Ok, so I’ve started a bit of a slow boiling romance with a girl at work. I’m 39/Caucasian and she’s 25/Asian. It started in late December… I’ve intentionally been taking it slower than normal since I work with her. She’s been pursuing me all this time and we’ve been spending more and more time together. We’re going to a baseball game this weekend and even though neither of us have used the word “date” it’s definitely a date… she can’t stop talking about it and is really excited. Sooo… I have two ways I can go with the pheros and I can’t decide which one to choose so help me out. Here’s what I’m thinking:
Option #1:MX200. I actually still have some of this around and I’ve seen it referred to as “Asian Persuasion” in this forum… LOL! For that reason alone I’m considering going with it and nothing else just to see if it lives up to the name. I’ve never worn it around her to this point though.
Option #2: I have already seen her respond very well to Ammo and IH so I was considering those two plus A314. The A314 would be good as I’ve noticed she’s been “shit testing” me and that would ensure I have no issues getting respect from her.
Do you have any IS? or are you limited to what you listed in your OP?
Chinese & Filipino girls in my experience really dig the 1:2 Ammo/IS combo.
I haven’t tried MX200, but I’ve been playing around with Ammo, P83 and IS and found it to be an interesting and effective mix.
How long have you been testing that combo, Bandit? I’m ASSUMING that’s regular strength AMMO and IS, yes?
Anybody else in search of something sweet, something beautiful and something Chinese or Filipino, tested that combo? If not, he could be on to something!
I’ve been playing around with the Ammo + IS mix for about a year and its always gotten me a ton of IOIs from chinese and filipino girls in particular. I have 1x ammo and 2x is, so I normally wear 1 spray of each to get me to the 1:2 ratio.
Recently I’ve been adding p83 to the mix and it really amplifies the amount of flirting that goes on. I don’t think I’ve been able to figure out the right dosage yet, but I’ve had fun times ranging from 7.5-30mcg.
Sorry for such a scattered post, I’m posting from my phone.
I do have some IS but didn’t mention it because it’s the one product I really haven’t had much luck with. I also have P83… at this point I’m leaning towards going with what I know know works for sure… maybe Ammo, P83 and 1 drop of A314? She responds really well to Ammo so I think I gotta roll with that for sure.
Yeah 2 things. #1 make sure its a date. I mean that seriously. Clarify that…say it out loud too her. Even if she thinks it is and you think it is, a woman wants a man who makes his claim in this world. Not on her, but if you’re ambiguous and say things like…“let’s just hang out.” It creates a lot of confusion as to what the situation really is, makes it difficult for you to progress things and move them along for even a kiss.
I’ve seen Tish even give this advice around here before…but anyway… women and people in general like a man who’s decisive and knows what he wants. So say it loud and say it proud to her…“Okay Saturday night…its a date!”
#2 A314 is not going to cause her to stop shit testing you. It may even increase the amount of shit testing she’s giving you. What you need to understand is shit testing is not a negative thing from someone who’s attracted to you. It says she’s interested in seeing how strong you are, and can she borrow that strength when times get tough if she decides you are long term material.
Its not that she does not respect you, she wants to respect you even more. If you fail these shit tests and no I"m not talking about the stupid little “hold my drink” in a bar shit tests. I’m talking about the ones where she finds holes in your boundaries and pushes buttons and you react like an emotional wuss bag, then you will truly lose her respect.
Anytime I have failed in a relationship. Its because I took “shit testing” way too serious. I got caught up in looking for it and calling it out and just taking things way too friggin’ serious.
Just chill, let things roll off your back unless its just down right rude and classless then call her on it.
But if she needs to go to the bathroom and pee and asks you to watch her purse and you tell her in no uncertain terms will you be treated like her gay boyfriend holding a purse while she’s out doing whatever…she’s just gonna think you’re bat shit crazy…just hold the damn purse or soda whatever and not let it affect you in anyway shape or form.
I agree 100% with #2. I know she’s trying to figure out if I’m boyfriend material. I get all that and I’ve learned to just roll with it as you said.
As for #1… normally I would agree with you but this situation is different because we work together. So, I’m purposely taking this slower than I normally would. If this doesn’t turn into anything serious I want to be sure we preserve a friendship and things don’t get awkward or weird at work. This is a tricky situation and I should know because I once dated someone at work. So, I’ve been flirting with her but I’ve intentionally taken my foot off the gas pedal with her because work relationships are a whole different ballgame. Of course, if this “date” goes well then I might change my tune and be more aggressive…
