To the High Schoolers and Young people on this forum,
I just wanted to take a minute or two and talk to the young people who are either visiting this forum, or who call it their home. I will turn twenty years old this month, and I can honestly tell you that I was recently in your shoes. Before I get started, I just want to explain a phychlogical principal that I learned in a class called College Intro Psychlogy. It states that people under the age of 19-24 (depending on the individual) normally do not realize that they are just like everyone else, and what happens to other people can happen to them. People under this age generally believe that they are different than everyone else, and that they can control what happens to them. For instance, they believe if they start smoking, they will be able to stop anytime they want to. They believe that they are the exception to every rule. It’s not until their mind matures more that they realize that this isn’t true.
My junior, sophomore, and freshman year, as well as my later middle school years were shaped by a desire to be popular and loved by everyone. I wanted to be accepted by people, just like everyone else. The reason I wanted to be accepted was so I could help people that needed help. I wanted to be popular, so I could befriend the unpopular kids. I wanted to be accepted, so I could cheer people up when they were sad. I wanted to be just as adored as the quarterback on the school’s football team, for my own personality. I found myself to be the happiest when I was in a position of being able to cheer people up, or make them laugh.
That was my overwhelming desire, and life purpose: To make people happy. It was a burning passion, that beated with every beat of my heart, and was on my mind every waking moment of my life. It was all I wanted to do. I was desperate. One day, before senior year started, I very innocently went on my computer and my homepage was msn.com. I saw what I later learned was an advertisment, that looked like a news story that said that scientists have found a way to increase your attractiveness. Now remember, the only reason I ever wanted to be attractive was to make a lot of friends, and make people in general happy. I wanted a compliment from me to mean something - to make someones day. So I clicked on the link, and read more about the product that was being advertised, and I started to believe that this product could help me achieve my goal of, well, in essence, spreading happiness. Through a long series of events that were triggered by my skepticalness and curiosity, I found another site, that a lot of people claimed was better then any other online store for purchasing these products. I went on the site, and saw that it had a very active forum, and offered a $25 gift certificate .
After a while, I realized: Hey - this is free, 20,000 people go on the forum, more than 100 have been on it in the last hour, and it’s not illegal to sell it to kids so it likely isn’t harmful. I ordered two products with the gift certificate they gave me. I didn’t pay a dime, not even for shipping. The two products that I ordered were appearently designed to make people happy around you, and the other one was designed to make you appear friendly and approachable. Perfect for me, if they work, right? Well it turned out that they did work. There is a certain bio chemical science to it, that I’m not going to go into. I even let friends use them, without telling them what to expect, and they ended up getting the same results.
Now even though they work, I still would not go and tell someone younger than upperclass college age that I love and care about to use them. This is because anything that these products can do, you can do. They just make life easier, and easier is not better because at that age, you are developing social skills and I would rather have social skills that I can use when I am naked, than social skills that I have to depend on an expensive spray bottle for. Futhermore, these bio chemical products are only able to do 5-10% of the friendship-building work for you, if that much. You are at an age when you need to be working as hard as you possibly can, at everything you do, so things will come easier for you throughout the rest of your life. It’s like building muscle, easy to do when your young, and if you do it, you’ll be building a healthy body that is easier to excercise as you age.
For me, I was at a point where I thought the two products I mentioned eariler would bring me more good than bad, and looking back, I believe they did. You just need to judge your own social skills, critically. You need to see what you can do without a crutch, before you start learning how to depend on a crutch. If a baby learned how to walk by using crutches, he would never learn how to walk right, without them. You need to see social-skill building the same way.
Now here is where is gets even more personal, and really deep. My friends, I only intended to use the “socials” as they call the products that I used and have already mentioned. There were other products that were sold, that I intended to avoid simply because I had no use for them. One such product was them that the science community calls “none”, and yes that’s short for something, don’t ask me what. -None- causes people to see you as more sexually attractive then you are. I had no need for sexual attention, because my goal was simply to make people happy, and make lots of friends. I never bought a -none- product, but this company had a practice of sending their clients what they called random free gifts, although for some reason, they kept sending me the same one with every at that time, one that I really didn’t want, had no use for, and even found offensive. But I never complained because it was a free gift.
Heres where I want you to relate. One day I ran into a topic on the forum that was describing someone’s experience with the product that they kept sending me for free. After reading his experiences, I figured to myself "You know what - I know who I am as a person, and I would never do anything immoral. I don’t intend to have sex with anyone until I’m married, and then only and always only with my wife, but maybe wearing this -none- infused product that they keep sending me will give me results in the realm of attracting (AS FRIENDS) the kind of people that are very interested in highly attractive people, and the more friends, the better, as long as I know my limits, and I do.
So I wore it to school one time. It wasn’t a BAD day, it was kind of okay. I wore it again some more times, and started noticing that I was getting flity looks from girls that previously didn’t paid any attention to me, and even some respect from guys, including the football coach. But I didn’t really know how to be congruent with the “signuture” that my body-chemistry was sending out as a result of -none-. I started wearing more and more sprays, resulting in higher dosages of -none- being on me at a time. And little by little, my social life began to fall apart. I had no idea why, until over a year later. I had learned the hard way what the vetern users of this forum try to tell you every chance they get: -None- at your age, heck, even at my age, and at people older then me’s age, is BAD for you. In high dosages, it makes girls our age UNCOMFORTABLE AND NERVOUS, even scared. In low dosages, it will do you LITTLE TO NO good, because your body would produce it anyway, if you would just workout to the point of sweating, you would be just as attractive as a -none- based product can make you, if not more attractive. At our age, we need to be sweating anyway, because remember our bodies will thank us later in life for working out/running now.
I wondered how I went from girls whispering “he’s hot!” about me to my friends to “he’s a pervert”… girls that I don’t even know, mind you. In high dosages, everything you do will seem agressive. Even if you’re just sitting there and minding your own business and accidently glance in a girl’s direction, this stuff has the power to make her think you’re staring her down or that you were looking at her. And you’re not a likeable person when you have this stuff on at your age. Or at any age in too high of a dosage. Walking in front of someone slowly and politely will look like you’re cutting them off for the sake of being rude. That’s what happened to me, and it can happen to you. They say that as long as you are congurent with the bio chemical singals you are sending out, you’re going to be okay, but as your age, you’re not going to be congurent with them, in fact the only place where it would be NORMAL to be congruent with a high -none- signuture is a bar or a club. So wear it to school, and you’re going to AT LEAST be weird.
What am I saying here? Don’t use -none- based products if you are a kid. If you’re under 20. If you are 20-25, only use one spray of AMMO , mixed with heavy socials.
Try Androsterone. Try Instant Shine. Try Instant Openness /honesty. Try the things that are good at helping you make friends. And don’t even use them too much. Pheromones should not replace trial and error friendship building by having conversations and being a normal person.
If you’ve been using -none- based products and you’re under 20, come off of pheromones slowly but surely. Start using Androsterone. Androsterone is beautiful. It is everything that successful men are. Learn how to be congruent with Androsterone in your daily life, and you won’t need pheromones, ever. You’ll spend your money on dates with lovely, high class, smart, beautiful women instead.
But if you have anylized your socal skills, and believe that if you never learn another social skill or gain a bit of confidence again, what you have now is enough to get you through life, and you don’t need to learn anything else, and you are ready to start using a crutch - If you believe you have learned ENOUGH about how to survive on your own without any crutches and your social skills are perfect (hopefully not until your 11th or 12th grade years AT LEAST) then use Androsterone, Shine, Openness. But STAY AWAY FROM THE -NONE-. It will mess up your life. You don’t need it. You already have it. Work out instead. You have probably read reports on it. It is very tempting. But DON’T do it. You may even think that you can use -none- because you have been, and have been getting away with it. I promise you if you give it time, you will thank yourself later for coming off of the none. Futhermore, it is often said, that science does not yet know what kind of harmful things pheromones may be doing to a young persons body, because they are still developing. It’s not illegal because the government doesn’t really know enough about it yet. But be smart.
Aggie