This is an edited version of a post I made in reply to someone that was introverted and needed a little help breaking out of their shell. It’s a little about my own journey into becoming who I am now. I am putting this here because I have read a number of threads lately regarding users with low self esteem and confidence. It has been edited to include pertinent pheromones to help with certain problems (the instant pheromones are the only ones mentioned because I assume the advanced users using MXs and Putatives don’t need this advice). To the OP of the thread this was a response to, your name was removed to ensure your privacy, but if you want me to delete this thread, please just let me know.
Good move. You need to personify what you want the pheromones to project. This statement tells me you realize that you make the pheromones and that the pheromones don’t make you. This is something that takes a lot of people (and even me) a long time and a lot of “no hits dude WTF?” to understand.
A314 has amazing effects with increasing self confidence. However, while particular pheromones may improve your confidence, if you lack confidence prior to using pheromones, you will not be getting the most out of them. You need to feel great about yourself before pheromones can help make others realize just how great you are.
I was the same exact way. I kept to myself in high school. I had a few close friends, but didn’t really talk to anyone else and I was just very introverted. My senior year I loosened up a bit, but didn’t really come out of my shell and become the guy I am now until about freshman year of undergrad. Through mutual friends, I met a friend that I’m now close enough to that I think of him like a brother. Hanging out with him completely changed me. Whenever we went out he would just go up to and talk to random girls all the time. He rarely hesitated to do it too. Having to be a wingman pruned my social skills with women A LOT. I now find myself helping out some friends the same way that my friend helped me.
I have to say though, that my biggest turning point was when I realized all on my own that I really don’t give a F! 
I honestly can’t remember what brought about this change in me, but it changed everything for me. I stopped caring about what people thought of me and did things because I wanted to and because I liked it. I also stopped caring what girls thought of me. If I hit on a girl and she denied me, then I just thought screw it, there are tons of other girls that would be into me, and I would find them.
For me, A314 paired with TUTH helps accentuate this feeling of “screw it”. This combo makes me feel invincible and I have noticed that it is very easy for me to go from one girl to the next at a bar/club regardless of whether or not I get rejected. Do make sure to buffer this though. Any of the socials should do it (IO, IH, CTTM).
I’m not saying the PUA stuff doesn’t work, but I’ve never been very fond of it. Some of it just seems outrageous and over the top. I reccommend nothing more than having confidence in yourself. Any girl will tell you that is the sexiest thing in a man - pure confidence (not cockiness). This is just something that will come to you with time.
Naw dude, you’re fine. You’re in college, you can meet more people in 1 day than most will meet in a lifetime. You just have to put yourself out there. Easier said than done, I know. Something that I started doing in undergrad that helped me out tremendously was that I started smiling at every girl that walked past me. Didn’t matter if they were 4s or 10s. I would smile at all of them. The hot ones would sometimes get a “What’s up” while walking past them. Doing this really boosted my confidence because it displayed my confidence to women and they responded very well to it. I always had girls starting conversations with me because of this. Again, they don’t have to be hot. Even the decent looking girls were good to practice flirting and basic conversational skills with women.
By “4s” and “decent” I am referring to girls that you may not necessarily find physically attractive. Even talking to more guys will help increase social skills. If you want a little boost in comfort, try some IH. I’ve found that it mellows me out and tends to make girls more comfortable and relaxed around you.
Lol, this is why they are on the dancefloor. Either to dance with their friends or to dance with a guy. My brother makes fun of me because he knows I like dancing at clubs and says it’s “homo” for a guy to dance. I tell him “what’s homo about grinding on a girl’s ass and dancing so good that her friends grab you to do the same with them?” 
. But yeah, don’t feel weird, and even more important, don’t feel bad when you get turned down. I say “when” and not “if” because you will get turned down, we ALL do. It’s all just a numbers game really, especially at a bar/club. Don’t let one, two, or even 10 rejections make you feel bad and make you stop trying. There have been times when I got shot down like 4 or 5 times in a row by different girls, only to end up with the hottest girl in the club by the end of the night.
If you are finding that you have a hard time starting conversations, and use “this place is too loud!” as an excuse, then look into IO. Give yourself a few sprays right on the chin. You may find this helps you get over social anxiety and have you more willing to go out and talk to strangers (just don’t get in their van ).
The thing to remember about bars (unless it is a quiet sit-down sports bar kind of place) is that 90% of attraction is based on looks and the way you carry yourself. Don’t walk around looking down, walk with your head up, chest out, and SMILING. If girls see you are having a good time, they will know they can have a good time with you. Nobody likes a sulker 
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Other than what was already mentioned for a slight boost in confidence, Instant Shine might help put that smile on your face. Many people don’t start noticing self effects until 4 or more sprays, so don’t be scared to use more than a few.
You aren’t just cute, you are THE SHIT! Remember this and tell yourself this whenever you start getting disappointed with girls. A little cockiness isn’t bad. I’ve been told by many girls that I’m a little cocky, but they find it sexy as hell because of the confidence that it portrays. Again, a little cocky = okay, a lot of cocky = bad.
Just put yourself out there and talk to everyone! Literally, everyone. Guys, girls, old, young (no jailbait ), everyone. Increasing your general social skills will increase your social skills with women. But just remember you need patience. It took me at least 2 years before totally changing myself into what I am now, and I’m still refining it!
And now that I have pheromones on my side, I’m finding the transformation to be more fun than expected. I was already a confident person before using pheros, but after getting the success I have from some recent mixes (i.e. my Shocker mix) I’ve noticed that I’m even more confident than before. I’ve also noticed it shining through in other places of my life. I’m a medical student and every now and then we are recorded interviewing practice patients, and these interviews are later reviewed in small groups of other students and a doctor. I do NOT use pheros during this interviews, but have consistently been told that I come across as extremely confident, and therefore trustworthy.
I know this post is ridiculously long, and if you made it this far, congrats you’re a year older than before you started reading it . I just hope a few of my personal experiences help out some of the guys out there that have confidence issues.
P.S. I’m not a rep whore, please don’t see this as such. It’s just easier to have a thread about this than to keep repeating myself in 50 other threads.