The Gentleman's A314 Journal to Success

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Andrew really inspired me with his A314 journal Andrew's A314 Success Journal and without stepping on his toes, I too have started one.

I think A314 can be a life changer for some people if they take it upon themselves to work on the inner and outter issues that are in need of repair to be congruent with the new or stronger vibe they are putting out.

I am in sort of a crossroads in my life, quite honestly the past 3-4 weeks I have felt like I was beginning to flounder a bit. So like all good baseball managers do with their teams when they start to see mistakes, or losses that can spiral into a demoralising attitude I will go back to the fundamentals. I will be start with the basics and where else do I begin but with what was working for me and making me happy.

I have to be a bit careful, because I am prone to taking on too many things at one time, getting in over my head and not getting anything accomplished. So, I’m hoping to keep myself in check with the goals, and not expect too much of myself but not being too easy on myself either. A balance in life is always a good thing.

Back to basics: Morning Ritual

Sleep: I find when I’m getting stressed out, and suffering from panic attacks small or large, or even if I’m getting depressed, my sleep patterns have changed or are interrupted and I’m not getting enough rest.
Recently I have been going to bed later and waking up later, starting the day off sluggish, and feeling guilty or like a bum.

Exercise: Be in bed by 11pm nightly, no reading, t.v., or music up to half an hour before bedtime. Back to quiet / meditation time.

Gratitude Journal: Gratitude is a must in my life. Not only does it allow me to focus on what’s really important, the good things in life, but it centers me and brings me back to the “now.” Whenever I’m delving into the past, or worrying about the future, if I go into gratitude and start naming off things I am grateful for at that very moment it forces me back into the present, which is really the only place you can exist, the only place you have any power.
I think its important to not just say what you’re grateful for, but to write it down and see it in black and white, it just gives it that much more power, so therefore I will start my gratitude journal over.

Exercise: Every morning, find at least 10 things to be grateful for and write them down in a gratitude journal.

Tao Te Ching: Everyone has their own belief system, something that helps to remind them of the important things in life and the Tao does this for me.

Exercise: After the gratitude journal, read one verse of the Tao every morning.

Reading Time: It is suggested that you spend at least 30 mins a day reading something new, something inspiring, something that will teach you how to become the person it is you want to be.
I do believe at some point you have to put the books down and go out and experience life, but I also have found from my own personal experience that I need inspirational materials whether it comes in the form of books, DVD’s, or audio to keep me motivated.

Exercise: Read for a min. of 30 mins each morning during coffee time.

Journaling: Journaling is a very important part of my life, or it is when I do it consistently. The mind seems to find a way to work out solutions to problems in life when you put it down on paper. In David D’s Deep Inner Game seminar, Dr. Paul suggests journaling as a way to grow as a man. This has been a very effective tool in the past and has helped spur a lot of growth in myself.

Exercise: Every morning I will journal for a min of 30 mins.

Quite Time / Meditation: My morning ritual is never complete without giving myself some quite time to reflect on the things I’ve read, or written, or even to just sit quietly and empty my mind and only focus on my breath.
This has been another effective tool in my arsenal when it comes to dealing with life and all the little pokes and jabs that come along the way.

Exercise: I will spend at least 30 mins of my morning in meditation.

I know this sounds like a lot, but this was my morning ritual for well over 6 months earlier this year. Whenever I missed my morning ritual I felt like my day just wasn’t getting started off right, I was lacking that extra bit of armor to guard myself as I ventured out into the world.

I usually don’t have to be at work until after 3pm, so my mornings if used properly are long with ample time to get whatever I want to get done, done.

GOAL: My goal for the first week of this journal, is to get back on track wiht my daily ritual. If that means no tv, going to bed early and not going out late at night, then that’s what it means.

Edited to add: Week 1 begins now, but in reality is 1 1/2 weeks long. I am giving myself Thursday, Friday and Saturday to get my sleep patterns somewhat normalised so I can start Week 1 on Sunday August 29, 2010. I will be getting up and performing these exercises starting today, but won’t be counting until Sunday.

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I like your ideas. I have something similar, and I am more successful and focused when I have my daily ritual as well! Good luck! I cannot wait to read about your successes!

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Thx Andrew for the inspiration. :slight_smile:

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I wanted to share some things and thoughts I had while journaling today. I will begin by posting today’s private journal. This is something I would not normally do, I’m pretty much an open book, even admitted to accidentally making out with a transexual in the women’s section. LOL But normally I would consider my black journal book private, but there’s some important things I want to get out in “public,” for some accountability.

Here goes:

August 26th, 2010
I am back…
I know exactly what I need to do in life to find
MY HAPPINESS, MY FREEDOM
It is time once again to choose myself first.
It is time to choose MY physical health, MY mental health, MY spiritual health, My financial health.
It is time to choose to be the man I know I am, can be, and can become.
It is time to choose honesty with myself and others. I create my life, and I choose how to react to others actions in my life.
It is time to choose to be with emotionally stronger, successful friends.
It is time to choose to be with mature confident women.
It is time for me to choose to befriend strong men of high value, morals, ethics and character.
It is time to choose the honest path of a good man.
It is time to choose to follow my own advice.

I look at the roller coaster my life has been over the last 1 1/2 years and I can see where choices I made took me in the direction I went, and this current station in my life.

I have posted the issues I am having with my girl, and that’s just one part of my social life that needs some work.
While it is not all her fault, in analyzing some things she said, actions she took, I can see now that where her responsibility lies, was created by the insecurities she was feeling as I grew during the first 6 months of this year.
I was involved deep in individual and group therapy, along with following my daily ritual. Those I worked with closest saw the changes, my roommate, best friends, all saw positive growth, but she was constantly telling me how I was worse off than before, that it “wasn’t doing shit.”

I apologized to her the other night just in case I ever made her feel going to therapy was somehow her fault, or I was looking for a way out to leave her. She said all the things involving my therapy were applicable. I can now see where she was afraid I was going to leave, so she pulled back, I chose to chase and “react,” and now we’re in this situation.

More importantly I realize now though I can’t have her in my life, no matter how much I love her. She got what she feared the most, I grew and moved on.

Now onto friends. I have had amazing best friends throughout my life, but there seems to be a running theme in them all. They like to get into trouble, and I choose to follow suit. My best friend of over 20 years, I finally let go of a few years ago because he just kept droppig shit at my feet expecting me to fix it, or get involved.

My best friend now of going on 6 or 7 years is a driven individual who has had some good success in his life. But his past is dark, and is coming back to haunt him, and he’s being forced by certain individuals in his past to get involved in some things, and he’s drawing me into it.

I don’t want that kind of life, a life built on fear and desperation skirting the law, mixing with people I would rather not mix with. These are not your typical low lifes. These are very powerful people, people you have to ask permission from in this town just to open certain types of businesses.

On the other hand, I have some extremely positive, high energy successful people in my life that I realize now, I don’t spend the same kind of time I used to a bit over 1 1/2 years ago. That has to change.

As they say, you’re the average of the 5 people you hang out with the most. I spend far too much time at work, and play with people I do not wish to be like. I care for them as human beings, but I would not model myself after them.

Girl is gone, no more trying to reconnect and mend our relationship (my choice), friend just might be gone, and time to get to work mending fences with those people who inspired me in the beginning to bring the changes I did into my life.

Thanks for listening. :slight_smile:

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I am a firm believer in the Law of Attraction. I have seen it work its magic in my life far too many times to discount it. In one area of my life it seems to work out really well, and that is I always attract the right book into my life at the exact right time. I have had books literally fall off of shelves into my hands and be the book I was needing to read.
I have also had titles of books that I wanted to buy and put on my wish list at Amazon show up in the Library book store for literally pennies.

Anyway, as part of my daily ritual I like to read the Tao T e Ching, and this is the book that manifested itself into my life this last week, right before I committed myself to my very own success journal here.

The Tao Of Leadership - Lao Tzu’s Tao T e Ching adapted for a new age. By John Heider.

I had been reading Wayne Dyer’s Living The Wisdom of The Tao, but this will replace it for now.

From the book -

Day 2: Polarities
All behavior consists of opposites or polarities. If I do anything more and more, over and over, its polarity will appear.
For example, striving to be beautiful makes a person ugly, and trying too hard to be kind is a form of selfishness.

Any over-determined behavior produces its opposite:

  • An obsession with living suggest worry about dying.
  • True simplicity is not easy
  • Is it a long time or a short time since we last met?
  • The braggart probably feels small and insecure.
  • Who would be first ends up last.

Knowing how polarities work, the wise leader does not push to make things happen, but allows process to unfold on its own.
The leader teaches by example rather than lecturing others on how they ought to be.
The leader knows that constant interventions will block the group’s process. The leader does not insist that things come out a certain way.
The wise leader does not seek a lot of money or a lot of praise.
Nevertheless, there is plenty of both.

As true alphas, we are asking those in our realm to accept us in a position of authority over them. This is a great responsibility to take up.
As a leader and role model at work, and in my family, I have far too often displayed the example of “do as I say and not as I do.”

One of the younger men who I work with came to me the other day and told me how he wanted to start learning some of the tasks of a manager at Starbucks, that he had plans on moving up the ranks.

I commended him on his choice to better himself and offered my full support, but I also advised him that if he wanted to be a manager, a good leader, then he couldn’t wait to embody those qualities when someone bestowed that title on him, that he had to embody those qualities now, and it would be up to him to set the example for his team members.

After speaking to him, I realized that while for the most part I set a pretty good example, pretty good is just not good enough, once again I needed to follow my own advice.

A true alpha male is imbued with confidence, and that confidence comes from having integrity which is defined as having a moral code, and in a state of being complete, undivided.

When a ship’s hull lacks integrity, it is not structurally sound and is subject to leaking, or even worse, giving way causing it to sink.

When you lack integrity, you are not structurally sound, it is a weakness in your hull and while you may pretend to have confidence, if you don’t fix the issue you will sink.

Regardless, that weakness will seep through in a lack of congruence, which will manifest itself in others whether that is your parent, sibling, child, lover, wife, co-worker, whomever, as lack of trust.

While they will want to respect you, and will want to follow your lead, they will doubt you.

I must fix my hull and regain my integrity.

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Another day, another epiphany… more inner game work.

Today I will speak of self-love and the Four Agreements. I’m writing this in the A314 Insider’s Club forum, a secret forum open to those members who have decided to not just learn how to attract people into their lives, but instead become the attractive person they desire to be.

We can sugar coat it all we want to, we can doll it up under the guise of science, and self-improvement, but what drove most if not all here to begin with is “looking for love in all the wrong places.”

While Androtics is a research company, they don’t disguise the fact that they are here to help you get laid. Even their website header has a cute young female in it with the text, “Reduce rejection and improve your life.”
This is why I am here, you must now be honest and ask yourself why you are here.

I can apply all the pheromones I want to, and someday they may even come up with a magical formula called “insta lay,” that will do exactly that, one dose = instant sex from any woman I desire that comes within range of my phero cloud. But will I be happy? To quote my friend who has one of the hottest wives around but yet complains about having sex with her, “sometimes you get tired of Steak, you just want a hamburger.”
So the answer is no. No one, and no thing will make me happy if I can’t find happiness within myself.

I have spent many years on this planet looking outward for happiness, even at 43 I thought maybe I was starting to have this problem licked but realized while journaling today I don’t.

There is a reason I attract the kind of people I do into my life, there is a reason I attract the kinds of events into my life, the common denominator is me, my current state of self-love and my choices.

People who love themselves make choices that reflect that self-love. They don’t fall into the traps of abusive relationships whether that is professional or personal. They value what they bring into a relationship, both personal and professional, and most important of all, they value themselves.

The beta male is one who lacks self-love, and self-respect. This is evidenced by the neediness and clingy behavior he exhibits when in a relationship. I know, I’ve been there.

This neediness comes from a mindset of lack, thinking that there is not enough love to go around that this job, this girl, this material object is the ONLY ONE available to me, and will make me happy and if I lose this job / girl / material object it is because I am unworthy of it.

The Alpha male is self-actualized and self-loving. Not only does he NOT need validation from exterior sources, he shuns that validation. In other words, when that dream job is offered, or a high quality girl that fits his qualifications enters his life, his locus of control is not affected. His ego does not take over and he lives a life of gratitude, but also with an understanding that “this too shall pass.” And it shall. But when it does pass, the alpha male entered the new job or relationship knowing that this didn’t complete him, nor did it make him unworthy when it ended,as all things will. He knowingly continues on his unshaken path living in the present moment because “it is, what it is.”

I came to the realization this morning while writing in my private journal that I am still living a life using an external locus of control, looking for that validation from others and things. Some things that manifest themselves because of this is self abusive behaviors are over eating, procrastination (avoiding my self), and entering into relationships wth friends and lovers that don’t truly meet the standards I have set, but often lower.

The path is… self-love first. Everything else will follow.
I will continue with affirmations - “I love and accept you my name exactly as you are.”
Meditation - Which will continue to teach me how to just be in the moment, with myself.
Healthy choices - Eating and exercise.
High quality friends - You are the average of the 5 people you hang out with most often.

And to follow the Four Agreements. Don Miguel Ruiz has a series of books and I highly recommend them. Buy the boxed set on Amazon with The Mastery of Love currently reading, you’ll be glad you did.

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I am loving your postings. Not only are they a great insight, they have actually helped me draw out some things that have been holding me back. I wanted to thank you for your awesome thread! :slight_smile:

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Thx Andrew for your inspiraton to get my ass up and going. :slight_smile:

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Verse 8 From The Tao of Leadership by John Heider

Water
The wise leader is like water.
Consider water: water cleanses and refreshes all creatures without distinction and without judgement; water freely and fearlessly goes deep beneath the surface of things; water is fluid and responsive; water follows the law freely.

Consider the leader: the leader works in any setting without complaint, with any person or issue that comes on the floor; the leader acts so that all will benefit and serves well regardles of the rate of pay; the leader speaks simply and honestly and intervenes in order to shed light and create harmony.
From watching the movements of water, the leader has learned that in action, timing is everything.
Like water, the leader is yielding. Because the leader does not push, the group does not resent or resist.

Dr. Wayne Dyer in his book Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life, Living The Wisdom of The Tao in this verse he brings up a very valid point about water.
A lot of Eastern Philosophies are very paradoxical in thinking, and in this verse the paradox of water is really magnified. It is bot soft and yielding, put your hand in water and watch as it gives way. Then at the same time it is one of the harder substances on this planet. A trickle of water can carve out a path in a rock, or a canyon in the face of the earth.

Water always arrives at its destination whether it flows freely around or over its obstacles, or once again with time, carves a way through them.

The Alpha Male is like water, in that we are unaffected by the obstacles that lay out before us, we know that there is always a path around, over or with time through them. It is assumed that we will reach our destination and achieve our goals without doubt.

Outcome dependency has been my biggest down fall in both personal and professional relationships.
That is because I did not take the view of the Alpha male, and like water assume success and proceed on my journey, but instead sweated over every minor detail, worried and fearful of making mistakes that would affect the outcome that I wanted.

That’s the paradox of life, we usually get what we focus on and if that is fear, worry and mistakes, then that is what we will get.

I may be rambling but ther is a point…

To manifest thing into your life it is important that you get clear on what it is you want, set the intention of receiving it, then let it go and assume that success is a given.

Its funny that in order to receive you cannot want. Because if you focus on the want, that is what you will get more of, wanting. Instead you focus on the receiving and being grateful and that is what you will get, receiving.

How does this tie in with becoming a stronger, more confident man? An Alpha Male?

You see a lot of questions on this forum askig about congruency in conjunction with the use of A314 and the responses could be summed up in two words. JUST BE.

To be the Alpha male, is to set the intention to be an alpha male, then letting it go. To walk into a room thinking to yourself, “I want to be Alpha, I want to be Alpha,” will cause there to be a glitch in the matrix. :wink: You will want to be alpha wile coming from a beta mindset and get only more wanting as others in the room will see through your mask and reveal your lack of congruency.

The Alpha male is comfortable wherever he is because he is not in his mind second guessing himself, he is present in the moment, he is “in the now” so to speak.

This is my intention, more awareness, more mindfullness and being present in the moment in order to let go of the past, and not worry about the future.

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Today Matters

Radman has suggested his books, and I have to strongly agree with him, but if you want some amazing reads on Leadership, then pick up any and every John Maxwell book you can.

In his book Today Matters John outlines his daily dozen.
The Daily Dozen

  1. Just for today I will choose and display the right attitude.
  2. Just for today I will determine and act upon important priorities.
  3. Just for today I will know and practice healthy guidelines.
  4. Just for today I will practice and develop good thinking.
  5. Just for today I will communicate with and care for my family.
  6. Just for today I will make and keep proper commitments.
  7. Just for today I will earn and properly manage finances.
  8. Just for today I will deepen and live out my faith.
  9. Just for today I will initiate and invest in solid relationships.
  10. Just for today I will plan for and model generosity.
  11. Just for today I will embrace and practice good values.
  12. Just for today I will seek and experience improvement.

I will manage these decisions, just for today, and someday I will see the compounding results of several days lived well.

It is this last statement that has had such a huge impact on how I view life. Its a waste of time to fret over the past and worry about the future when that will all be taken care of if we just take care of today.

Prior to 2007 I had hit 340 pounds and I have explained to my nieces and anyone else I have mentored that I didn’t eat a large bowl of ice cream on Monday and woke up on Tuesday morbidly obese. No, it was the compounding results of the unhealthy choices I made over several days, which turned into several months and years.

What I am focusing on today is the compounding results of my days since I started wearing mones, specifically A314.

It was a twist of fate, serendipity if you will that I came across this forum and because I did, it has led me down paths that have enabled me to make better choices in my life.

Through this forum and the company Androtics and its wonderful staff, I have been introduced to pheromones that have changed my life, and inspired by so many users here to live a better life.
I have been educated about not just pheromones, but have been taught how to be a better man, friend, lover, all around human being.

Through this wonderful community I have learned about such things as Catlord’s subliminals, and purchased the 2010 Alpha Dominant Male Subliminal Training program and 3 weeks into it I am definitely seeing positive results.

The important lesson I have learned (yet again) here is to have a wholistic view on wealth. My goals as stated in my signature is wealth in all aspects of my life. Financial wealth, physical wealth, mental wealth, and spiritual wealth.

You read how A314 has a compounding effect that takes time to build, and I have found this is true and the results I am seeing along with the help of other mones, are amazing to say the least.
As I sit here this morning, I can see how in the last months the time I spent here learning, and teaching, then going out and applying not just the mones, but the valuable lessons I am learning that the compound effect on my life is an increase in confidence, patience, drive, and awareness among other things.

Each day is building on the next, and the foundation that I am building all of this on is a strong, secure one.

It is such a blessing and I am so grateful to be able to enter the world knowing that I am armed with all these tools. Knowing that not only am I getting respect, but actually earning it, from myself as well as others.

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Great posts, excellent write up