I’m getting ready to try out some products from Androtics and I would really appreciate if you could advice me about products that might work for my situation.
I am considered to be attractive, and I attract lots of people who like me physically and women who want to be friends with me. The problem is that I make almost all men and women feel uncomfortable when they make an effort to meet me. They think I’m rejecting them, but I’m not. I have social anxiety that they don’t know about. I am ready to start interacting with new people and I want them to feel comfortable enough to approach me and to talk to me. I’ve missed out on some good opportunities to get to know some real nice people. These people thought that I blew them off. Feelings were hurt and I feel awful that I had any part in hurting their feelings without even intending to. It makes me very sad when I see them or when I am reminded of these people. I don’t want to have any more of these kind of regrets. I’ve been noticing that people feel so good when I step out of my comfort zone and pay attention to them. It makes me feel good that I can make people feel happy by simply acknowledging them so I want to be able to that more.
My husband is very attractive and gets flirted with and hit on by many women all the time whenever we do anything social. Men also find me attractive enough to really like me, but my lack of response to them seems to intimidate even men who are confident and outgoing. I don’t want my husband and I to seem so out of balance in social situations anymore. I’m starting to make eye contact and smiling more, but I could still use a boost. Most of the time men just stare at me wide eyed and wait for me to smile at them. Although that’s starting to change and I’ve been noticing more men smiling and flirting with me, but I’m still shy so I usually pretend I didn’t see most of them. Most women smile at me. It usually doesn’t get past the stares or smiles though. I do very well with the few people who actually feel comfortable enough to come over and talk to me to the point that it seems to confuse the ones who I was too shy around when they tried to get to know me by being friendly with just smiling at me and taking it from there. I would love to try out products that have cops in them. I enjoy watching guys flirt with me and I think it’s fun to get hit on. I love feeling physically attractive and I also want to seem and feel sweet enough to let people know that I am approachable.
Thank you for reading this far. What would you recommend for me?
I’m no experienced user, but I’ve been socially malformed for years. Sometimes I don’t like to use the term social anxiety, because at this point it’s not really a fear, but I just really don’t know how to interact normally with people. As a result of not practicing socially most of my life, that muscle is severely atrophied.
I tend to make people feel uncomfortable. There is a girl I work with who doesn’t say hello to me and avoids having to communicate with me at all costs. And when she does ask me something, she asks all timidly and scared-like, as if I’m going to roll my eyes or flip out or something. And that makes me feel bad because I’ve never been mean to her and I try to show that I’m a nice person.
For me, Instant Shine makes me feel really solid and more confident. And people feel more comfortable approaching people who seem comfortable with themselves. I guess. I just feel more capable of speaking a little more when I’m wearing it.
I have EOW (mixed in some perfume) and some other cops. I tried them for the second time the other day, and I don’t know if I can get the hang of them. As the day wears on, I start smelling baby poop!
I also have social anxiety. I’m getting a lot better at it lately tho. I’ve found that in the last day something as simple as IShine, SL or IS/b makes me feel confident and I don’t have that anxiety I usually get.
I’ve also tried out P86 and it’s very nice for connecting with other people, as is B-nol. Maybe a combo of P86, Ishine, Instant Sexiness, and B-nol?
I definitely say you go with Instant Shine. Seems like you have no problems with people reaching out to you, and ISh does magic when it come to managing anxiety of all sorts.
Instant Shine is a great product to make people feel more upbeat around you. And happy people tend to be chatty people. IO can help with conversations for those who have a hard time getting past the stop and look only stage. And Instant Honesty might help people feel more connected to you once you get them talking.
There is also CTTM2 which is a 50/50 mix of IO and IH if you want to cover both bases most of the time.
If you’re looking for self-effects, I would go with Instant Shine as this tends to put a smile on my face. Instant Openness actually made my anxiety WORSE as it felt as if I was being pushed into interacting when I didn’t feel comfortable…
It’s a double-whammy for you; men tend to be a bit intimidated by beautiful women so they are pre-primed to expect rejection from you. I’m not sure what you can do non-pheromonally, maybe develop your conversation skills if you feel those are not up to par, or joining Toastmasters or a similar organisation; that will help get you used to being the centre of attention in a supportive environment. Overall, just push yourself out of your comfort zone a little at a time, and do it consistently. Good luck with it!
Cindy I think most of us suffer from the same problems as you delineated. I would describe myself as mildly socially retarded and hence pretty good at unintentionally making people uncomfortable or feeling like I’m not into them. I figured this out long ago and, while age and experience makes it a little easier, social anxiety is always there under the surface, ready to bite me in the arse. I’m an artist and academic so people expect me to be deviant–too much time alone doing your art and not socializing–so perhaps I have it a little easier than the average person.
My secret is to fake it: pretend like I’m confident, outgoing, interested and friendly. It takes a lot of observation, practice and effort but it works most of the time. I’m a good performer on stage so acting in real life isn’t much different. And, yes, wearing status enhancing and social mones help, but you still need a good behavioral foundation for the mones to work their magic.
I agree with you. I’ve applied the same traits to how I act and the responses I’ve gotten from people, coupling it with IShine or IS/b over the past few days, has really helped me get people to smile more and want to be around me more.
I usually like socializing and talking to people, so I had no trouble doing. In the past, I just lacked some confidence talking to hot women-like 9 or 10, haha. With recent success with mones, I now feel confident approaching almost anyone; except maybe someome like Jessica Gomez, once in awhile, lol.
By chance, I discovered how to work my pheros. Once, I was talking confidently to some guy and girl, who is about 7. There was this hot girl near us, but I was quiet timid to approach her. While I was talking to these two peeps with some cocky, funny confidence, I began to notice that all these girls around us were suddenly looking at me with fascination and showing me interest, the hot one included. Two girls’ eyes started to dilate , and they began flipping their hairs, lol. Even after I finished the convo and sat down, all these girls couldn’t keep their eyes off me, haha. I then, realized exactly how I can work my pheromones!
I love your confidence CoolKat. It gives me hope
See I think of myself as a pretty girl, but my confidence level has always been so low that I could never bag the cuties I wanted.
But I’m working towards being the most confident I can be. So glad I found Androtics.
It is no big deal. Don’t worry too much about it. Personally, I had no confidence throughout high school :o. In fact, I never even went out on a date until I was 19 . Then, I was too scared to talk to any decent girl, and I was really nerdy. All that studying did pay off for me though; I got into some top 25 US News ranked schools, and I even attended one of them
I think my confidence started to grow after doing some ROTC and army trainings throughout college. It was not until 20+ I began to feel better about myself. It is important to feel good about oneself and to have a high self-esteem, before they can develop much needed confidence.
Also, I realized, at once, not to care what other people think or say, especially women. As long as I am doing the right thing, not hurting anyone or myself, I should not care. If some women don’t like me for who I am, then I will just move on. It has been like that for me for sometime.
Anyways, you are an attractive girl. You should feel good about yourself . I don’t recommend anyone joining the Army to gain confidence, unless they really want to serve in places like Iraq
However, I recommend you find some hobbies that would make you proud and that you can readily enjoy. Your confidence should naturally grow.
Thank you everone for all your responses. I will be getting instant shine and will try some of the others mentioned. I love feeling self effects. I got self effects with a different phero in like the first two weeks when I started using it, now I don’t feel them anymore. Do you get self effects most of the time when you use instant shine? If so, how often do you wear it?
If you start losing self effects try taking a break for a week or so from pheros
Thanks for that great advice. I’m staying off them now and it’s funny how I feel so down to earth now that I’m not using them. These things really do affect me because I feel like myself again, sweet and shy. It’s really interesting how I hadn’t noticed until now that I stoped using them. It’s weird in a really good way.
I have no problem either connecting with people. I would suggest IS/B (when it comes back) and IS - maybe even IS2X. I am a very outgoing and kinda BAM person myself & noticed IS/B made me feel kinda shy sexy, playful even. I’m not shy at all but when a man offered to open a door for me at the grocery store then offer to help bring my things to the car I found myself blushing with my head down. Totally unlike me, but seems to affect other women with a more aloof personality to come off as more playful & approachable. I think it works well for women like you - but the instant shine does wonders for lots of smiles and approach. I’d even do a couple of CCM2 (come talk to me) as it is much like a combo if IH & IO - but instead of putting it where you may smell it - I’d spray it on your hands or the back of your head. That way it has more of an effect of being more approachable to others and doesn’t have any odd effects on you.
. I don’t recommend anyone joining the Army to gain confidence, unless they really want to serve in places like Iraq