hi everyone! i’m so happy to have found this forum, i’m hoping that all of you knowledgeable people (along with a few strategically placed pheros) can help give me the edge i need! 
first, a bit about me: i am a 24 year old single girl.i am fairly confident looks-wise, i’m sterotypically pretty and take care of my body! i work as an office manager and the only other person in my office is the owner, my boss - so no phero play at work! no one to impress there, i plan on leaving that job in a few months and going back to school. i study psychology and want to be a forensic psychologist.
i stumbled across this site while searching online for rules of seduction, the game, etc. i’m so glad i found it! i’ve been lurking for days while waiting for my access to this site to be granted.
now here’s why i am here! i hope i don’t sound pathetic my TG is a guy who is a few years older than me, i met him several years ago, when i was 19. we had an instant chemistry and even though we’ve lived in different cities for a lot of the last 4 years, we’ve had an on-again-off-again (but mostly on again!) fling. we became pretty close. the last year we both lived in the same city and had a great time, we were never in a relationship and we both knew that. we would talk online often, on the phone once in awhile and we’d see each other once a week (i’d sleep over at his place since he lives alone and i live with my sister). he’d make me breakfast in bed, drive me to work, we’d go out for lunch if it was a weekend, etc, so it’s not like it was a “jump in bed then sneak out before morning” kind of thing. we can chat for hours over a bottle of wine, and would frequently.
anyways, he made the decision this summer to move to a different city to go to grad school. also during the summer we got in an arguement because i didn’t agree with the way he handled a certain situation s i, after many conversations and warnings and emails and chats explaining my position, finally said fuck it, you’ve lied to me and gone against what i’ve repeatedly asked you to do here, i don’t want you to be a part of my life right now. i asked him to stop contacting me, and true to my word i did not talk to him for 3 months.
anyways now that he’s moved away we’ve recently started talking casually again - only once in a rare while b/c he doesn’t have the internet at home (lame) and we normally have our long chats over msn. anyways in the last few weeks since i’ve started talking to him again he’s made it clear that he really values me as a person and really wants me to still be a part of his life (in the form of a platonic friendship, even though obviously there’s still chemistry there)…
he came to my city 2 weeks ago and asked to meet up with me to chat, and i agreed. we had a good chat, but in that chat it came out that he’s already moved on and is sleeping with some other girl in his new city (some chick he grew up with, so he already knew her and had slept with her once before, years ago). anyways, i’m not surprised. i see her posting on his myspace so i figured the second he moved to that city, he’d start something with her (eek, this is getting SO long, i’m sorry!). anyways to wrap it up, i’m devastated because i’m really attached to him (though i am 98% sure i never fell in love with him or anything!) - he’s very much into seducting and “the game” and stuff and while i used to think that stuff was dumb (and consistently told him so) i am now realizing that i guess it works because i still am really attached to him and can’t stop thinking about how i just want him back! grrr. so i guess i want to flip this around and try and use some of that on him. obviously it works! he’s easily bored by simpleton girls who aren’t seductive or complicated, etc.
so this is why i’m looking for an added edge! i know there is still major chemistry here (he admits to still getting turned on every time we talk) and he has said he values my opinion over most everyone else he knows - so there’s something there but we’re not in the same city and he’s sleeping with someone else 
so i guess i just want to get a handle on pheromones now so that i can plan to strategically wear some next time we see each other - basically i want to remind him of what a fabulous catch i am ( ) and how much fun we had together and since he’s so in to seduction and stuff, i want him to feel - hmm…intrigued by me, like he hasn’t gotten everything he possibly could from me, like i could have more to offer him or more wisdom to bestow upon him or SOMETHING, to give him a reason to pursue us further. i want him to be intrigued by me and miss me and think of me, like i do him! does any of that make sense?
can anyone help me? 
in terms of social, i am trying to get out and date to get over him so i guess i could use a boost of confidence, i’ve been considering instant shine and instant sexiness because who couldn’t use those? i’m pretty well able to turn on the charm when i need to, when meeting new ppl though so i don’t need a ton of help in that regard!
thank you SO MUCH if you’ve made it this far! 
