First off hi and sorry for the wall of text.
Little bit of backstory we broke up in febuary and tried doing the “Friend thing”(I know stupid mistake) and we basicly broke up again in may. Did NC and I reached out in august. We never had any issues talking phone /texting but would rarely see each other in person. 3x max.
Since august we were texting back and forth and things have been better. I got to talking to a co-worker who has used pheromones and has had success so I did some research and found this website. I bought some products and tried them out.
Fast foward to the end of September my ex brought me dinner at work(she had owed me,long story lol). By chance I was trying out instant shine as is recomended. So since then I’ve been using it regularly espically when I see her. In the past 3 weeks or so weve seen each other about 8 times mostly stoping by each others job. But have hung out twice in that span. A complete change in our relationshp!!!
. I started a conversation about where she was in the getting back together. She has said we can see what happens. Her response was not right now I want to see if something sparks between us.
Now heres my question. She seems to respond to IS. What can I use or try to help spark things. I have an idea of what she is looking for from me. But lets be serious who really knows with women.
Thank you for reading and ANY help is greatly appreciated
Sorry, but this situation is so riddled with red flags. I always want people to be happy, but I just don’t see this being a healthy situation. I feel like any help I were to offer you would just make a confusing situation more painful and drawn out. You say you have an idea of what she is looking for from you, but this does not look like the pattern of a woman who knows what she wants at all. If she knew what she wanted, she would not keep stringing you along. She would be upfront and open with you, communicating rather than teasing you. Especially if her decision is entirely based on emotions (she wants to wait and see if she feels a “spark”, rather than making a decisive choice. Sparks come and go, you can’t use build a healthy relationship on whether they are there at a given time or not). Pheromones can create temporary situational changes, but they cannot change the foundational dynamics between you. They can’t change a person’s inner maturity level, or their character.
I wish you the best, but I really think you would be happier and healthier if you were to close the book on this one.
“not right now” usually means she wants to see what else is out there and she’ll only be back when she needs needs some emotional/financial support.
Yup - it looks to me that she’s trying to keep you hanging-on the possibility for entirely her own reasons.
Rule One - Don’t chase ex-girls.
Rule Two - if she wants back, make sure it is unambiguous on their part.
Rule Three - don’t get involved with women at work.
Voice of experience talking here!
“Think about this for a moment: Why would you ever choose to be with someone who is not excited to be with you?”
Run for the hills Red..listen to everyone here. You be getting manipulated bro.
Unique, I liked the article you linked to..so true! Thanks!