The best journey is yet to come…
Wow, your story sounds very much like mine. Both my husband and I are 48. All I really wanted to accomplish was to reignite that spark between us. I am totally blown away by what we’ve been able to do in such a short amount of time.
I started using Androtics products about 3 months ago (was it really just that short amount of time?!!) and I can attest that these products have made a 180 degree difference in turning around our slow slide into boredom, and turned our bedroom (and other quick encounter places) hot, hot, hot!
So, I have a little bit of advice for you that will take a bit of patience. There are several things you want to do, and it is best if you take these in stages so he can get used to the changes gradually. And remember that as you use these to help your relationship the pheromones will affect you too. It is all good. 
1.) Lighten the mood. When he feels better, lighter, less tense around you that will start the process rolling to happier, better days. I used several products:
a)Instant Shine - good for spontaneous smiles, but not a lot of long term effect. I still use this for celebrations as it really intensifies happiness.
**b) **MX274 - really good product with my husband. This one brings him almost immediately out of a bad mood. It promotes harmony in the environment and elicits caring behavior in a thinking, but kind way. It has anti-anxiety effects. When both of you are feeling like you desire harmony and are both feeling less stress, and both feeling deep caring for each other, good things happen. (Be aware that the molecule P74, which is the ingredient in this, is a cool, intellectual molecule. For me that translates to being too much in my head and slightly distanced from my body during sex, so I don’t use this product to promote sexual behavior. Some people, however don’t find this effect, or don’t find it bothersome in sexual encounters. You’ll have to determine for yourself the effects on you in different situations. The same holds true for all pheromones and pheromone products.)
**2.) Promote communication. ** Sometimes our guys forget that we are their number one support. They can tend to shut down and isolate themselves. When they can easily open back up those lines of communication in a self-assure way it builds the trust back that might have gotten eroded with years of tension and little fights, and situations out of their control. I used several products:
a) Come Talk to Me - This was interesting to use because of the odd reaction my husband had. He’s normally quiet. With this mix he became chatty as hell, but it was all superficial stuff and got to be a little exhausting listening to it.
b) Instant Openness - This a better product for promoting conversations of a general nature that had a little more important content. I recommend using this for a minimum of one to two weeks before moving to the next product. This will set the groundwork for deeper communication that is to come.
c) Instant Honesty - This product, in my opinion, should be used only after some considerable rapport has been built with MX274 and communication lines opened with Instant Openness. It can cause some very deep things to be revealed which can be a little frightening if a person is prone to feelings of having been rejected or stifled. But, the communications when using this product, in my experience with my husband, has lead to an incredible deepening of trust and sense of being valued and cared for.
3.) Spark some bedroom interest and intensify bedroom experiences - Okay, so you’ve been patient. You’ve worked hard and diligently to set the groundwork for some really mind blowing intensely intimate sex. You want to spice things up for both yourself and your husband, and deserve some reward. You might need a little more patience, but rest assured, the goal is in sight. So, right now your home environment should be really nice with harmony and open communication, more trust and understanding. And hopefully the dynamics that lead to the normal slide down is not there any more. To take this next step I used the following:
a) Lust After Me - I was so excited to get this product. But for us it was a dud. Not every man responds aggressively to copulin products and even after 3 months of testing with copulin products I have only seen minimal and sporadic response from my husband. But many women report extremely good, repair-the-walls-afterwards sex as a response to this pheromone. So don’t write it off without a fair trial.
b) Essence of a Woman by Love Scent - ditto for above.
c) Instant Sexiness/A - Very good product and my husband responded with a lot of interest with this product. But it lacked follow-thru. It didn’t close the deal or make a tired male stand to attention. Still a very good product and very fun to play with if you want to tease more than be pleased.
d) MX335 - This is a kind of fun, kitchen sink, center of the universe product that is very effective at getting stellar attention. But again, at least in our case, it didn’t close the deal. This is one of my favorite products, btw, because it makes me feel stellar, sexy, happy, and fun.
g) Turn Up the Heat - I had some reservations about using this pheromone after reading the warnings about Androstenone OD, and was afraid it would irritate my husband. I did finally try it and it definitely had some effects of intensifying my desire level… but it did turn my husband into a total crank, so after just a few tries, I discontinued use. If your husband is not sensitive to Androstenone, it may be fine for the two of you to use.
f) Methoxyestratetraenone (MEO-EST) - This experimone has been reported on the site to have some very interesting effects on women’s libidos. I’ve reported pretty extensively on the self effects of this molecule and I think it is a real winner. It doesn’t have much effect worn alone, but paired with the test molecule TAF and the Putative P103 it becomes extremely sensual. Because I feel so sensual wearing this mini-mix, I send out tons more signals to my husband that when he is ready, I am too. It is a very, very friendly molecule. It makes me want to touch things, including my husband… lol. My husband tends to find the molecule calming.
g) Estratetraenol (Est) from Love Scent - This molecule totally centers my husband’s attention on me in a very caring, very supportive, very warm way. It will not promote sexual desire, but it does allow all those good, kind, warm, and loving feelings to surface in him and be expressed. If you are looking for respect, though, don’t wear this molecule. It promotes cuddling, hugs, and loving feelings, but it can tend to unleash a bit of “I know what is best for you” in your husband. If you use this molecule knowing that effect is possible it is easier to take that with a bit of humor and ride it out rather than fight for respect. You won’t get it with this pheromone.
h) Putative P83 - This was the first putative I used to show some definite forward momentum in my husband and it was responsible for my husband beginning to initiate sex again, and initiate more often. On its own it is a bit of an impulsive molecule and used at too high a dosage and in a frustrating situation it can cause extreme irritation. So, use it the right way, with stuff that brings out the warm fuzzies, and in situations where you don’t have to put off sex until later. Don’t try to tease with this molecule. It may very well backfire.
i) Putative P80 - Wow! This molecule was the deal closer for sure. In my husband, in a mix designed for attention, warm- fuzzies, and sensuality, it very quickly promoted him initiating sex. I’m just now starting to play with it and it has some intense up- and down-sides. On the upside it affects me the same way it affects my husband, in that it makes us really want to do each other. And it is effective at very, very small doses (1.2 - 2.5 mcg). On the downside, it interferes with yummy sensual feelings. "Doing and being done" is a very different experience from having intensely passionate, sensual sex. So, I’m still trying to keep that quality of forward momentum and intensity in my mixes, but downplay it just enough to allow the full range of mind-blowing sensation and emotion to come back into play.
So, that is my journey so far. Now I’m working on mixes to really intensify what we have. So, far we’ve been having the best sex of our lives, more intense, more experimental and risk-taking, more passionate, more intimate and honest and real. My husband has gone from almost never initiating to wanting to have sex at least 4 or 5 times a week. I’ve gone from just wanting to renew the spark to writing symphonies of sensation, emotion, behavior. It’s a hell of a lot of fun and extremely satisfying. 
My husband loves my new hobby, btw! But because he never knows what brew I’m working on today, or what mix I’ve decided to wear, he never knows ahead of time what it is going to be like.
Happy times!
Diane