What kind of hits should I be looking for with alpha 314? I’m trying to find my sweet spot but its a bit difficult. Also I keep getting 2 drops when applying a314 when I only go for one. I turn the bottle over 1 inch from my skin and a second or two later two consecutive drops come out. Any suggestions?
What I do to get one consistant drop is…I put the corner of the bottle on my finger then i catch the drop coming out on my finger and pull back up right away…and i get a consistent drop every time…as for the “hits”…respect…that’s what i see…respect even when I don’t deserve it,\
I summarized the various types of hits a while back in the mens section. Let me see if I can remember exactly what I wrote (since I’m too lazy to go looking for it)
HappyTappin is right, the hits will be mostly respect based, you will probably get some attraction based hits with certain women but don’t expect chicks to flock to you like you’re a movie star, at least not with A314 alone.
Watch for eye contact, to really appreciate the difference try not wearing for a few days and make a note of how many people maintain eye contact when you look at them and how many avert their eyes. Looking down is a sign of submission.
Consider how often people ask for or even consider your opinion on things. You’ll probably notice an increase in how often you hear “well what you do you think about it?”
Approval seeking, almost the same as respecting your opinion but in this case it’s more about seeing you as so high status that you’re opinion of them begins to matter. People might be talking about something they do, or are interested in and then say “pretty cool huh” or something to that effect. They’re seeking validation that somebody like you considers them cool.
Blessed silence, start talking, do NOT try to talk over anyone, speak at a normal volume, but try to get a little more Bass (happytappin should appreciate that) in your voice. Even if other people are talking just keep talking as if they’re not, they’ll shut up and start listening because they get a sense that what you have to say has value.
Helpfulness, if you’re at work and working on some kind of project watch for coworkers to volunteer to assist you either with that project or by doing something else for you so that you can focus on what you’re doing. Feel free to delegate and make them feel good about doing it by offering genuine thanks when they do.
VIP treatment when in public places. I’ve had hostesses ask me to wait and rush the busser to clean off a prime table with a view of the Game on TV when there was a perfectly good table ready to go, just with not as great a view…and they apologized for me having to wait a lousy 30 seconds for it.
Now the stuff that might be considered the dark side, or at least “they’re only positive if you actually want them and are ready to handle them” effects.
Intimidation, Yes it can be intimidating at times but I’ve found that a little instant shine and a welcoming smile takes care of that pretty easily.
Great Expectations, You’ll find your superiors placing more responsibilities on you and expecting you to deliver. You may even find that your coworkers both equal and below you on the ladder seem to lose their ability to think for themselves when you’re around. Basically you’re being accepted as Alpha and they expect you to act like it. Resist or try to avoid the responsibility and you’ll get anger and confusion from the people around you. You ever notice how some people can just squeek doing the bare minimum and just keeping to themselves and nobody cares, but other people are expected to carry the team to victory?..yeah, congrats you just made it to that second group.
Shit testing, this is almost irony but it’s a sign of interest from women that are attracted to the alpha vibe you’re throwing off. You’ll actually get women that will (for a short time at least) try busting your balls and shit testing you to make sure you’re as alpha and dominant as the impression they’re getting. They want congruence. Thing is if they’re part of your social circle you have to be congruent even if you’re not interested in the particular girl because other people will see you supplicating or acting beta toward her. If she’s attracted and you’re not…let her be attracted then. Eventually when she realizes you haven’t chosen her she’ll move on but letting her get you angry or frustrated or beta’d will kill your vibe with anyone that see’s it or hears about it from her.
Now if you ARE interested, just keep being congruent, wear the pants and take her tests the way a parent handles an unruly child. Too much attention is the reward, don’t reward bad behavior. Freeze out or throw an IOD or neg and she’ll stop, then you give her attention only when she acts in a way that you like and approve of.
I’m a little confused when you say congruent. The woman shit tests you and you have to be congruent to pass them? What does congruent mean in this context (because the only time I ever heard that word was math class)?
A314 is characterized as an alpha male. Shit tests are essentially women testing your “high status”. Congruency is pretty much you not caring what they say (to try to test you) because in all honestly, it doesn’t matter. You know your worth, your values, and who you are. You don’t need her to validate that for you. Congruency is also your comfort in your own skin, the natural leader, the one who people look for direction. You’re neither a dictator or a ruler; you’re the General who everyone respects and follows, they follow you cause you earned it, you make people better by helping them be better. You’re the all around full package, she has to validate herself to you, not the other way around. That’s the image you need to BELIEVE and PORTRAY so that you have congruency with A314.
He’s got the idea there. When women try and shit test me I act as if I’m almost amused by it at first, I’m 38 and most of the women I date range from about 18/19-around 24 so play off that. I’m a mature older man and I find their attempts at ruffling me to be cute in a way…they find it infuriating lol.
Here’s a good example of passing a congruence test or shit test without looking like a jerk. You’re talking to a girl and things are looking good. When she says she see’s a friend and wants to go say hi to them so she asks you to hold her drink while she goes to meet her friend. This is bad, not only would you be holding her drink like the hired help, but you’re put in a situation where you’re standing around looking like a tool waiting on her, you’ll essentially surrender control. But how do you refuse without saying no and having her ask for a valid reason you can’t do her this favor?
Basically turn it around, tell her you have to go talk to one of your friends about something and offer to meet her back later in the night, or better yet say something like “Actually I’m going to go talk to a couple of friends about something, feel free to stop by when you’re done and I’ll introduce you to them.” Then walk away. You didn’t comply with her request and now she has to come to you if she wants the interaction to continue.
But shit testing can come in various forms, just don’t lose yourself in how hot the girl might be so much that you don’t realize it’s happening. If you feel like the girl is trying to treat you like you have a crush on her and she knows it, you’re probably being shit tested. The real tricky one is the ball busters. Some guys misinterpret teasing and ball busting as a sign the girl is not interested…women have options if she’s legitimately not interested she’ll walk away and tell you to simply leave her alone. However if she teases you and tries busting your chops with little off the cuff comments but she keeps talking to you, she’s actually interested but she wants to make sure you’re the kind of man that can handle her and not a spineless weenie.
I tend to dress a little flamboyantly when I’m sarging, Rock Republic, Roar, English Laundry shirts etc. If a girl tries to bust on my fashion sense or makes a snippy comment about a shirt or something I lean back, look her up and down with an analytical expression on my face and then without saying a word I make a look like “yeah, like I’m going to take fashion advice from you.” Then turn and start talking to somebody else in the group. The girl then goes “what?” and will start asking you to explain the look. Be dismissive “oh it’s nothing”, she’ll keep pressing the issue more often than not though, the more you dodge the issue the harder she’ll try to get you to say what’s on your mind. Offer to tell her later and then change the subject. The look framed the interaction to express that her opinion means little to you, her reaction to it strengthens the frame by showing that your opinion conversely means a lot to her. See what I mean?
I don’t know about the drink one, I don’t see that as a shit test… not sure if it’s unique to where I live but the hold the drink for a sec I’ve gotta go to X area is pretty common and I ask it to friends male/female pretty often and would be rude not to return the favor
I usually just say “I’m going to drink it, you do realise this?” in the sly voice, and usually I do take a few mouthfuls, just enough to make it obvious I wasn’t kidding
Then I give them shit if they do the same to me
Then stop holding their drinks immediately. This is not necessarily a shit test, but a compliance test.
What you have to be careful of here is setting the “tone” of the relationship if there is one eventually. What happens is things like commitment and consistency begin to occur, now what is this? This is where she now sees you as the guy who’ll hold her shit when she needs to go do something. You know that boyfriend / husband who’s holding the purse while she’s perusing some skirts.
You should be using such compliance tests on HER. This is done to see if she is compliant with your wishes and sees you as the strong male type she might be interested in. As the night, or follow up dates occur, you amp up the compliance tests until you’ve got her in bed with you.
This is all very important stuff that enables you to escalate kino among other things… so STOP! Be the man she wants you to be.
Are you talking to me? Or in general? Cause I’m a little beyond the basic pickup 101 tips lol thanks anyway…
wow Radman all your posts are very valuable to me..very nice..have a nice weekend!!! today is my first try with a314…finding my sweet spot.