Thats just rude and ignorant. I would call them out on it. "others… there are others ??? Or say something like… Thanks your a nice (insert race) and only half as ignorant as the others " See this way your still calling them ignorant but they are not quite sure … Snort.
Tisha
Yea I didnt see when Tisha already asked you about the IM convo. anyway I see that’s been cleared up
as for your friend and his sister, I guess I find it hard to believe that she would believe such things and not him but hey you know him I guess and yes the whole “you’re an exception” nonsense is very insulting and Im glad you call people out on that..those who dont are the ones who end up being “the black friend” racists bring up as an excuse when they put their foot in their mouths in public
thanks for letting me know..I checked out IS/A on the site and for some reason it doesnt specifically call it IS/A, it does for the full bottle but not the to-go one..so I wanted to be sure
Exactly! They think they’re complimenting me, but they do it by putting down an entire race I’m apart of, talking about it factually as if they’re the Jane Goodall of black people and it’s extremely insulting. People love to make a big deal about my race and it’s really fucking weird. To the point where I could be at a party and some drunk arse dude will just come up to me and have a conversation about my race while doing all he can to show me he’s not a racist. Huh?
Anyway, gone are the days where I would voluntarily be the “Black Friend: Get Out of Racism Free!” card and even then, that is such a cop-out and doesn’t mean shit. Just last year, I had two friends who had feelings for me before, both white. I rejected them both. Politely, of course!
There were no issues or anything, but tell me why I see them both on the same day on Facebook calling some shit rapper (Soulja Boy, if I remember? My god, that guy is ATROCIOUS!) the n word and other racial slurs pertaining to black people. I immediately called them both out on their status saying they’re both being extremely offensive and why the hell are they using racial slurs for that asshole rapper. One deleted my comment, the other tried to defend the use of such slurs! I reposted my comment on the first one and told the other off that if he has such feelings against blacks, I will not disrespect myself by continuing our friendship. I also told this to the first one and removed them off facebook and kicked them out of my life. The first one began calling me obsessively and the other one for awhile kept trying to talk to me although all I would do was give him a raised eyebrow and stare silently.
The second one now spends his days trying to befriend my female black friends by overcompensating how he’s not a racist. Bwahahaha! Sorry, dearie. The alarm has already been rung.
Anyway, it’s so weird how people will give that kind of treatment when they usually don’t receive it back. Like that girl last week was just completely stuck on my race yet I didn’t mention a thing about her race because I didn’t care. Not her. She was like the energizer bunny of race, oh my god! I’m still shocked at her orangutan comment. But even though this treatment can get extremely annoying, I pride myself on not going down to such levels.
You will never see me point to a plate of saltine crackers and tell a white friend, “Look, it’s your family!” or a bowl of rice and tell an Asian friend, “Look, your people!” I don’t do such rudeness to comrades because I respect them. Even if they weren’t friends, I don’t have it in me to behave so tastelessly because I don’t like it myself.
I only want that same respect reciprocated.
Also, I’m newly single. :<
Cant believe you know anyone who would make such comments. I cant imagine anyone having the guts to even making such “jokes” around me. I really dont play like that
why are you newly single? what happened? Better get your pheros on!
I decided to break up with my boyfriend due to internal conflicts and our paths being far too different. I also prefer our friendship. I’m pretty sad, but I know I’ll heal.
Until then, I’m not going to care much for pheros. My social experiments will be put on hold until I feel I’m back to my old cheery self. I think I’ll be back in no time. ^^
Hot damn, girl it must have been hella funny watching the poor guy going like that, still, even though I find it comical, it is something to watch out for, friendships might get endangered quite easily.
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wish I had a male version of your witch mix..
I look at the world only one way. There is only one race and its called human. I love everybody equally until I am given a reason not to. That usually doesn’t happen either.
Be happy 
Mini update, everyone!
On Saturday, my friends and I joined a really fun anime beach party and had tons of fun. My friend and I were acting silly as always and it was just an awesome day for everyone all around.
Later that night after the beach party ended, we all went to a friend’s house to go swimming. I did consume alcohol and got a tad drunk. ^^; I was rambling on a bunch of subjects and one of them was how I care for all of my friends. So I was gushing to each friend how I care for them and when I got to my particular friend, I told him that I’m happy with our friendship despite us not ending up together, I hold no qualms, I have always wished him well and basically I care for him as a friend. Lots of “awww’s” from our friends, hehe. But he seemed.. disappointed, which is surprising.
Normally, one would react to such words of kindness with appreciation or gratitude, right? You know that false smile people will sometimes put on to hide a negative emotion? He had it all over his face and replied, “You’ve thought a lot about this, haven’t you?” in a sort of low tone with what sounded like hint of sadness. From then on he grew seriously quiet and kept to himself the rest of the night. Eventually, he left the jacuzzi and went inside to lay down.
When I was drunk, I didn’t really notice the effect my words of well-meaning gave him. But when I remember it and think about it, I feel kinda bad.
I’m still pretty sad about my breakup. I’ve been getting not so nice texts and voicemails from the ex so I’ve had my phone off since Saturday night. :\
I hope things have worked out for you Syn! I’m new here and still learning, but really appreciate you sharing your experiences.
I’m actually not in the least bit surprised 
However nice and undoubtedly well-intentioned you meant to be, from a guy’s point of view, - you pretty much ripped his balls off and handed them to him, in public!
So far I am having like 0 luck with the phers. I am glad tho that they are working for so many others. Just not for me. 
((SAD))