How to Tell a Woman is Interested In You -- The Master "Indicators of Interest List"

[Jasmin]

Multiple looks. Women have much better If you catch us looking at you more than once, it’s probably becuse we’re attracted and we can’t help it.

You catching us looking at all. Women look at you fast. If you catch us looking at you, this may be because we’re attracted. Not always (I get horrified when I see someone catching me looking when I’m not actually interested), but often. You guys have muscle, but we have social muscles. WHen you catch us being less than discreet, we often mean it and/or can’t help it. (or we’re just plastered drunk!)

Hair play. Women will play with her hair while near you or talking to you. Women play with their hair all the time, so this is usually when they are either engaged talking to you or otherwise AWARE of you.

Hovering, mild stalking Many of us walk past you more than once to get your attention. Of course, sometimes we’re just looking for something other than you (say, in a grocery store), so occasionally this means nothing on it’s own.

Blushing. We can’t help but turn a little red in the prescence of men we like. Women notice this, but men can learn to. Try to notice things like this for a eye.

Eye dilation .Dilation means getting bigger. If, when we see you, our iris get wide… or even the whole eye area… you can be sure we want you to fall into us. We’re making room for you.

She keeps looking at you. She can not take her eyes of you.

Showing flesh. Lifting up our dress to show you or legs or down to show you our butts. Yoinking on our collars, open our blouses a little. We often do this stuff even more covertly than we cover skin, so you really have to develop the skill to see this. Also, be aware that sometimes what looks like covering skin is actually showing OTHER skin. Keep that in mind. Look for the actual motive. When we cover our skin, we strive to cover all our skin instead covering up some by revealing other skin.

Facing chest or face toward you. When we want you to know we’re attracted, we’ll aim our chest toward you. When we’re attracted, but we don’t necessarily want you to know, we might be looking away, but our feet or even our bodies (torsos) will be aimed at you.

Smiling that makes us look bad. A real, honest to goodness smile wil often show wrinkles or other facial flaws.

Smiling with the lower row of teeth only.

Proximity. If we stick around you, we like you. Especially if it seems that we get closer over time. Parties, social events, offices.

Looking when when you look at us – eyes or head (or both). It’s said by some neuroscientists that when we look down, we’re experiencing feelings. If we can’t help but go into feelings around you, especially if we’re a little bashful, that’s often a good sign. WE’re not bashful aruond peopel we don’t like or aren’t attracted to.

Your turn

That’s a good start, but there’s plenty more.

What’d I miss? What can be explained better? Let’s make this exhaustive & awesome! Add to the list here, then when the list gets long enough, I’ll hire a writer to put it all together and clean it up.

[ssjsike]

great list jasmin! repped

[Eslite119]

Can we like sticky this? Its actually better explained than some other books in this subject matter. Reps indeed.

[BrazilianGuy]

You are turning me on jasmin

[Patratt]

Hair play. Women will play with her hair while near you or talking to you. Women play with their hair all the time, so this is usually when they are either engaged talking to you or otherwise AWARE of you. ~Jasmin

^ Jasmin, can you help me with this one? ^
I don’t get it. Do women play with their hair all the time or do they do it when “they are either engaged talking to you or otherwise AWARE of you.”? Recently had a hot female bartender that played with her hair during my entire time at her bar. She constantly played with it while at the register…when talking to ALL other customers, but when she would interact and talk to me: she would completely stop. I was wearing about 25mcg of -none from my Ammo and thought I OD ed, but not sure. Maybe there was attraction. Thoughts?

[Gegogi]

Showing flesh. Lifting up our dress to show you or legs or down to show you our butts. Yoinking on our collars, open our blouses a little. We often do this stuff even more covertly than we cover skin, so you really have to develop the skill to see this.

That’s ma fav! Today a cute coed walked by me with most her panties in plain view. Her mini-shirt had snagged on her purse. I almost suggested she remove the skirt so I could view the remaining 10% but what the hay.

Also, over the years, many skirt wearing coeds have visited my class or office commando, and afforded a fine view of their dainties. One stood in my office doorway and continually zipped and unzipped her hip hugger jeans, even when faculty and students were walking by. She told me she arrived commando just for me. After that I cut way back on NPA and The Edge. Works way too well…

Smiling that makes us look bad. A real, honest to goodness smile wil often show wrinkles or other facial flaws.

This is one also the true shit. Zipper girl, although only 22, oft smiled so hard I was afraid she might injure herself or be permanently creased…

[00greena]

As you probably know, most women decide in the first three minutes of meeting you whether you are lover material or simply another lowly “friend.” What you may not know is that those three minutes are also the minutes during which you run simple, low-risks tests on her to find out of she is interested in you romantically. If she is then you have “pre-qualified” her, and can move forward with more confidence into asking her out, initiating, going for the first kiss, etc. If she is not interested then you have found out, you haven’t taken much time, you’ve risked almost nothing, and can move on to someone else. Youve got to make use of those key three minutes to find out if she is open to the idea of being lovers with you. While it’s not completely effortless, if you run a few simple tests during that critical period, you can find out.

These first three minutes are the best time to both find out if she is interested in you and to help generate and increase whatever interest in you she does have. Let’s recap a woman’s first experience of you: When a woman meets you, even if she thinks you are cute, you represent a problem to her. While you are thinking about great she’d look naked, and wondering if those are her real breasts, she is thinking about how you will probably leave her like all the others, and is convincing herself that she shouldn’t even bother with you. Her natural inclination will be to put you into the “friends” category right away, just to keep her life calm. And if you act like a friend, that is exactly what will happen.

When you show romantic interest right away, however, you are throwing a monkey wrench into her “friends” plan. You are not going quietly into that dark night of “just friends.” No, you are putting yourself in the “potential lover” category by doing the things a potential lover would do. When you do those things, it is easier for her to go with the flow, and–provisionally, at least–to think of you as a potential lover. After all, you are acting like a potential lover, aren’t you? It’s easier just to think of you as one.

When you do these flirting moves, you are not only trying to stay out of the “friends” zone. You are also testing her, to get a sense of how open she is to being seduced.

For instance, does she blush when you wink at her, or look angry? Does she smile when you check out her body, or does she reach for her rape whistle? Does she glow when you compliment her beauty, or does she give you a stern lecture about he patriarchal nature of the way men treat women and the disgustingly phallocentric practice of modern dating? By testing her with the flirting moves, you can find out her level of interest or disinterest without doing much work or taking much risk.

We’ve been over these moves before–the difference now is that you are thinking about these flirting moves as tests, rather than as initiations. You are finding out, through these tests, how open she is to being seduced.

Here’s what to do:

The wink test. You can wink at her from across the room, or wink at her during a conversation. If she says something funny, or someone else does something silly, give her a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you, as if the two of you are in on some private joke no one else is aware of. If she relaxes and laughs, she’s interested in more. If she gets cold or more remote, she’s not.

The body-check test. The goal of this test is for her to see that you notice her body, without leaving her feeling objectified like some piece of meat. You do this by making eye contact, then quickly, in less than a second, passing your eyes down and then up over her body, then back to looking her in the eyes. This should happen quickly, and you should be unashamed of taking the glance. If she seems relaxed or happy when you meet her eyes again, she’s interested in more. If she gets cold or more remote, she is not.

The eye-contact test. While you are conversing with her, you want to be sure to have eye contact at least some of the time. At least once, hold the eye contact a little “too long”–just a fraction too long, so there’s a brief, more intimate moment between you. If she holds your eye, she’s interested in more. If she looks away or seems upset by it, she’s not.

The compliment test. In this test you give her a compliment, and see how she takes it. The only trap here is that the compliment must be one a potential lover would make, not one a tepid friend would. Here’s the difference: A man who is destined to be a woman’s friend compliments her by saying something like, “You have a very nice briefcase.” The compliment doesn’t show that he is interested in her romantically. It doesn’t test her, because it hasn’t give her anything romantic to react to. A real compliment is something like, “Wow, you have beautiful eyes,” or, “I have to tell you, you have really great style. You just light up the room.” If she smiles at your compliment, and thanks you warmly, she’s interested in more. If she seems uncomfortable, she’s not.

Any flirting move can be made into a testing move. The key is that romantic-interest testing moves must 1) make it clear in some small way that you are romantically interested while 2) not be so risky that you are either scary or putting your ego on the line.

With a little practice these moves (and more like them) will become second-nature to you, and you won’t even have to think about them–you will automatically do them every time you meet a woman you are attracted to. Her responses will tell you if she is interested or not, and you can assess whether or not you should initiate more aggressively, and take bigger risks, from that knowledge.

[LizzieM]

How do you smile with just the lower teeth?

[00greena]

Look in the mirror and smile but make sure your top lip stays still. its been known that some people do that. but its not a big sign to look out for but once ur aware of it u will notice that sum people dont show thier upper teeth when they smile. they do it because they may be concious of the creases of the cheek that appear when u make a full smile. (starting from the side of your nose and running to your upper lip line)

[LizzieM]

Thanks, I’ll try it when I get home tonight!

[00greena]

let me know how your smiling practise goes

[Casanova]

What is supposed this smile to do?Why one has to practice it?Is it more sexual or something?

[tisha23]

What is supposed this smile to do?Why one has to practice it?Is it more sexual or something?

No its something some women do as a IOI. Usually the self consious ones. Frankly I think its weird and sort of fake looking myself. They teach how its done in modeling class. Look in the mirror and when you go to smile push your tongue up into the roof of your mouth really hard. There you go the perfect smile or so they say

Tisha

[Casanova]

Hmmm, interresting.

LOL , some women learn how to be attractive in some sort of classes.

I wish there was some classes for men too.May be gigolo classes or something…

[tisha23]

No Male models attend the classes to. There are tons of tricks you wouldnt believe that both male and female models use to look better on a shoot.

[Casanova]

Hmm, Really?Cool!!!
But is this only to appeal on shots and not behaving in everyday life???
It is interresting to learn attractive body language, bahaviour, seducive voice and dances…all the stuff that will make every heterosexual women’s knees to become weak and she to start thinking "Who TF is that guy!!!.."With her chin down.haha

Are there some books/sites with info in this directon?I doubt that all this is thought in model classes but perhaps it is.Or one really needs some special education if there is any…What do you think?

[Casanova]

And to add something to women’s ioi list:
When a woman starts literary hitting you (gently as a play afcourse ) and laughing like a stupid and retarded girl, yeah definately verry strong IOI.
However this is rarely seen in mature girls and more often in teenagers somewhere between 13 and 16 y.o.

[00greena]

yes your rightt experiment last night. a few more to add to the list to make this thread more exhaustive.

eye patterns. if you study Neuro linguistic programming you will have paid some attention to eye movement and subconcious patterns. but when youd something u are then aware of it.so here is a bit about eye patterns.

in business situations you eyes follow a subconcious pattern. when your speaking to a person your eyes zig zag to each of thier 2 eyes at certain times in a convorsation.

in a friend situation you have what we call a triangle. where we look eye to eye but also at the mouth and nose.

in a flirting situation then triangle gets bigger and covers all the good bits. However as things get more flirty and intense we will spend more time lookin at thier mouth. this is very seductive as the person lookin at your mouth is imagining kissing you.

Blinking. its natrual for a female to mirror your blinking rate. because humans natrualy like things that are in common. sharing blink rates and also breathing rates and sycronizing these will make one another feel attracted.

eyebrow flash. when we see somebody we like we flash our eyebrows up and down. infact its the most popular form of subconcious pattern found amongst all the world minorities and cultures.
this one is to be used to your advantage. In NLP we practise what is caled a subconcious pattern break which means we recognise a subconcious pattern and break it in order to confuse the critical factor of the brain. basicly there more seduced and open to suggestion and led on by your next actions and speech. in order to use the eybrow flash to your advantage. raise your eyebrows and keep them there for longer than just a flash, do this when u catch thier eye. most girls will look away straight away and tell a friend. if u spot she does that then i advise u make a move.

[tisha23]

Hmm, Really?Cool!!!
But is this only to appeal on shots and not behaving in everyday life???

Well having a nice smile is good in everyday life but not if you over do it. Google pictures of Goldie Hawn and compare her old pictures to her recent ones. In her older ones you can see her smile is natural and contagious. In her new ones were she is posing and trying to control the wrinkle effect she looks weird and you can actually notice that she is pushing her tongue up. She over does it so look at those pictures and you will get a idea what the IOI looks like.

Wait till you find out what we do with Preperation H LOL

Tisha

[Casanova]

@tisha23

Wait till you find out what we do with Preperation H LOL

Tisha

Preparation H, what’s this? :)This thing???Preparation H - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia