Oh now I officially give up on dating sites!!! I just tweaked my interests and Match.com sent me freaking Scott…really!? Scott!?
LMAO wow what an ordeal I am sorry to hear about this. I actually met my wife from POF and it took at least 100 different dates and probably more to find her.
Scott??? Argh!!! Fricking 'puters!
You know what the saddest part of all was? We had a 91% match, when we had both filled out the whole damn questionnaire! So we have stupid chemistry and match thinks we’re a match! LMAO! My best match I have ever had is the guy I was on there to forget!
He’s not stalking you?
Might be a possibility indeed. Easy to force a perfect match when you know a person very well.
No. He has no need to. He knows I like him, he knows where I live. He just needs to speak up and he could have had me…
I say he does.
You’re a prey, he’s a predator.
I don’t believe it’s all coincidence.
Unfortunately, you are evidently so into him until now. I just wish that he’s genuinely into you too. You deserve to be happy. 
Just wondering, maybe he’s just acting like he’s some ‘Damaged Goods’, a person that’s afraid to commit so as not to get hurt by life again (and so on)?
Any unresolved issues in his past that you know of?
Or maybe he’s treating YOU like some DG for some wrong reasons and he feels like a bull in a china shop around you and he’s afraid to hurt you (see above)? You know, for some macho reasons, some guys will perceive a single mother as something fragile, even though it’s often the opposite. I suppose it comes from our sapiens past.
Pardon my attempt at 2-bucks psychology, but this crossed my mind and I thought I’d share.
I am curious what is wrong with Scott that things are not working and have you tried to get him to open up about things.
I met my wife on POF after at least 100 dates probably more and we still have communication issues. It is weird I am like the women wanting to talk about my feelings and she doesn’t. Is there any communication issues with you 2?
He is obviously not into me, or he’d be here and not on Match.com. It’s kind of weird because he even admitted to me that he liked me, and that he wanted me the first time he ever saw me. We are so obviously attracted to each other that other people can see it. But something must have changed. And I think I know what it is.
We don’t communicate. We never have any kind of real talk, and I think that is because we aren’t a thing. We aren’t in any kind of relationship. He says he doesn’t want something serious, but not a fling, either…
I think that the reason he is on Match and not seeing where this goes is because the sex was not what he was hoping it would be. We have had sex three times, all three times we rushed because we didn’t have a lot of time. The last time was in my hotel and there was a lot of noise in the hall and it was very distracting. If he would give me more than 20 minutes, I’d rock his world. I love sex. I may not have had a lot of partners, but I do have skills. I am not trying to brag, but my ex husband called me the best kept secret in town. He always said if people knew what I was capable of that they’d all want me. Ex Mr Wonderful and I had amazing sex and he, too, said that I was beyond anything he had ever had, that I was always mixing it up, so it never got routine or boring and I was more imaginative than he was.
I think the attraction between us was so strong that he was expecting earth shattering sex, and he gave me three shots at it and didn’t get anything seismic. It was okay, but I am capable of so much more I even told him that after the hotel sex. But I know I am not going to have a chance to prove it. And that is okay. Seeing him on Match made me realize that he is looking for someone better than me. That is his loss. Because even he says I am sexy as hell. I am a catch, for so many reasons. One man’s trash, is another man’s treasure.
Right said .
I have been getting settled in to my new house, slowly…I never seem to have enough free time to get to everything I want to do. It’s been a little crazy, but we will get there.
It has been a time of huge personal growth for me. I came to realize that for the first time, everything I do, I do as just me. I’m not my father’s daughter(he was very well known in town, as was my whole family), my brother’s sister, someone’s wife, etc. Yes, I am still my kids mom, and that is mostly good(teenage daughter…). But I have really kind of come into my own. I have picked out things for the house, put together some beautiful chairs, bought a nice Smart TV for the living room, prepped for paint in my daughter’s room(which I will do this weekend), and so many more little details. Once upon a time I was sad that I didn’t have anyone to share this with. I’m so over that now. This is all mine!
At the urging of a friend I went back to Match.com, she was insistent they could find me someone. Every single day for a week they sent me a ‘singled out just for you’ match of the day. And it was Scott, every.single.day! Then they sent me a guy with an eye patch who lives south of Boston and really tempted me to stray from my comfort zone…NOT!
I decided that I was not really in the market to date anyway and I quit Match again. I am good with it. I have too much to do to worry about it anyway.
I have only seen Scott once since he came to see how I was after my surgery. It was about a month after surgery. I didn’t really get a chance to talk to him. I wish I could have thanked him for joining Match, because seeing him on there certainly helped me stop wishing for something that is obviously never going to happen. His loss.
I got asked out several times recently by the 22 year old cook at the restaurant next to where I work. He told me he’d cook for me, I told him I was old enough to be his mother and the guy standing behind him said, “that could be fun!” LOL, I am not interested in someone that young!
I also have someone that is 59 that keeps trying to get me to date him. He’s a great guy, but I have known him my whole life, and I never thought of him that way. I am not at all attracted to him and I think of him kind of like an uncle, so I can’t do it. It wouldn’t be fair to either of us to date, because I won’t settle for someone I don’t want, just so I don’t have to be alone. I’d rather be alone forever than date someone I know I won’t stay with and end up hurting them.
My ex-husband always said my calves were overdeveloped because of my flat feet and he made me really self conscious of my legs, so I decided to tattoo flowers on them to make them prettier, even if only to me. So, I got a huge tattoo on my left shin. Eventually it will wrap around my leg and there will be a dragonfly, too. Definitely not everyone’s cup of tea, but I love it.
I have been wearing my IS/IO mix with 20 mcg P74 most every day. I have a lot of friendliness with this mix. I spent so much of my life being invisible(as I said at the beginning of this journal) that it is still strange and wonderful to have so many people seek my attention, or try to talk to me. I have never had such great service in stores or restaurants. I am sure some of it is me, the confidence boost makes me more outgoing, which is interesting for an INFJ like me.
Soon I will need to place an order again, and I may try something new. I still haven’t found my missing P83 and P130! I could use that P130 quite frequently, though I am actually the happiest I have been in a long time.
It does kind of suck wasting such a delightfully dirty mind, but one day someone will come along, when I am not looking, and I will knock his socks off! Until then, I will be painting and decorating and doing all kinds of great home projects. Oh, and watching the World Series. God I love baseball!
Glad everything is settling all right for you 'chick. Horray!
Impatiently awaiting my Black Friday order, I have a couple of the oils ordered. I am anxious to try them because I am going to enter the dating world again, hopefully. I have decided to give Match another chance, though it seems like they don’t really want to send me anyone even close to what I said I wanted. Whatever…
I had a picture taken for my profile and it brought out the creepers, as I feared it would. I never let anyone take my picture, because I never like them, but I want my kids to have a nice picture of me someday when I am no longer here. I have one of my mom that is over my computer. it’s old, but we had so much fun getting them taken that day, that it makes me happy to see her smiling down at me. I want my kids to have that. Anyway, the picture came out nice, and I used it as my profile picture. I hadn’t had any pictures up before. Within an hour there were some seriously inappropriate emails. I didn’t put anything sleazy in my profile, so I don’t know what would make people think it was okay.
I don’t know how well it is going to work for me anyway. I think there is something wrong with me. I am just NOT attracted to people. I can go years without meeting someone that sparks any interest. I could be dating someone already if I thought it was okay to be with someone who didn’t turn me on. I know attraction is not everything but without some chemistry, you are already at a disadvantage. I know. That’s how I got my ex-husband. I was very fond of him, we had fun together, he was my friend and I was grateful to him for being there when I was in a bad place, after something bad happened to me. He kept pestering me to date him and in a vulnerable moment I did. I did grow to love him, but I was never attracted to him.
I won’t do that to someone again. I’d rather be alone for the right reasons than just be with someone because I am lonely.
I know I have said that all before, but I still just don’t meet anyone who makes me want to get close to them. I am not talking about looks at all. I have to want to get to know you better, learn your history, see your flaws, I have to want to kiss you( and more), I have to want to show you my secrets, and take you to my special places, climb mountains with you, or send you pictures from the top if you can’t go. I want someone I want to cook dinner for and sit and talk while we eat, cuddle on the couch with, do other things on the couch…I haven’t even had sex in my house yet! At least, not with a partner!
Maybe I am just jinxed to be alone forever…this is my 8th Christmas since getting divorced, and my 4th since I was lucky enough to lose Mr Wonderful…I had hoped I would have someone special in my life to spend Christmas with.
Today is the 4th anniversary of my dad’s death, so I am a little melancholy today. Forgive me if I sound whiny. It is not intentional.
I don’t know, maybe my INFJ personality just prohibits me from finding someone.
I will be happy to report back on my new order, when it gets here. I am looking forward to having some new stuff to try.
Match is infested wih creeps, look for the needle in that haystack. Some true gentlemen are still out there. Good luck!
I know you have been through a lot somechick. I have been following your journal now a few years and I know you have been through a lot. You really should be proud of your accomplishments and what you achieved. Seeing you grow not only from a pheromone stand point, but personally as well really inspires me! I mean you got a house now and taking care of your kids and doing the right thing. You have a great life from what I see, yeah maybe not perfect, but you have done extremely well for you and your kids and I really look up to you for this.
I have tried Eharmony(the worst I think), match, POF, and some other random ones. From a woman’s view it is ridiculous on there I totally agree, and what sucks is for the few good guys it is ruined by all the others.
I actually met my wife on POF(plenty of fish) after 10 years of dating and being on and off the dating sites. Even now things are far from perfect at times and is a lot of work, but totally worth it. I really hope you do find someone to make you happy as this would seem to complete things for you.
In the mean time try to have fun and just be yourself. I really do look up to you for what you have done with your life and the life you provide your kids. What ever you do don’t settle as you deserve to be happy.
I am beginning to think that if I ever want someone in my life again, I will have to settle. And I won’t…or maybe I am just as unlovable as my ex-husband told me I was.
SUPER frustrated with the last order still not being here. I KNOW it was a Black Friday sale, but it has said for five days now that it was shipped and it hasn’t been picked up yet. So it isn’t shipping, it just has a label on it. I really wanted to have it by Christmas, it’s a pretty big order and it’s my present to myself. I don’t know how many orders this big I can justify, having just bought a house. I am kind of pissy…and yeah, I know that probably makes me a jerk, but I kind of have a reason for wanting the P130, my favorite anxiety eraser.
Last week, the day I posted that it was the anniversary of my dad’s death, my son texted me to tell me that he couldn’t get home from school because the bridge was closed. I had no idea what he was talking about so I started asking people who came in the store if they knew why the bridge was closed. The first person I asked, we call him Abercrombie because he looks like an underwear model, was white as a ghost and didn’t seem to want to say much. I could tell he was shaken by something, so I kind of probed a little.
There was an accident right by the bridge, he said, a truck went down the embankment and rolled into some trees and rolled over. The driver was pinned in the truck for 45 minutes while they cut him out of the truck with the jaws of life. They landed a med flight helicopter on the golf course across the street and flew him to Tufts Medical Center in Boston. Abercrombie said he had broken both his legs. He didn’t say much else.
SO another customer came in about five minutes later and I asked him. He told me the same thing, but said the driver had also cut his head from his forehead to the back of his neck, and had lost a lot of blood. According to this customer, whom I have known my whole life, the driver would be lucky to ever walk again. I asked him who it was, and he told me that it was my 21 year old nephew.
As I tried to get more info, I learned that it is very unlikely that he will ever move anything below his shoulders, he has had several surgeries with more to come this week. He was running a fever but that finally broke. Right now he is heavily sedated, but when he does wake up, he can move his eyes.
He is a dorky, sweet, na?ve kid who only ever wanted to drive dump trucks. Now he will never drive again. He did not break both his legs, he broke his neck and crushed his spine.
So, I am crabby because I don’t have my order, and I am not going to have my order for a while and that sounds so shallow, but MAN, could I use that P130! I am freaked out and worried and sad and depressed and missing all the people that I love that aren’t here, and my job is making me crazy, too.
Bitchy Co-worker lost a niece this weekend to breast cancer, and we have followed her struggle for three years. As tough as she can be to us, she is a marshmallow inside and she won’t let anyone comfort her, so my heart breaks for her, but she will be even more evil as she deals with her pain.
I need a little Calgon take me away moment! But I have fresh ink(again, this tattoo is huge!) so I am not supposed to soak my cares away.If only someone could invent transporter technology so my order could just beam here, that would be great.
I am sure you are very loveable! Almost all EX’s are going to say negative hate stuff and words can really hurt way more than anything else, just ignore that crap from your EX.