My two cents. We raise a man’s self esteem because we want to be liked. We flake on you because we’re involved/in love with someone else.
OR because we he’s a only there for ahem. If it’s only for ahem, you’re not on the priority list. There is more to a woman’s desires than her libido.
Once, I had to break free from this massive chemistry bond with someone else. Met someone new. He WAS cute so I was honest about it. Then he acted like he wanted me badly. That spells desperation. It did not make me less in love with the other or more in love with him.
Massive Chemistry Bond = Trouble = Oh no my body is taking over = I need to step back to see if there is more to this.
If only chemistry and I fall for him, I may get hurt. <looks at guys dating history/reputation> If you have a sorry reputation she will hurt you first to prevent herself getting played. That come forms of avoiding you or messing with your mind or filling her schedule with other men.
If she genuinely likes you and feels safe with you, she won’t play those kinds of games with you. If it’s missing one…your on the gaming list. We don’t even know we do this to tell you the truth.