MyMix
2 x spray IH to back of neck

Is it strange that I really like the smell of EoW?

Had a lovely evening with DH, we went out for dinner as we usually do on Friday evenings, then home to watch a film and drink wine, had a nice chatty happy night. Went to bed at around 11:00 p.m. and I suggested we had some lovin, slight hesitation on his part then he got into it, we had a good time, nothing mind blowing.

Afterwards I asked him did he ever miss they way we used to be, frequency of sex etc., while we didn’t get into one of our usual loud fights when this subject is brought up we did argue. He states he’s happy with the way things are now and doesn’t look to the past, said he was healthier and fitter in those days. We weren’t very happy going to sleep. Anyway, onwards and upwards, Saturday wasn’t an overly happy day.

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Saturday
Decided to start testing solo MX135

2 x Spray MX135 to neck
1 x Spray MX135 between wrists

After about 20 minutes began to feel happy and positive again. DH appeared to get into a better mood also.

Is there copulins in this product? I notice when I use copulins I get twinges in my utuerus ? like period pains, last for about 20 minutes and then pass? hmmm?

Saturday evening was pleasant, not much chat, but I think we were both still affected by the previous nights discussion. Went to bed about 12:00 and feel asleep before dh came up.

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Sunday

11:30 a.m.

2 x spray MX135 to neck
1 x spray ISb to wrist (split)

Ho hum sort of day, DH, Kids and myself in good moods. Took my son shopping with DH for an hour or so, we were quite happy at that point.

Notable effects:

Does this mix promote protectionism? DH is normally not very ?alert / reactive? when driving, as in he wouldn’t immediately see brake lights being applied by the vehicle ahead of him, or seems to react slowly if a vehicle approaches a junction that he is heading for and it seems like it may not stop! I’m normally a bit on edge driving with him ? he tends to go off into his own world, is always getting lost :slight_smile:

However today after a while I noticed a difference. He seemed to keep his distance from cars in front of us and notably, when approaching a junction where another car was coming to a stop or yield sign he noticeably slowed down and even moved over in the road a bit as if trying to avoid a collision. His driving can only be described as ?protective? as if he was carrying precious cargo??? If so I am liking MX135.

19:00

Watched films with DH on couch, I asked him to sniff my wrist ? he could smell the ISb, this is the only one he has said he could smell. And liked it!!

20:30

1 x spray ISb to back of DH’s neck ? just to see if there were any affects.

Had a nice evening watching TV, no noticeable reaction from DH to his ISb test. Went to bed, fell asleep in each others arms.

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Monday

I was due to go to a meeting so decided to test MX135 in a work situation

9:00 a.m.
2 x spray MX135 to neck and wiped with wrists

9:30 a.m.
Meeting was cancelled - damn wasted MX135 - anyway it has put me in a nice happy mood. Waiting for the courier to arrive with my new order - can’t wait as I need to use my ordered TAF to help me get back into work mode…

14:15
Sigh, no sign of the courier, they are usually here by 10:30

18:00
Dh came home, told me about his day which was full of incidents so I asked him had he sprayed his mix before going to work this morning and how he felt. He said yes, must be working, he felt fine about the incidents, calm and in control. So thumbs up from DH - he’ll let me test anything on him now :slight_smile:

20:00
1 x drop EoW to each temple. Just to keep DH’s nose full of Cops :slight_smile:
1 x drop EoW to back of dh’s neck, as a test :slight_smile:
Can still smell the MX135 from this morning on my wrists

Watched television for a while, DH usual touchy feely self. Went to bed for an early night as he had to be up very early next morning. He fell asleep pretty quickly as did I.

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Tuesday

Courier arrived!

1 x Spray TAF to neck
Results later…

Update
Well this seemed to help things. Threw myself into a specific job that I have been avoiding for nearly 2 weeks now, have tried to get to it but found every reason under the sun to abandon the job once I tried to start it. Now I’m working away quite happily :slight_smile:

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I can’t wait on this TAF for a full report!

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So after using TAF yesterday and being quite productive during work I took my daughter to view a horse while DH stayed at home with my son - he suggested we go out for dinner when I got back at around 6:00 p.m. so I added an additional 2 x spray IShine to my neck.

When we got home and kids were in bed I added:

2 x spray ISb to each side of neck (have run out now)
1 x drop EoW spread down each temple area
1 x drop EoW spread across forehead, this is where DH’s nose usually rests in bed.

I added the above with no expectations - just wanting to keep the smell of couplins around DH :slight_smile:

Surprise, went to bed and DH was in a sexy mood - so rather than a week between bouts this was 4 days. If I’d thought that was going to happen I would have used TAC as I’ve heard about it’s magical responses! It was all good so happy out - did the earlier TAF application have anything to do with his unexpected friskiness or perhaps it was because it was Valentines day :slight_smile: I’ve read TAF can enhance the properties of other pheromones so maybe the early spray during the day enhanced the effects of the ISb and cops hmmmmm…

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Wednesday
9:00 a.m
2 x spray TAF to neck

Had telephone meeting at 9:30, went ok. Finished up on the meeting at around 10:15 and added an additional spray of IShine to neck.

Not feeling as focused, can’t really concentrate on the work I need to do. Needed to use the bathroom and found that I really really wanted to clean the bathroom - oh dear, I want to work not clean… so is 1 spray good for me for work, 2 sprays good for cleaning!

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Why can I no longer get into the Putative Pheromones forum. I was happily browsing and learning in there last week and now it’s looking for a password? It was helpful for me to understand the underlying point of each putative so I can begin learning how to mix them and what affects they might have on each other. This is quite annoying!

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It looks like your husband started adapting to your new signature, as he seems to respond better to the pheros everyday.

How many MCG/spray do you have on your TAF?

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I chose the 12.5mg strength when I ordered so I presume that how much mcg I get per spray? Is that correct?

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I asked DH to bring me up the cleaning supplies at around 4p.m. yesterday as I really really felt the need to clean the bathroom (this despite the cleaner having been here the day before!). So he did, and then proceeded to spend nearly an hour cleaning it himself, scrubbed the floor with white spirits - we couldn’t sleep last night for the smell of spirits in the bedroom :slight_smile: So TAF must have affected him to - although he is a great cleaner!

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Ok, so you had in total 25 MCG.. that’s indeed a lot of TAF. No wonder you got the cleaning mood :smiley:

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HA! So I don’t particularly want that to happen again, not while I’m supposed to be working. I sprayed only 1 spray this morning and I am working away (at my Job!) quite happily. So 1 spray it is, or 2 if I want DH to clean again :smiley: