Hi
i am super new to all this, i havent ever tried or done any research nore have i ever written on a forum? before. some how when i read a few postings? everyone here semms so warm and helpful.
Please help me, where and what type of pheromone would you suggest? I basically want to attract my boyfriend whom seems as though the “fire” along with other things have burnt out. He dosent even seem to be attracted to me at all anymore.
mahalo for taking the time to read my delema
Hi aloha808! A lot of us here are in, ahem, time-tested relationships and use pheromones to keep things interesting. You might want to try Instant Sexiness from Androtics and also Essence of Woman from Love-Scent. I also like to use a little bit of androstenone with my copulins for when things heat up… NPA/w over a Love-Scent is a good one for that. Check out the stickies at the top of the women’s section for tips on how to use these. Have fun putting the spark back!
Thank you sooo much. I will definately take your advice.
Welcome aloha!
You might want to post your question over at the womens section, too - there are many friendly and helpful people there. And make sure to read the sticky posts at the top of the forum.
Have a great time!
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Hi Aloha, welcome to the forum!
Great to have another woman joining us. Carrie has offered great advice. The womens section stickies are very helpful. Post away with your questions over there when you’re ready. This article is an excellent source of copulins info too. Copulins: pheromone excerpts from The Science of Sex
Essence of woman and Npa are both strong smelling products and take a little learning and experimenting to get right. You could try the edge gel packs over at love-scent instead of npa so you’ll only be dealing with masking the scent of essence of woman until you’re more experienced.
Lust after me reads as if it is easier to use than essence of woman, or Dirty for the androstenone plus copulins kick, but I am speculating I have not used either of those yet. Instant Sexiness is a great start regardless of your other choices.
Enjoy!
Hello Hawaii.
Ah the only state in the Union that you can get Leis in public without getting arrested. LOL.
Yeah I know about the pun but I just can’t resist a good one like that.
You know although pheromones will help you in getting things a bit more heated to an extent there still has to be some emphasis on why things are not the way they used to be. Sorry to burst everyones bubble (No pun there meant BubbleBob) but I think if you put too much emphasis on the pheromones you’ll be disappointed.
They will help you get the spark, but the real thing is (As in life too) there has to be something for the spark to light. Anyone can make sparks but if theres no kindling then there’s no fire. Once the kindling burns out if there’s no wood to burn then, as in many relationships the fire dies out.
I am not a relationship counselor but I know of a lot of fires that burn hot from kindling and then once it is gone so is the relationship. My suggestion would be to use the pheromones as the spark to ignite the kindling, which could be things like romantic walks along the beach, flowers (men like getting flowers too), a nice home cooked meal, sexy lingerie, and that sort of stuff.
Us men talk a good game but in the end we all like romantic stuff just as much as our ladies.
Here’s where it can get a bit complicated though. Like I said the romantic stuff above is good for kindling, but what makes the fire last and keep us warm is whats really important. As I’m sure you already know looks fade, but love is a verb. When one of my girlfriends asked me what my definition of love was I told her: it is passion for that person, to hold, to cuddle, to have affection, to be one with her, a complete and utter trust and regard for her. Timeless, effortless adoration.
Love is a verb so when people tell me they don’t love anymore (I’m not saying you don’t) I wonder what it is that they mean. Have they simply forgot that all you have to do is look up love in the dictionary and then do what the definition is. It is really quite simple in my reality. Love does not have to be reserved for one person or thing. I love lots of people and things.
What is this crazy guy SteveO saying anyway and what does this all have to do with pheromones. Well, like I’ve said: pheromones are a good way to get a spark, to light the romantic kindling but if we want it to last we fuel the fire with love and no matter how hard any forces try to extinguish our fire of love, love will always prevail.
Has the fire gone out or was it really a fire at all? I commend you for taking steps to find out, and wish you all the best in your future endeavors. Good luck and post often. We are all here to help, although sometimes our opinions will vary.
I am sending your GC to your email tonight.