- I am a physician. I used to be a general surgeon. I closed my practice 13 years ago because of fatigue, hypertension, and stress. A year later I had mid-brain bleed complicated with acute hydrocephalus requiring an emergency ventriculoperitoneal shunt. I almost died prior to surgery, but recovered almost miraculously with no obvious neurological effects except some fatigue. Later, I noted difficulties in multiple areas of functioning that made it difficult for me to keep jobs. I found that because of multiple areas of mild damage, I had developed some memory problems, ADD, OCD, anxiety, and depression. Some of my compulsive behavior was higly objectionable to my wife. She asked me to live with my brother for a while until I got my act together. I currently must take Vyvanse for ADD, Luvox for OCD, tiny doses of Xanax for anxiety and to suppress a desire to scratch the old shunt wound on my right scalp, and St. Johns Wort for mild depression. I have taken Avodart for BPH for four years and developed low testosterone for which I am now taking about 100mg topical testosterone cream daily. My wife almost divorced me, and I am still living away from her. However, she has just decided not to divorce me and wants me to go ahead with plans to declare total disability for which we will get about $2700/ month but no Medicare insurance for about two years!. Oddly, my wife has for many years avoided kissing me. She does not like being kissed even in private and hasn’t for a long time. I don’t have bad breath
- I am overweight (6", 250 lbs.), but not horribly ugly. I have full head of salt and pepper color hair and brown eyes. She is thin and lovely (5’ 8", 115 lbs and size 2-4 dress size.) I weighed between 190-200 lbs until I went through andropause at about age 45. We have had four wonderful, highly successful children and have been married for 35 years. We have been active in our church for our entire lives. We see each other on weekends and are still intimate, but I usually need Viagra or Cialis to have good erections. I miss my wife very much and wish that I could elicit more aggressive sexual responses from her. She has always been somewhat Tomboyish and is shy by nature. My psychiatrist believes she may be a latent lesbian, although she has never had any overt lesbian relationships. One of her best friends looks like a butch lesbian, but I am certain that she has had not intimate relations with her or anyone else but me, male or female. I have used Realm for men, but it did seem to help increase her desire for me at all. She is extremely busy giving piano lessons to 80 students in their homes. She is tired and quite anxious all the time. She seem hypomanic at times, but she is very dependable and has never been out of control sexually. She does not think of herself sexy and is highly reluctant to do so even in private. She 1 year post-menopausal, has frequent hot flashes, takes only DHEA – no hormone replacement therapy. She is always moist but is frustrated by my difficulties maintaining erections. I could use some pheromones to relax my longings for her when I am away from her, if that is possible. Also I could use some pheromones to increase her desire for me. I don’t know if my wife has some lesbian tendencies orr not, but my psychiatrist thinks that her reluctance to kiss me may be due to some highly suppressed lesbian tendencies. Consequently she could respond to female pheromones more than to male pheromones. Also I wonder if I would feel less anxious if I were exposed to or perhaps even wore some relaxing female-like pheromones . I don’t know what to order–more male pheromones, relaxing female/male pheromones or even super sex-motivating female pheromones around her. Would doing so help me with with my ED problems and separation anxiety/depression problems? (I don’t have diabetes, hypertension, heart or cardiovascular disease and respond well to Viagra and even MagnaRx when I can afford to buy these.) Please have an expert in this field look over my case and tell me what he or she thinks about my case. Sincerely, James L. Hopkins, MD
Hi Dr. Hopkins, and welcome!
I am sorry to learn of your misfortunes, but glad that wife has decided to stay. Your situation and needs are unique and complex, and I do not yet have the experience to properly guide you.
Tisha, Steve or one of the more senior members of this forum would be best able to assist you though. If they are not along soon, I will make sure they are informed of your need for assistance.
James, welcome to the forum.
You clearly enter with well above average knowledge when it comes to attraction, hormones, and related biological and psychological triggers and results.
You also appear to be in regular communication with other experts within the medical and psychological spheres - so I’ll keep this response targeted to the pheromone products available through SmartMones/Androtics (IMO the best).
I suggest you research Instant Honesty, Instant Openness, Shine and Instant Female Magic pheromone products. I do not think it is necessary for you to wear a female pheromone - Instant Honesty and Instant Openness should satisfy the requirements.
Regarding your wife - that’s a big call to suggest she has lesbian tendencies.. Could it possibly be related to the aging process and menopause? Do you think she could or would kiss a female? Have you seen or are you suspicious of her kissing anyone recently? At this stage, other than further questions I can say if she is perhaps having a last look back at youth, perhaps a product like Shine, that gives the wearer a youthful happy ‘shine’ might do the trick.
James, if possible, research the forum and store in depth then return and give us more information on your thoughts.
Thanks and good luck.
Hi there,
Welcome to the forum.
Sorry to hear about your problems.
I suggest you try IH and TUTH. IH will enhance the relationship. She will talk more personal and make her closer to you.
TUTH is to sexually arouse her. With the right dosage, it can helps in your sexual relationship.
Good luck
Hello There James, Welcome to Pherotalk 
First let me say while Yes I am a pheromone expert of sorts with some medical knowledge I am not a doctor and we do not cover medical issues here so anything medical we discuss here are suggestions for you to research and draw your own conclusions on.
Pheromones are cosmetic enhancers and not treatments for any of the conditions you have described above. Scientifically they are in there infancy still and not much is known about how they work in conjunction with your conditions.
Pheromones enter the brain triggering certain neurotransmitters sending signals though certain pathways and what you need to be careful with is using mones that can trigger transmitters that can worsen your condition. I am not saying they will worsen it but its something to be aware of and watch for. Your a Doctor you know the drill.
It is also possible that they can improve Cognitive function depending on what mone your using.
Now your beyond andropause and have low testosterone so you most likely do not make a high output of anone the male aggressive sexual mone. Still with the conditions you described above I would suggest in choosing a anone product you start with the lowest dose and a buffered product like AMMO. Start slow with them and pay attention to how you feel as well as to how she reacts. Ammo will evoke mild arousal and interest. I know you may be looking at TUTH but hold off on this one until you see how you do with anone products. Stay with the regular strength until we know how you react as well.
On your wife’s lack of libido…
Menopause can be tough to deal with in a normal functioning marriage and even harder in a relationship under stress. During this time she will suffer lose of libido that has nothing to do with how she feels about you but How she feels about herself and her hormonal fluctuations. Its a bit different for women going through menopause then it is for men and andropause. We go though a period or morning of sorts at the lose of youth and ability to have children even if we didn’t plan on having any more.
If it is there is little mones can do consistently until she is finished with menopause and her hormones level out and settle again. So there will be hit or miss days with them.
I do not agree with your psychiatrist unless he/she has more information indicating your wife is a lesbian. Being a tomboy and not being comfortable with intimacy are not indicators of being gay. There can be many reasons she is not interested in sex. Some medical some emotional. She may just have a problem with letting go intimately. I have many friends who have this problem and its more emotional then Physical or gender choice related.
I suggest IH for a deeper connection and feelings of intimacy and closeness as well as for opening up deeper communication.
Now I want to suggest Ishine here for a feeling of well being and upliftment for both you as the wearer and your wife. Its also warm, charismatic and gives a feeling of youthfulness. Ishine can do a number on depleting your neurotransmitters at times so I don’t want you to go hog wild with it at first.
I usually do not suggest the advanced products but 2 you may want to consider are TAC for a laid back relaxing feel. This may help with the longings you mentioned.
P93 for a uplifting stress reducing relaxed vibe. This one would be good to use around her as well and has other reported benefits we can discuss later if yur interested.
Keep in mind advanced products are in testing and are not covered under the guarantee.
Now since you have had some luck with Realm I am also going to suggest that you take a look at the products over at http://www.naturalattraction.com/ They are the makers of Realm and also hold the patent on two mone molecules that I feel will be most beneficial to you. There research site is http://www.pherin.com/techno.html and they have some interesting info there.
A1 and EST, Now A1 can cause a blue or down feeling in men so again use with caution and discontinue use if any adverse effects occur. Not trying to scare you but knowledge is power.
EST is a female mone as I am sure you know but men have had good results with it and it is used in some of the mens products over there.
On the medical side of things for you. I think you would benefit from researching Nootropics
This is just one basic link, do a google and you will find studies and abstracts as well and other basic info
And CES stimulation
BT6 Pro Brain Tuner addiction depression IQ stress attention
Yes both new age but again knowledge is power and everything was New Age once.
In Conclusion…
Your somewhat of a pioneer in mone research because not much is known about how mones react with your existing conditions and I do hope you stick around and share what works for you and what doesn’t. We have a nice private journal section in the mens tips and tricks area.
Your taking steps to improving yourself and relationship and that is what is most important.
I am sending out your GC to your email
If you need help or have any questions just ask and I will ask Steve, Michael or Jasmin to pop in when they have time and give their opinion as well.
Tisha
Hostess/Guide
One other thing James.. This is a bit left field but powerful.. Is there any chance you can take your wife on a vacation? 2-4 weeks in somewhere like the Greek Islands does cost the $ but does not have to be that expensive. 2-4 weeks of sun, ancient sites, museums, beaches and white washed stone villages… generally makes people horny and can be a relationship rekindler. If this is not an option, how about a weekend away somewhere closer to home?
Cheers and good luck.