Reading Body Language Doesn’t matter whether she is interested in you,you’ll make her interested eventually anyway:) It’s also fun to look for these signs as a by-stander, either in everyday situations or for example in a bar - when the guy earnestly believes he is being soooo smooth but the woman he is talking to isn’t displaying any of the signs presented below,you can’t help but have a chuckle about it:) **Her Lips *** Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face. * Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue,licking her lips or touching of her front teeth. * She wets her lips,some women use only a single-lip lick,wetting the upper or lower lip,while others run the tongue around the entire lip area. * She puts her fingernail between her teeth. * She protrudes her lips and thrusts her breasts forward.
**Her Eyes **
She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils dilated.
She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds,this is often combined with a smile and some eye contact.
She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.
While talking to you,she blinks more than usual,fluttering her eyelashes.
Eyebrows raised and then lowered,then a smile indicates interest in you. Her Hair
She pushes her fingers through her hair.This can be one hand movement or more of a stroking motion.
She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.
She is throwing her hair back off her shoulders. Her Clothing
*If she is wearing clothes that shows her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky and erect.
The hem goes up to expose a little more leg.
She fixing,patting or smoothing her outfit to make herself look better.
**While She Is Seated
***She moves in time to the music,with her eyes on you.
*She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.
*She is sitting with her legs open.
*She sits with her legs crossed in a manner to reveal her thigh.
*Her legs are rubbing against each other.
*Her legs are rubbing against the leg of the table.
*Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you
Guys!
It does not matter where I got that stuff.
It’s important to know those signs or body language not to waste time when you are in a nightclub or bar.It’s interesting to read people right because nearly 77% of communication is non-verbal.In another words body language tells more about you than your words.
YES! It was taken from one of the web-sites dedicated to dating and seduction and I want to share this info with you.
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Magister
Body language fascinates me, I’m not good at realizing when a guy is interested and if I get nervous my own body language gives the wrong signals, so I’ve read quite a bit on it. So I just want to throw one point into the mix.
A lot of those signals - in isolation - mean little, if anything.
Look for clusters of three or four non-verbal indicators of interest in a short period of time, this will give you a much more reliable insight.
Just my two cents worth, because when i first started trying to read body language I made a few mistakes because I put too much importance on one lone, isolated cue.:o
There has been some debate about this. If you know somewhat what you are doing, you may be better off presuming she is attracted and sucking her in to your frame rather than being too reactive. Also, whilst it’s great to have an ‘approach invitation’, you probably should not get into the habit of presuming you need one to approach.
Thanks for your replies!
First of all,I want to remind well known fact that body language is 77% of communication.If you see hot girl at nightclub you have 5 secs to assess situation.These 5 secs include reading her body language.Carefully observing Her body language I can tell you whether it’s worth approaching or not. No matter you use pheromones or not ,if her body sends signals “NO-NO” it means you will waste your time.
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Subcommunication might be more important than the words you use, but this includes vocal quality as well as body language. (In particular this can make a huge difference in the response to opening).
I don’t agree that the absence of positive approach invitations means it is a waste of time to approach. An AI makes things easier but even if she isn’t in to you initially that doesn’t mean you don’t still have a good chance of doing well. People have done hundreds of thousands of experiments in this area…
I’m a little too tired to elaborate right now, but let me lightly graze across some points and hopefully someone will pick up where I left off.
Just because she gives you neutral/negative approach invitatons doesn’t necessarily mean you’re wasting your time.
Assume attraction. Go in with the attitude that you’re the sh*t, and if they’re worth knowing, they’re going to want to know you. Whoever you meet doesn’t know you from Adam. They have no idea whether you are cool or not. YOU supply them with the idea that you are awesome by being awesome, and they won’t have any evidence pointing that you are not awesome. By you assuming that they automatically think you are amazing, they will act accordingly and automatically think you are amazing.
This comes across in your stature, and your (you hit it here, PQ) your voice tone! Oh, pheromonal signature helps tons, too. All your “subcommunication”, your presentation, your “way about you” will contribute to how people react to you, especially in those first few moments.
People get caught up in the thought that they have “one chance to make the right first impression with someone.” Bollocks. That isn’t true because people can change their minds (and also their memories). And you can help them change their mind, by showing them what to change their mind to.
There are way to many women and men who simply posses poor body language to make an assumption of character on it. This weekend I met a young lady at a shop in a mall. She looked distraught and displayed no AI toward me when I came into the store. It could of in fact been read that she actually was distressed that another customer came into the store and she had to trouble herself with helping me. By the end of our interaction she was very happy that I did come in.
She actually said you made my day, I was really not looking forward to any more customers but I’m so glad you came in. Apparently she was having a bad day, but my frame is strong enough that I pulled her into it and created a better end to the day for her.
If you are simply reading body language as the only invitation to initiate conversation you are missing out on a lot of great interactions with people.
Agreed. I know of a lot of guys that will stand in a club waiting for the approach invitation via body language to occur before they take the opportunity to meet someone. Typically in a social setting where women are approached MANY times their body language tends to take a posture of defensive poses. It’s not that they don’t want to be approached they are reacting to the stimulus that has already approached them, or are gawking at their breast, buts, whatever and are attempting to send a message to those with a weak frame saying don’t approach me. I’m a bitch. What is also being sub communicated is that they have been approached and they are waiting for the right candidate with the right frame to approach. As a positive interaction progresses their body language becomes more open.
Like Jasmin and PQ have also stated tonality is very important. It’s not what you say but how you say it. I used an opener this weekend that most PUA would cringe at because it shows massive interest, but it worked like a charm because I was genuine in asking.
It was an opinion opener: Would you rather have a guy approach you and ask you for a random opinion on something because he is interested in you and wants to get you talking or would you prefer him to come up to you and say you are very pretty.
9 out of ten said they would prefer the opinion. Pretty cool that my opener was an opinion on how to open them.
once you have expressed such a high degree of interest, do you find you need to go straight in to teasing her and high energy game? vs going in with a more direct ‘i just had to tell you that you are totally cute’ approach which (done in the right way) can allow you to display value quickly.
It was weird because after I used this to open they all started talking to me about guys approaching them and what they responded to, but it was as if none of them even caught the fact that I used that as an opener itself.
You are right about high-energy though, they were all in that range. I also noticed that the conversations gravitated around relationships, so I would use a stock neg like I don’t even know your name and you’re already trying to drag me into a relationship. The cool thing though is that in almost every situation that I used it if the conversation wained it was the girl who re initiated with another line that someone used on her.
All in all it worked pretty well. I will be field testing it more and will post a definitive FR on VAH forum once I’m done.
OK well… I have a story in which something really perplexes me..
So, I went to this club few days ago, second time, and this girl was there from the previous week. This girl is tall and very good looking.. so that creates a feelin of intimidation but anywho…
as I enter one of the rooms in the club (that she happens to be in) and park myself at the bar, she approaches the bar, and occupies the “vacant” spot in front of me (“vacant” because it’s literaly breathing space between me and the next person). Next, she sticks her butt out (her back’s to me), pushes out her midsection (stomach, etc. – opposite direction from me), and learns her upper-section (shoulders, etc.) back towards me. She has a very noticeable tattoo on her back that extends up to her neck. Frequently, she looked back (directly at me) to see if I’m checking her out. Sometimes our eyes meet others I’m looking off in a different direction but notice her glance out of my peripheral… in any case, I just stand there eager to see if she repeats the event of the previous week.
First, second, third,.. eighth guy approach her and she rejects all of them. She literaly $#$%s around with all the guys. Some guy would approach her and ask to dance and what not and she says… “I’m sweaty,” another time a guy bought her a drink and she says “for me?” with this cute but evil look on her face and she would bump up against this guy for a few seconds (literally bump for like 3 or 4x.. and get him all excited) then leave him. I didn’t approach her the entire night and when it was late enough (1hr-30min before closing) she actually started dancing with like 1 or 2 guys… but the entire time looking at me!
Indeed.. she (and I) have done exactly the same thing as the previous week.
Am I psychologically-“jerking off” (imagining eye contact) or not… if NOT what does this mean? What’s her intent…
You can bet she’s wondering the same thing about you. I suspect she’s trying to figure out if you’re intimidated by her or if you’re out of her league (in a good way for you.) I’m guessing you use A314 when she’s around.
In short, I think she’s wondering:
‘Am I outta his league, or is he out of mine?’
Quicksilver