A couple of weeks ago (before I started using any pheros) I went on two weeks work experience in an office (I’m 21 by the way). Whilst there I met an awsome girl who works there and who was only a year older than myself. As a part of the 2 weeks it was arranged that I was to work with her for a few days. We got on great, talked and laughed lots (including the usual arm touching etc etc) and went out to lunch with each other a couple of times (both with others and on our own) - it really did feel like we ‘clicked’.
Therefore, after the two weeks were up I decided to facebook her (I know I chose the lame way but I ran out of confidence at the time face to face) to ask her if she wanted to go for a few drinks etc. I thought that her answer would certainly be yes as we got on so great consistanly previously. However, her answer was along the lines of ‘I’m a little busy at the moment but when we (i.e. her work mates whom I also got to know fairly well) have a night out I’ll let you know’.
How should I interpret this? Should I take it as a sign of her not being interested? Or should I take it as a sign of her maybe wanting to take things slow considering she could have just said no and left it at that and also considering the great time we had together!
NB - I’d love to be able to get to know her better outside of the formal office environment and with the aid of some pheros! lol.
You are reading into this too much. I would not worry about this as being a subliminal rejection.
Next time though, when you invite her to something, make it seem like you are doing her a favor inviting her. Also make your companionship and presence fleeting.
Here, you asked her if she would like to go somewhere. The result being if she says no or maybe, that you probably would not go. Instead, say, “I’m going down with a few friends and though you would like to join.” If she says no, give her the impression that it is her loss.
For the phero angle, look into the socials. Sounds like you are still building rapport with her. Look into ammo, and IFM. When you mentioned “arm touching,” did you touch her back? You want to give her the signal that you might be interested in her sexually or risk being dropped into “lets just be friends” limbo.
Thanks for your help… some great advice there too about making it her loss if she says no etc. I’d love to try again and invite her to an ice hockey game which I go to with friends (pretty much every week - the season starts in a few weeks). However, I don’t want to make it seem like I’m nagging or harrassing her by asking her again. Any ideas how I can get around this? Another problem is that I havn’t really spoken to her for a few weeks as when she replied she said she’d get back to me sometime. Would it look needy to re-initiate with her again?
In regards to the arm touching/grabbing, yeah I did touch her back a few times… I wanted to make it clear that I wanted to touch her if that makes sense.
I second what tenant said. Think about it like this. If someone asked you to do something, you responded with i’m a little busy with work but i’ll invite you out sometime, What would you expect them to say?
It would be a little weird if you played it off like shes rejecting you (i dont think she is). Lol it might even hurt her feelings . Maybe just a simple message back along the lines of sounds like fun. Could throw in a joke or whatever.
Thanks for the advice… I replied to the message about two weeks ago now and had nothing back from her since. Should I wait it out until she contacts me again (if so how long?) or should I contact her now to keep the ‘vibe’ going? Liek I said above, I think inviting her to a hockey game with friends would be a good idea?
That’s good that you touched her back. It makes you more of a sexual creature in her eyes and less likely to be just a friend. I would invite her to the hockey game, but if she flakes again I would eject this set and move onto someone else. Try and do it in person this time, wear some pheros, maybe some Ammo. I don’t know what kind of self-esteem this girl has, but a base layer of A314 might be good too if you have some.
If it all ends adversely, move on. You must not get caught up on one girl.
. Maybe just a simple message back along the lines of sounds like fun. Could throw in a joke or whatever.