callin all men that used to b shy, plz help me b more sociable

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alright i completely understand that even with mones i have to do 90% of the work. So i have a few questions that i cant seem to find the answers to, at least not to my specific dilemma. Ive already purchased about six mones, i even managed to get the last bottle of ammo the other day, lucky me.

So I want to know this, how can I be more sociable and meet new people/women? If I decide to go to a club or bar, even though they scare the hell outta me. What would b a good mix to start out and tweak to find my own path so to speak? I am a 24 y/o black male tryin to mainly attract hispanic, caucasion, and asian women. The mones I have and have on the way are as follows. a314, tuth, ammo, is, ig, and io.

I also have a question about fashion. I received some great advice from silly kitty. Thanx a lot. My new question is this. I was told casual sneakers go well. So i was wondering if low cut air force one are considered casual? Or would I have to lean more to the addidas or k-swiss styles? I would prefer a woman answer these fashion questions.

Also im short as f*** im only 5’4. so its killin me inside for the most part. I know i gotta have confidence and all that but what is a good way to approach women and how the hell can i break out this comfort zone hell im livin in. Thanx in advance for ANY advice and help.

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One of the most important pieces of advice that I received while I was a teen and tremendously helped me get out of my shell was the following:
Hold your head up high and always look people in the eye. Don’t walk with your head down and looking at the floor. And maintain that eye contact throughout the entire conversation. It’s taken a lot of practice but looking people in the eyes is very important towards gaining the respect of others and especially helping your own self confidence. Also, always give a good strong handshake. You’re definitely going to have to work harder than others with your height but we all have something that could be better. Therefore you work on the things you do have control over.

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May be a mild chemical imbalance. I’m not whole hog sold on the idea that every personality problem needs to be treated with medicine. OTOH some forms of social anxiety disorder do respond to the appropriate medications.
Also some binaural beat CDs can be very relaxing, help you get into a comfortable social space. I like the BinauralBeats product titled Total Relaxation, creates a very centered, calm focus state. Also the pheromones p86 and p96 seems to have a peaceful, socially confident, well integrated quality about them, they blend nicely with p74 if you want a confortable, low pressure frame of mind.

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You can be more sociable by simply smiling and saying hi. Being sociable is not hard and it should be fun not a chore or something. Nothing external, such as mones, is going to help your internal, such as confidence.

Go out and force yourself to meet new people. I would suggest getting a part time job as a server. I was shy in high school but then I got a job as a server and it forced me out of my comfort zone. Now I’m in college and I’m no longer shy about meeting new people and most of all I have fun doing it.

As for being 5’4", do you think every man in history under 6’ has never had success with women? The answer is no. Some of the most powerful men were short. Basically you should get over the stuff that you have no control over and fix the other things that you can control.

The nike air force 1’s are casual but they aren’t unique. There’s nothing special about them and you want to stand apart from the crowd in a fashion sense or else to women you’re an average joe. Don’t be too flashy but you don’t want dull and boring.

As for the mones I like the A314 and IS combo the most. It isn’t the most extravagant mix but it is a simple combo that gets the job done. Less is more sometimes.

Good luck

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thanks for the credit…anyways, low cut AF1s are fine. Any shoe will be fine as long as there not flashy. The brands I got are Creative Recreation (by Kanye West), DC, Addidas, and K-Swiss.

For Shirts: EXPRESS: FOR HIM

Jeans: Men’s - Jeans - American Eagle Outfitters

For Express don’t forget to look under graphic tees…and since you are short and stalky, tighter fitting shirts will look good on you (no homo)

As for the jeans: Buy the lighter color jeans first, the distressed style seem to be in.

Also,buy some accessories that help you distinguish you from the rest, ie: special necklaces, military caps, etc. Its all ways good to have the girls ask you “whats that?”…now you have something to talk about right there.

BTW in my experience, all ethnicities like this style

You might be in for a surprise on that ammo you just ordered, it dosnt smell too good.

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1 any shoes bro, but i wear forces

2 smile starting an hour before until u go, this helps me big time, it will release endorphins within 5 mins and contine till ur there and while ur there youll want to be social and ull come off as a person with high social status, because people with serious faces or sad/depressed faces are really just sharing with the world how unsatified they are with there lives and no woman of value will wish to align with a male that she percieves as having life problems plain and simple

people dont want to be around negative emotions, because most believe it will rub off on them. this 1 principle increased my game drematically.

smile all day, the day u go out, and even wider while ur there, and people WILL gravatate towards u. seeking to leech that happiness ur displaying to keep for themselves.

so
1 shoes dont matter, as long as there clean and fresh looking, i wear kswiss or forces
2 smile big the entire day or atleast for an hour before u go out, it will help not only ur self esteem but also make people curios about u, its extremely hard to be mean to people who are smiling ever notice that, so sets will open more easily.
3 go out 3 times a week atleast, being social takes practice no matter what anyone says. there is a natural reluctance that all humans have to socialize with people u dont know, and this approach anxiety only intensifys toward beautiful woman we see. so practice getting familiar with the sensation/adrenaline rush that most(including myself) get when going out and seeking new mates.
4 groom ur self this should acually be number 1 but im doing these off the top of my head. such as shaving the bak of ur neck, nose hairs etc w/e u have, get a hair cut, i cut my own hair every wed so its always fresh when i start gaming wed through sunday night

hmmmm now for the mones

i have really only gotten familiar with the main line so im gonna suggest only those

1 instant shine on beard, or upper lip - i do this to make it even easier to smile while approaching groups of people

2 cttm or instant openness - on forearms - helps sets (people) hook ( engage with u ) a lil easier

3 tuth on chest or ijerk - THIS is BY FAR MY FAV

once ur in C1 or just (comfort) the sexual mones help skip through the talking that is in actuality supposed to happen but i think can wait till after youve slept together lol.

but to each his own if ur not going for a same night lay then switch tuth with ihonesty x4 ( she will tell her life story) expecially if ur dumb enough to ask a large hoop A3 question like
’ what did u want to be when u were 7 ’
like i have and resulted in way to much talkin and not enough kissin lol but ih x4 will reduce lmr dramatically just from letting her story tell then at the end of the night add a sexual mone.
or wear them both on different sides of ur chest but i like to do 1 at a time it helps me guage whether there workin the way there sposed to.

but anyways
1 instant shine on face or on wrist
2 instant openness or cttm on wrists
3 tuth or ihonesty depending where ur wanting the night to go

-other then that get involved in the pua communities such as venisuanarts forum
or inner game forums

from ur statement it seems u need inner game improvent so seek forums that discuss approach anxiety / negative self talk etc

real social dynamics forum is good pertaining to that subject. and even if ur seeking to meet guy friends inner game forums can help suggest methods to override shyness.

sry for typos typed this from my cell lol because im that bored on christmas with the fam lol

NUMBER 1 THING U MUST CHANGE - NEVER AGAIN LABEL URSELF AS SHY, ANTI SOCIAL ETC

ur own beliefs about ur self determines the world around you. if u keep saying everyday im shy anti social etc

then u will be no matter how many mones u wear. say instead ’ u know what im a great great guy and im gonna let people find out tonight how fun and social I am’ or w/e u want to say to help u relax, these are referred to as affirmations. many can be found online.

repeat them continually and they will help u truly override thoughs negative beliefs of being shy inadequate etc.

or just make up ur own, i jsut say random positve things to myself outloud when i iron my shirt before i go out, it helps really.. it might feel stupid but its amazin how little things can dramatically change ur night

for instance if u chanted(affirmation) - I am so much fun, women love me. all day long I bet money u will have a good time that night and leave with someone.

1 groom
2 smile big
3 no negative self talk
4 ur shoes dont matter plain and simple u can do pua barefoot if ur congruent
5 affirmations
6 pua forums for inner game
7 lastly pheros listed above

ur self beliefs determine reality.

not pheromones - but they sure are fun lol

good luck man really

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denigro153 aint talking BS bro…affirmations work but you have to do them everyday, it takes about two weeks to re-program your brain. In your car, do em, when your by yourself, do em. Make sure you use “I” not “You”…“I am comfortable and confidant” for example. Write down atleast 10 affirmations and repeat them daily. Great PUA and business leaders have used this technique to get them ahead of the game and you should too. Thats one secret they don’t tell people about but now you know.

Do it, don’t it…It’s your choice

Nate

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wow man, this is some great advice. some of it i have heard before but a lot i havent. i appreciate u takin the time out to write all of that. means a lot to a guy like me. ima take what u said and use as a start. hell, i feel like i got a head start now. thanx a lot

NUMBER 1 THING U MUST CHANGE - NEVER AGAIN LABEL URSELF AS SHY, ANTI SOCIAL ETC

ur own beliefs about ur self determines the world around you. if u keep saying everyday im shy anti social etc

then u will be no matter how many mones u wear. say instead ’ u know what im a great great guy and im gonna let people find out tonight how fun and social I am’ or w/e u want to say to help u relax, these are referred to as affirmations. many can be found online.

repeat them continually and they will help u truly override thoughs negative beliefs of being shy inadequate etc.

or just make up ur own, i jsut say random positve things to myself outloud when i iron my shirt before i go out, it helps really.. it might feel stupid but its amazin how little things can dramatically change ur night

for instance if u chanted(affirmation) - I am so much fun, women love me. all day long I bet money u will have a good time that night and leave with someone.

1 groom
2 smile big
3 no negative self talk
4 ur shoes dont matter plain and simple u can do pua barefoot if ur congruent
5 affirmations
6 pua forums for inner game
7 lastly pheros listed above

ur self beliefs determine reality.

not pheromones - but they sure are fun lol

good luck man really

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Smile and talk to everyone. Go to McD’s, place your order, ask the girl behind counter how she’s doing. smile. Repeat several time at several locations.

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and change ur usernames on all ur accounts to something that embodies the person ur tryin to be, NOT something that says shy or etc, this might seem like a small detail but ur brain is reinforcing those negative self beliefs not only when u say ‘im shy etc’ but also whenever u type in shyconspirancy to login especially if ur using something similar for all ur online accounts, u need to find every detail about ur life that renforces that self perception of being shy etc.
and flip all thoughs things to be congruent with who u really want to be.

and try and study nlp if u have the resources its will really inform u about how to correctly talk to yourself and controlling negative/positive thoughts

because thats what the problem really is, if u think ur low value shy etc, then it wont matter what shoes u wear, what mones u have or whether ur a brand new millionaire.

the end result will be a millionaire with shiny shoes wofting of mones and completely shy.
nothing over rides ur thoughts so if u want to be good- social

all u really have to do - is truly believe u can be
and ur reflection upon the world will adjust accordingly

summed up remove all references in ur daily life that label u as shy etc and flip them to reflect the person u want to be. this although small as it may seem will really start to reprogram thoughs negative self beliefs into something more useful for where u want ur life to go.

hope this helps

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dam son, u either been in my shoes or u know someone who is like me. cuz u hit the nail right on the head. some of the things u said i never even thought about before. and i also admit that u r right about a lot. it must b showin through my words cuz u pretty much got me all figured out. scary. but i appreciate man. im downloadin a few nlp and seduction books right now. and i also read a few inner game forums. i got a long way to go but u definately helped me make that first step. i appreciate man. dont know y u went all out like this for me but i wont be let in be for nothin.

~~~tried that a314 earlier and i felt like a king. i pushed myself to be a little more confindent in public and the results were amazing. weird how something as little as a smile and eye contact can affect how people act.

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Can someone tell me what Neurolinguistic programming is and how you do it. Im concerned because it looks kinda sketchy. If its anything like that hypnosis crap then ill pass.

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i kept hearin about it and wondered the same thing. here is a short explanation i found. makes sense to me.

NLP.COM - What is NLP

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no problem man

i did use to be shy somewhat atleast when it came to going after the women i truly wanted

me 2 years ago- would just stare at the women that i actually date now which to this day still puts a huge smile on my face and boggles my mind. something i wished so badly i could do before is my reality. that probably is why i preach trying and not just accepting things so much, because when u do decide to change i mean really change, then life is urs for the taking

through a great desire to learn social dynamics and self improvement @ am extremely closer to being the man i used to wish i was.

I actually wrote a list of the things i wanted in my life- then another list of 5 or so things i would commit to do everyday to help me make that first list my reality

the two lists are posted on my bedroom door so i see them before i leave each morning and also in my bathroom mirror it actually is a fantastic dhv the next morning after bringing a girl bakc to my place when they go to the bathroom they ALWAYS ask me what the list is about, and u simply explain that u have goals and imbetions for ur life and u are determined to make them happen which is extremely attractive to most females

wishing and hoping will get u no where - taking action will create change immediately ur posture will correct, ull feel good, then ull go out side with a true belief that ’ u know what im fxxxing tyte and im gonna let people see it today’ i guarantee people will gravitate towards u.
and this gravitation will result in u being forced to be more social, and this effect repeated every day will erase thoughs negative beliefs and reprogram what u truly think of urself and what u think u deserve

’ u can change in under a minute, it only takes a minute to say NEVER AGAIN, all it takes is a minute and everything changes, u only have to
start ’ - anthony robbins

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well i c people r readin this a lot so whoever is readin feel free to speak up. any tips are helpful and all questions will be answered. if anyone else is new here i just wanna assure that this is a very profesional and friendly forum. thanx so much to every1

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Ok I see, IDK about it though, Ill ask around about whether if its ethical or not. Im always careful about these so called “programs” because they ca prove to be much more “spiritual” than it sounds and I don’t play with that sh*t. I mean idk for sure I could just be talking out of my ass but until someone proves this stuff to be safe, Ill gladly take the long route. Im completely against physics and hypnosis practices.

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nlp - teaches u how to reprogra
m ur personal thoughts and the way u talk to urslef, also how to manipulate how others feel by changin ur self

it teaches u that saying certain things in certain ways can have vastly different phsycological effects

i am shy
vs
right now im acting shy

are vastly different and nlp will teach the distinctions between the to and the different effects saying one over the other would have.

but that really is just a small piece of what nlp can do

it teaches u how to talk to urself correctly
also how to say specific things to others to get a desired response (hyponotism) basically

and also body language mirror ing

but again im not a hypotist and doubt i could hypnotize anyone but nlp greatly helped me steer my own mind in a way to be more consistant with what i want in life.

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Is it a book or something you would have to see a phycologist about?

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books - seminars – but youll have to find them

amazon.com will have plenty on the subject or even college librarys mine does.

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i guess you can try nlp, but keep in mind that it has a reputation for a very low success rate