yea i agree about not cutting all communication 100% and the complaining about guys on her part. i just honestly didnt want to hear the same stuff over and over and over. i mean i know the kind of guys shes into and all of her bf’s had the same look and all and believe you me im not like that at all. yea i was actually about going out with a girl whos even hotter than her just for shits and giggles but this new girl is a pretty well rounded girl so hey not all hope is lost my friends =)
bosshank hit it on the head.
Remember that this is about a couple of years in the making.
First I became social. Buutttt got friend zoned too much and too often. I was meeting women constantly but nothing was ever happening.
Then I started the go hard go fast approach. Essentially, I overdid being a “jerk”. Now I had some women that literally hates me, but hey whatever, leasson learned.
Then I found the median, the nice guy that won’t take shit.
I wasn’t about to change who I was to suit my social needs. Deep down I cared about people, regardless of gender. I just found a way to still be who I am, but yet exciting at the same time.
For those women who friend zoned me, they saw other women that were equally, if not more attractive than they were. I was geniunely having fun with them and there was lots and lots of physical flirting going on. But from an outside perspective, it just looked like I was well put together. Social status is up, and likeability is up.
You will get tested, over and over again.
I’m a good judge of bs and some of the tests I got were. “Mustang, can you drive me home”, “Mustang, can you come help me do this tomorrow”, “Can I call you tomorrow I have to talk about something”
Now the KEY here, is not to deviate too far from what they know about you. If you start coming off like an arrogant jerk with his new found popularity, that’s just not cool, and also you don’t want to do that to your friends. So then some of the responses I used to give would be, “Sure, I’ll drive you home” but yet, I literally would do whatever I wanna do, leave when I want, and go eat afterwards, and she’s coming regardless. I never gave her a rundown of what I was going to do, when I was ready is when we left and when she got home. Again still am the nice guy, but did not cater to her. This is the subtle deviation that I talk about.
This one kept talking about the guys in her life. Before I would just listen, give advice, reaffirm. Now I listen, and tell it how it is, change the subject, and be the “friend” who took her out to get her mind off of things. The difference with that is, you show her exactly the fun side about you, what girls would be attracted to. Do things that would be a change of scenery and nothing that you two have done before. This in my experiences helps reference new places with the new feelings you’re trying to acheive when it comes to her. I have some spots in NYC that help evoke good feelings. Works pretty darn good lol.
You show her a good time, start a little attraction and build up to it. Then disappear for a couple of days. Go on another date, go out with the boys, go away for the weekend, complete tasks, whatever it may be. If she calls I always answer, and I’ll tell you why. When I say little deviations from time to time, with someone who knows you so well, the changes have to be slow and subtle. I would get on the phone, and cut off the conversation in a few mins. You won’t come off as someone trying to play the stupid call me but i’ll miss the call because we had an awesome time yesterday BS. You’ll be her friend who did answer, but couldn’t stay long because you have your own things going on. It’ll show her you still care, but it’ll have her thinking, “he usually spends as much time with me as I need”. Automatically there is going to be something thats going to get her thinking, also make sure you don’t say “I’m sitting around”, if you have to lie and that you’re doing something important, say it. During the call back, you talk about how your day was, how awesome it was. This is going against pretty much everything that’s preached here, but you have to understand also that you’re starting to deviate from the norm with her. Let her talk about what problems she might have, or she might not.
I took this from my own experiences, and while this wasn’t the girl I mentioned before, this was a girl I was friend zoned, hardcore. It wasn’t a scumbag sitation at all, but she hooked up with a friend of mine prior, and I was the middle man trying to help her. We had some great fun for a while, but I was still beta so that’s partly why it didn’t last.
As for the mones.
A314, A314, A314… IDC what anyone says about it, how its too serious, it frigging works, and it works very well.
I don’t react to -none well, or I just haven’t foudn the right dosage yet, but P75 works for me, and so does IH and P83. I can create the tension, this helps me build the connection and rapport.
My approach have been significantly different the advice above. Since you’re still new to this, it may or may not work. I know it did for me, but I’ve found better ways, but you should start to familiarize yourself with the principles of attraction. How to escalate, KINO, inner game. I took bits and peices from everyone and got to where I am. Just like the mones, you have to tailor these things to yourself and the sitation. Everything is so different and everyone reacts differently that there can’t ever be a cutting board for these things.
I hope things work out well and Good Luck.
P51Mustang = Epicness i couldnt have said it better myself wow my eyes have been opened
What most of these girls don’t realize with their “best friends” is that we wouldn’t be best friends with them in the first place if we had no sexual interest.
Don’t fool yourself, they realize it, but if they figure if your t levels are too low to get you going for what you want in life, then you’d make a better shopping partner than a lover.
yea they def know