it’s best to start at 1 spray and work your way up, gauging responses as you increase doses. Try 1 for a few days, then 2, and so on. Most people find 2-3 sprays to be optimal.
You don’t always get DIHL. There are too many indicators to list, but here’s a start: How to Tell a Woman is Interested In You -- The Master "Indicators of Interest List"
You will start noticing things in time. I didn’t know what to look for at first and assumed the pheros were ineffective, but once I learned what to look for everything changed.
That’s a lot of -erone. You may be keeping people at bay because of it. It can also cause some of the skittishness you mentioned. Scale back to 1-2 drops A314 at a time, and don’t use too much AMMO and A314 together. If you want to combine them, try 1 drop A314 and 1-2 sprays AMMO. See how that works for you.
Scent does not equate to pheromones. The scents just help them diffuse better by allowing the pheromones to bind to another molecule to move around. They will still diffuse off of your shirt, but the most effective sights are places of heat loss, such as pulse points and hair. But be careful applying to the hair because some pheromones, such as -none, can be quite sticky and stay for a few days, even after washing.
All things come in time, just hang in there. Some people get crazy results (I’ve had my fair share), but most of the time the results are much more subtle.