Ugh.. I wanna play I just can’t some of the players don’t like me and will beat me up in the locker room or throw piss at me or something.
And everyone will make fun of me if I messup I don’t even know how to play football.
Well it’s a little late to do it now as the season is probably already under way. But here’s an idea. Don’t be so hung up on being alpha that you are afraid to beta yourself to somebody else for your own good.
I consider myself to be fairly alpha, not as much as I like but like all people I consider myself an ongoing work in progress. In spite of that, if I were to meet David D or Carlos Xuma I’d check my ego at the door and listen to their advice with an open mind and an empty cup..stepping down from the mentor role to the student role.
Get a couple of books on football, learn it, study it, make knowing the game inside and out a personal goal of yours. And most importantly, approach a guy that’s already on the team and politely express your interest in trying out next season. Ask him if he’d help you train and practice to get up to speed. This will flatter him and feed his ego enough that if and when you do go out for the team, you’ll already have the acceptance of one of the guys on the inside. Most likely this will help the other guys to accept you as well.
Amazon.com: 52-Week Football Training (9780736000857): Ben Cook: Books
There are other books that are more specialized depending on what position you’d like to play. You say you’re short so running back might be good, not so much a receiver or quarterback.
They mess with you because they are testing you. I would put $ down that you walk around like you’re a big hot shot, but you’re not really and people sense that so they fuck with you. When I was 15, i used to walk around with a chip on my shoulder…someone looked at me aggresively I would stare back hard…why? Because I had issues and so do you. Emotional issues and people can sense it. People used to call me gay, cause I was a little baby faced boy and I’m a sensitive person too…I had an issue with being thought of as gay a BIG issues, because where i came from that was WRONG…so do you. You have emotional issues and you need to get help. I didn’t so I just kept getting into fights…until I grew up and realized I no longer really cared what people though about me…people sensed that and stopped fuckking with me.,
Thank you everyone for your help I’ll try to do what all of you have said.
But I’m worried if I don’t walk around like I’m hot shit then will people be able to think I’m confident still?
Also is 2 drops A314 too much for me I could be congruent with it I think.
No, you haven’t. I’m not trying to be mean here but I’ve heard that before from folks your age and older and if you’re resorting to an internet forum for pheromones, you haven’t tried hard enough. As P51 pointed out, try talking to a psychologist, or school counselor. If the counselor can’t help, there are programs out there that can offer counseling for young people. THAT is what you need more than anything else. Pheromones as we have said repeatedly: are not, NOT a magic cure. They are like oil to the gears, makes things run a bit more smoothly. The changes you require come from within. I was a pushover in high school and in my case, I snapped out of it on my own but I can tell you that the answers you seek can’t be properly found here. Especially since it feels like you’re looking for an instant cure and something like this can’t be cured overnight or even in a few weeks. It takes months and sometimes years to adjust. Please heed our advice and seek some proper help. Not chemicals.
You’re doing that now and girls are cutting you, not to sound like an ass but it sounds like what you think SHOULD be working…isn’t.
Maybe it’s time to accept what sounds counter intuitive as being possibly a good alternative.
Alright how can I show that i’m confident without bothering people?
And 2000 I’ll do other stuff but sorry I’m still gonna come here to look for peoples help because personally I think therapists are useless I’ve been going to therapy since I was a little kid and it hasn’t done all that much I’ve also talked to counselors alot it doesn’t really help.
This is where I feel I can get the most help so this is where I will search in addition to taking your advice and continuing to get counseling and therapy.
I’m not looking for a magic pill just something to help.
Rad I’ll push myself to get the book I’m really scared to play football but I think I have to.
Now is 2 drops too much? How would I need to act to match with that I’m assuming what Rad said and act like nothing bothers me and to be laid back sort of like James Bond one of you said it’s too much at my age but other high schoolers are making it work so thats probably not true.
Well, it’s just my thoughts that professional help is a better aid than us. We’re good for common sense, life experiences and how mones help in our lives but we’re not trained to guide a person towards finding a solution to their problems. But yea, I do agree with you to an extend, finding a good therapist is like finding a needle in a haystack. But I still think that mones won’t help enough for what you’re looking for. As people have consistently said, if you wear something that gives off an alpha vibe but you’re body language still shows you as a pushover, people will still push you over. The problem is deeper and that’s why some of us have been suggesting professional help. We really aren’t skilled to find out what’s causing you to be this way. Anything else I’m sure we’re happy to help but it just feels like you’re reaching for something that doesn’t fix what’s wrong on the inside.
Well i’m already getting professional “help” and it’s not really the type of thing that I feel is making much difference.
Someone just talked about body language how can I have confident body language? I already know some about it but not enough.
Also seriously please answer my question about A314 thanks.
Have you found your sweet spot with A314 yet? For most it seems two to three drops is good for them, this is the case with me as well. Also, A314 takes a while to build up, I didn’t notice much if anything other than self effects when I first started with it but over time it’s started having more and more obvious effects once you start looking for them. Case in point, there’s a thread I created today in the a314 forum, if you have access, go have a look. As for body language, I’m going to refrain from answering this as I am a firm believer that if you’re not confident in your mind, that it will still project through with your body language even if you try to physically act more confident. Subtle signs here and there can sneak out and ruin the whole thing. Sorry but that’s my view on it.
IMO buddy you need to do the complete opposite of what your trying to do. SOFTEN YOURSELF UP. Dont’ make yourself harder. Your not in frickin’ prison here. LOOK at it this way if your on here asking for help YOU have to be completely honest with why this girl cut you or nobody can really even begin to point you in the right direction and that includes counselors. Just be honest and truthful to yourself. STOP using mones until you can understand them and what they are meant for. IMO they are not helping you and may even be making your situation worse.
There are many ways to gain respect from others. The only advice I can give you is that your 15 stop trying to be so tough. It’s a lot harder to act a certain way then it is to be yourself or in your case(age) find yourself. I can tell you that the tougher you try to be the more your going to get your ass kicked. So if your GOAL is not to get your ass kicked then stop trying to be so tough and ACTUALLY be HONEST with your counselors and they will help you.
As for football radman gives you some good advice…Hope all goes well as you begin your journey on finding yourself.