ok so lets start out sayin that i meet this girl. we had do go to a special schook cuz we both failed. i never knew her before this. So the 2nd day of school, im letin my friend copy my hw and she comes over and says " u shud have atleast copied mine, atleast its right". keep in mind that i dont even know her.
she gave me minor IOI’s but i didnt let that get to me.3rd week i get a hair cut and then she keep starin at me. keep in mind that i have to spend 6 hrs a day with this girl and she was gorgeous! so she wud look at me and when i looked at her, she would smile like this and i would smile like this . this happend almost everyday
we were watching a movie and they’re was a kissing scene and she looked at me and smiled like this . im pretty funny but she would laugh at everything i say! when i sat next to her she coudnt find a right position, she kept moving and stuff. She never played with her hair thou. she would always like come close to me. then that school ends and we exchnage numbers
i txt her like twice…nothing serious…then i see her like 3 months later. conversation starts out slow then she talls me how her and someone were about to go out then they didnt. She even touched my face a couple times. we talked for like…1-2 hrs then we said bye.
i just txted her asking whats up and stuff but she didnt even have my number! then she forgot my real name(she never really got it right and gave me a nick name) then i told her im looking real sexi cuz i thinned out and she was like" that dosent mean your cute" then i ask if she missed me and she says no…like…seriously
btw this girl dosent bond with alot of mem
most interesting fact!
dis girl would wear sweaters in the summer cuz her arms would get cold
and then in my bio class a girl has the same probelem and i know that this new girl likes me
its also scientificly prooven that ur attracted to ur opposite immune system
Ummm ok so what was the IOI’s you mentioned. Sounds to me like she was just being friendly. Its not looking right at you and smiling thats a IOI. Its quick glancing looks. Smiling just means she is approachable.
You mention she is cold all the time. Maybe moving closer to you is a subconscious attempt to move towards warmth. Your body heat drew her closer.
This is her sensing your attraction and attempting to put you in the friends box. She is indicating she is looking elsewhere.
Was it a friendly touch or a sexual touch ? Women are more touchy then men. Its a natural instinct so it depends on how she touched your face.
She realizes you didnt get the subtle hint earlier and now has to push a bit harder to keep you in the friends box so she gives more obvious hints of her interest in you juat as a friend.
And she slammed the lid on the box.
And you know that hers is opposite yours how ? Body heat is not a indicator of your immune system really.
All of her behavoir indicated she wanted a friend not a boyfriend.
Sorry if this seems harsh but you need to know your in the friends box.
Mones may be able to influence her if the IOI are there in the friendship but mones just enhance whats already there. They bring it out they dont create it.
And all this time, what did you do? She was interested and from what you have said, made many attempts to get you to make a move. Women like confident men, not ones that don’t make any moves on them. So again what did you do to escalate?
Muji, I read your post and I was groaning. Male Pattern Blindness all over the place! She was giving you some incredible IOIs… telling you she was hot for you and you didn’t do anything about it. Then she got the message that you weren’t interested, felt foolish that she’d put herself in a position to look silly in order to tell you she was interested, and basically got mad when you started in again.
That’s what I read from it.
Learn female body language, my friend. You had her at hello… and blew it.
I am sorry but male and female IOI’s are different. Men will look directly smile hold eye contact ect ect to indicate interest. Women do the opposite, Quick glances, shy smiles, fidgeting, ect ect.
It never ceases to amaze me that men think just smiling and looking right at them means we want them. My whole state must think I am hot for them.
I do agree with a few male points though, You should have escalated it. Make a move not have your friend make the move for you.
Keep in mind that it is harder to get out of the friends box but not impossible. remain friends and work on that. See some other girls, make her think she is missing something. use some AMMO arouse her curiosity
“we were watching a movie and they’re was a kissing scene and she looked at me and smiled like this . im pretty funny but she would laugh at everything i say! when i sat next to her she coudnt find a right position, she kept moving and stuff. She never played with her hair thou. she would always like come close to me. then that school ends and we exchnage numbers”
That sort of thing usually indicates an uncomfortable degree if sexual arousal from a woman. Based on that and everything else he said, I concluded it was likely she was more than slightly interested, and very likely sexually aroused by him and his proximity. I have seen this “can’t sit still or find a good position in my seat” almost every time a woman responds to one of my subliminal seduction CDs, and when they are hot and bothered otherwise too. It’s not looking and smiling… it’s specific signals of arousal that she is trying to keep under control.
I’m gonna with Tisha here… he is in the friend box and that box has slammed shut…
I think initially you had the possibility of not being in the friend box… but it looks like you didn’t MOVE and show interest.
She showed about as much interest as a girl is going to show - when you didn’t move she has to assume that either you aren’t interested, or that you don’t have the guts to ask her out - both mean that she will no longer be interested romantically…
Sorry to say but I think you blew it… alas, we all do on occasion
True but that is normal behavoir for boredom as well. If she was consistant in this behavoir then I would say she is interested in more but he didnt indicate that. The number exchange didnt happen that day when class ended but at the end of the school year the way I understand it. This is normal with friends.
I concur; however, there were a lot of other IOIs he details her having made over time, and once she concluded he was not interested, they were seen to have become negative IOIs. These things, and the fact that he only mentions this behavior once (although it might ave been much more prevalent for all we know) led me to conclude she was interested in an ongoing manner over time, and that it was when he sat close that she began fidgeting in her seat. From what I can see, based on what he wrote, it seems reasonable to me to conclude that she was very interested, and only began reacting this way when he sat next to her… which would suggest sexual response, not boredom.
…i feel like crap. im so mad myself. btw she would always talk about how other boys tried to get with her.what should i do if i see her again? thanks guys
and i would smile like this 
. this happend almost everyday
then she forgot my real name(she never really got it right and gave me a nick name) then i told her im looking real sexi cuz i thinned out and she was like" that dosent mean your cute" then i ask if she missed me and she says no…like…seriously 
