It seems that you are in fact projecting the high-status vibe. I think you have the dose about right. Adding 1 spray of A314 B over a drop of the oil is said to increase the attraction-status properties, or try 1 spray IG to take it a bit more friendly/charismatic direction. I think you are struggling to carry the status correctly, and she will hate you for that. Do not give up your power by becoming transparent in your goals and desires. The more you speak honestly, the less powerful you appear. When you tell her transparently that you desire her, she sees in this transparency that you have lost control, and hence will no longer want to posses you - seduction is dissolved, she will feel used and seek to spite you due to the burden of gratitude she feels is now expected of her. Instead, send confusing and mixed signals. Throw her off the scent, so she can not calculate your trajectory. In particular, don’t expect people to like you or be your friend, and do not employ people who befriend you. It is natural to be irritated and annoyed with someone who projects higher status. Someone who seems, smarter, wealthier, or classier than us is not a friend. This will make us feel insecure, and we want to spite you. Unless you can find a way to let us posses you by way of utilizing what skills and labor we have which you find useful, and when we do so you reward us with symbolic gestures that make us feel more secure by way of affirmation of the status they have given us. So pretend I’m the girl for a minute (roll-playing here), nayyar.6 … in your relationship with me, what skill of mine makes me useful to you, such that we can negotiate a contract by which you employ me to some useful end? (make something up, it is all a distraction). You must have clear enemies, so I know what you stand for. How can you elevate MY status? Due to your status, do not expect friendly feelings from me, but rather see that as someone who does not expect anything from you, I have more to offer you - free as I am from the burden of expectations of gratitude towards you. Expect bluntness and honesty on my part, and from that honesty I loose my power to you. I am an open book, yet I can not know where you are leading me. You gain power by being unpredictable and impossible to read; from controlling what you say such that you do not reveal your true feelings or intentions. This leaves me with the impression that you are in control, and I am being guided. If you can not control what you say, if you can not control the expressions on your face, than I will feel you have lost control. What honesty you profess to offer is a distraction from what you are really seeking. The woman wants to be guided by a higher power - one who’s true intentions can not be known. This is the one she will seek to posses, the one she can not control, who plans strategies behind an opaque screen. Women have contempt for transparent, predictable men - and women are far better at reading faces, tone of voice, and intentions than men are. The harder you are to read, the harder she will try to posses you. The best smokescreen is a bland one, plain and boring, everyday, giving away nothing. What you do give away is a distraction, which leads her to many errors in judgement, making it harder to predict which way she will be led. And as she enjoys being guided, so long as you do not reveal your true feelings and goals, she will remain seduced. Lift the smokescreen, and she will feel used, the door closes. Pick an enemy you know you can defeat; a battle you know you can win. The best enemy is a friend who is weak, and who acts agreeable for the sake of getting along as friends… these are the ones who have contempt you more and more, the harder you try to appease them - employing them because they are your friends, rather than because of what they have to offer you, this is the mistake. Those who a woman feels the burden of gratitude towards, if they hold any weakness in the form of transparency and predictability, those are the ones you may declare your mutual enemies, and whom she will may find contempt for. Employ those who are blunt about your flaws, who do not seek to appease you out of friendship. It is an insult to project a status higher than mine, unless you can seductively employ me against an enemy of mutual insult. Then, you become an asset I must posses, so long as I can not transparently predict your moves, but we can predict the moves of those who burden us. People are far more likely to repay an injury than a benefit - because gratitude is a burden, and revenge a pleasure. What she does for you, she does it out of revenge for the burdens placed on her by so-called friends.