Actually yes - I thought by now you would have figured out who I am - I did not want to say anything - and a couple times I thought you had figured it out from comments you have made …
I’ll stick with my earlier statement …
Yikes - that really is scary - although im sure you mean that you know couples like us… Ahem.
Otherwise, so much for trying to remain anon.
You know I am just kidding … 
… but there is no real anonymity on the internet.
After you have seen it a couple times … you learn to recognize it for what it is.
Now if only I could figure myself out as well.
Yea, if only there was a pheromone for that!
We all have our baggage, some check it at the door, some tend to want people to go through it in public.
but then that is better than having to push to get someone to say something.
if something is wrong, I will tell, if something is still wrong, I will say so, but then from my father, who is always the same guy, it takes alot to get my feathers ruffled.
Put a bottle nipple on the top and go huh? or like the builder of our house who kept putting my sister’s bottles in a brown paper sack. Because it’s funny to see a toddler drinking from a brown paper sack.
It’s always easier to see the picture when you step back.
Me, I know I’m screwed up. But I think I am getting better, at least I keep saying that. Someday I might believe it.
Sometimes it feels like the scene in The Temple of doom where they show the guy his still beating heart.
Woofie. Everyone has issues. If you actually think you are screwed up, then you are far better off than the crazies that think there is nothing wrong with them.
Trust me - I see them every day. The psychos, the bi-polars, schizophrenics, OCDs, ADDs, ODDs, lawyers, adjustment disorders, panic disorders, PTSD, and some freaks. It gets depressing dealing with the depressed.
Um you ARE better - well, than you think. Which is great because who wants to be around someone who thinks they dont need improvement? Oh, yea, my H is like that.
Well the great thing about this place is that everyone is supportive, and most people here have some great insights into things. I know my life is greatly improved by the people I post back and forth with…
Amen!
I see the guy almost once a week who talks and boxes with himself downtown.
you know the guy who hasn’t showered in 3 weeks boxing at the air like he is fighting off a gang of attackers.
I have helped several people through tough spots in their relationships, and lives. Several repaired their relationships, or moved on. This was much to the pain of my own heart, but I knew deep down we were not meant to be together. But I would truly rather see someone happy than stuck.
if you ever need an unbiased ear to bend, shoot me a pm, I tend to play devil’s advocate, and try to ask the questions that cause a person to think about what they need.
Instant messing programs are great for anonymous heart pouring.
Oh, I hope you are feeling better soon. You are so much the better for helping someone even if you take a pounding yourself. That is very chivalrous.
Thanks for the offer too. I have a feeling things are going to come to a fork in the road in a month or two. I can give others advice, but looking at my own life choices, i have not made the best decisions.
Its way too hard being a growup. Way more fun to do air boxing on the street corner!
When I grow up I wanna be…A KID AGAIN!!! 
To be honest - i have not grown up yet. I dont plan on it! Ha! I am a responsible person, i have a decent job, try to raise my kids consistently. But i am still a kid. i am tired of people who take themselves too seriously, who cant take a joke. i always try to find the good in everything.
my parents were very bohemian, and screwed us up alot, but the one thing they did that was great. no matter how trivial, always have something to look forward to every day. even if it means the only thing is a sunny day tomorrow. maybe that is one of the problems i have with my h. he sees problems everywhere. has no enthusiasm for life. what a drag. takes himself waaay seriously. mr corporate exec. zzzzzz. when i am silly - which is often, he gives me the “fish eyes” and tells me how immature i am. Eeyore to my Tigger…
i know tomorrow when my new phero package arrives, i will literally jump up and down on the front porch.
yay! i cant wait for the woody-maker kit!!! And i aint usin it on the ol H either!!!
Oh, I find it easier to listen, comment lightly and let the person figure it out for themselves. If nothing else I will steer them in the right direction of logical thinking.
Grow up? you mean that is a requirement? I will never growup. I still drive to fast, party to hard, and work to hard chasing things that aren’t worth it.
some of my life choices looked and sounded good at the time I made them, but the goal was short sighted.
At least your H, (potentially next XH), hasn’t started dragging your friends to bed with him.
Ohhh dont go there! I would PAY them to go with him. But they are my friends and i wish better for them! My bff since i was 10 said my H has the personality of a pizza box.
I would describe him more like one of the “pod people” on invasion of the body snatchers.
If i found out my H was cheating on me, I would send the woman flowers. Wont happen - he has no libido.
I hope after the split finally happens he can find someone like him to be happy with.
Oh well he seemed like a good idea at the time (yea, when my biological clock was bonging like Big Ben) -which is REALLY loud i must say.
Yea, join the party too hard, drive too fast club my friend. Keep doin it until it aint fun…
Wrong again! Pizza boxes have good stuff inside!
She musta meant an empty pizza box, with cockroaches crawling around inside!
Yea. My life is like when you are hungry and go to the refrigerator, open the door eagerly in anticipation… The light goes on, there is nothing in there! Empty. So you try again 15 minutes later out of habit. Same nuthin.
Guess its time to go to the store…
Watch out unsuspecting males - I bought the recently-hyped Woodymaker!
why, if there was something in the fridge, it would just get eaten, leave the cupboard bare.
Vizgra? or was it cjalis? (sorry I get way to much spam…6000 messages today)
Well finally got the much hyped woody pack 282-287. Great value for the price - 6 to gos for 49…
I decided to try 284 first as i have not seen any reports on it yet. I am not posting an official rept until tomorrow. i think it smells exactly like mx257 - which i love! just nice and pretty with no notes jumping out.
tomorrow i am going pub crawling with my bff who i have been bbf with since i was 10. um yea, thats what 15 years? LOL LOL! god love her - i would lose my sanity without her. her mom was crazy - mine still is. she is recently divorced - and i have been hanging around with her - going to places so she can scope out men. i know it bothers my h that i act like a single “girl” but its a GREAT way to test the pheromones (which she knows nothing about - she is waay better looking and i need an edge). so i am the wingman. she is skinny brunette and attractive. i am thin blonde pale and a geek. so she does get all the men! shit- that was rough in college.
so tomorrow i was thinking of maybe mx287. i am saving mx282 for him. i will not talk about him yet. but if someting happens - trust me i will take out a banner ad. is it realistic for me to think i will hook up with my fave musician? maybe not. but i am going to try. noting ventured, nothing gained. most people never get the opportunity to even try that. i might. and it blows my mind. of course, i have to stand in line behind many other women. but i am willing to give it a shot.
a couple of months ago, i looked him up on youtube. there was a great pic of him, sooo sexy. then i went back. the pic is gone. shit. i was staring at that a couple of times a day. i did not have the balls to ask him where it went or he would know i was cyber stalking him. lol.
sounds like fun, with new pretties in the cabinet.
sounds like a good time could be had by all,
how did it go?
What did you share with the BFF to wear?
So last night i went pub crawling with bff and some MX287. Smelled the same as the others -and MX257.
I really felt more confident than usual. My bff who is waaaay better lookin than me said - you look hot tonight, you will prolly get hit on. (I didnt). I did feel way chilled and cool though. Everywhere we went the wait staff was really super attentive.
Oh, i do not share the fact i have pheros. My friends would think i am crazy!
it was a fun evening, but i was not really lookimg for anything dramatic to happen, just being my bffs wingman in case she found someone attractive…
That is the key, to go out and have fun. The only people I know that have found true love in a bar, were those who found Alcohol.
The perfect time to test a new mix and relax some. If someone should show interest so much the better. Icing on the biscuit. 
I met my bff when she moved in across the street, I was ten and she was eleven. She may be prettier, but I’ll always be younger. Oh God, don’t tell me…she’s younger…
I haven’t tried them yet as I’ve been busy with other mixes. But I’m looking forward to it, the girls really seem to like them! I’ll check back for your next report.
Speaking of woody…where’s the music man?
If you told me I would meet my husband in a bar I would’ve thought you were sniffing glue. Yep, that’s where it happened…in a bar…one of my regular hang outs, and his unbeknownst to me. One night when I was there having fun with a gf we were introduced by a mutual friend. There was a security in knowing my friend, who introduced us, thought he was OK otherwise he wouldn’t have introduced him to me in the first place. 
So it wasn’t like he strolled up to me out of the blue and dropped some line. Though knowin’ Wolf that might’ve worked. Wolf told me much later that he’d been interested in meeting me for some time. Funny, I never noticed him until the night we met. I asked him why he didn’t make a move sooner, he said he couldn’t get to me and was waiting for the right opportunity. When he saw his/my friend talking to us, he made his move. I wouldn’t recommend a bar as the best place to seek a serious relationship and I don’t know any other people who married someone they met in a bar. It was a fluke, luck, kismet, whatever the h*ll ya wanna call it. But then again…you never know, if it happened to me it can happen to anyone.
And can you imagine?..neither one of us was drunk.
Bella