Hello to all, and thank you for having such a great community.
I’m Jeremy. I’ll be 23 next month, and I’m currently residing just south of Dallas, TX, in a small town that probably doesnt exist on the map. Originally from Missouri, I moved to Texas for what many would say is all the wrong reasons: love. That in itself probably says alot about me, and I will fully admit to being a hopeless romantic. Its been a rough road on that trip for love, but I did find an amazing job and now have a career, so it worked out in the end for me. Plus, her and I are now attempting to smooth things back over as well.
I’m a computer technician, and an extremely curious person. I like to know how everything works and why. I’m new to the pheromone usage. I had a female friend clue me in one them. She experimented with some herself, and said that it can be used for more than just sex or one night stands. I stumbled upon this site earlier tonight and have been hooked on the different threads since I first landed here.
Since I was homeschooled, and have grown up working under a car, on computers, and online I never really developed that great of social skills. I still am shy even as an adult. Lack of confidence perhaps? I’m still not sure. But I’m trying to overcome it. Meeting new people, opening up to them, and having them open up to me has always been a problem for me. Once I have known the person for a while, this becomes much easier. But in the beginning, I struggle with it.
There are three things I would like to test out pheromones to see if they can have any beneficial effect: confidence, social settings, and romance.
I naturally lack confidence. And I do believe that it is noticeable. Maybe not as much as I think, and maybe I over analyze this, but having something to help boost my confidence until I am able to reprogram my natural way of thinking is something that would be desired. Social settings is another thing that I feel I could use some help with. When I go out to bars or clubs with coworkers, I usually am distant. There have been countless times that I have blown off both my coworkers and potential new friends. I know that this stems from several different things. And I do not believe pheromones can solve all of those issues. But then again, I am new to this and I could be completely wrong as well.
I know one part is hearing issues. Its hard to be interested in a conversation you cant hear. But that only applies when there’s loud music or other noises. Another issue is lack of interest, lack of concentration, or just simple boredom. Such as me having to come up with the ice breakers and full conversation. I know that American society places certain roles on men, such as having to be the one to initiate conversation. But sometimes its nice for the woman to do this. Or at least hold her own in a conversation. Maybe this is poor choice in people I attempt to converse with. Or maybe part of it is me. I doubt I am intimidating, given I’m only 5’ 6" and 125lbs. But I came off as intimidating to classmates in high school. Or maybe I put off a feeling of distrust, some type of subliminal warning to people?
This is something that I feel pheromones could help. I by no means want to be the life of the party. But its nice to feel like people trust you and are open to you. And if they are trusting, honest, and open, then its easier to talk and hold a conversation. I like having deep conversations and theorizing. I would take a night out under the stars talking bout hopes, dreams, and future than a night full of binge drinking and waking up next to random women in some run down hotel room. But thats just me.
Work would be a subsection of social settings in my book. My job is laid back. I’m technically filed as a private contractor, which leaves my options open as far as my career and future. I do want to be able to come off as trustworthy to customers. I do not work directly in sales right now, but I have been told that I would do well at it. I do have many business ventures I would like to attempt in the next few years. Having a boost of confidence, and some help gaining trust on that first meeting I believe will increase my chances of making a great first impression, and lead to a more successful close rate with clients, more signed contracts, and eventually more money in my pocket.
The final thing that I would like some assistance with from pheromones is romance. As i noted earlier, I moved nearly 1,000 miles all for a woman. Many have said that I’m young, immature, and down right stupid for doing this. And to an extent, they were right. I am stubborn and hard headed though, so i have to learn these things for myself. And it has been a rough road with her. We both put each other through total hell. There has been alot of drama and mistakes on both parts. We are attempting to work things out again. But one of the biggest issues now, and something we have battled more and more as our relationship continued, was communication. I know that both her and I close up when hurt. We have shut the other out plenty. And we both are having issues readjusting and allowing the other person back in. I am a hopeless romantic, so I could be blind and foolish when I say this, but I think her and I can make things work out for the best for both our lives.
Having something to help increase bonding time and closeness would be great. She says that I’m alot more cold and show less emotion towards her now. I know that I need to open up more to her. And in the heat of the moment, its easy to. But normal day to day, I catch myself holding back. And I can sense that she is as well. I can see it in her eyes that she wants to say certain things, or do certain things. But she doesnt. Sometimes she thinks she’s not allowed. Other times shes scared of what the results may be. And yet other times she wants to but simply doesnt remember how. I think that her and I both could greatly benefit from the help of pheromones. Not in a sexual way (though later on maybe it’d increase sexual desire as well, not an issue at the moment), but in a sensual way. Having her open up to me and talk to me at night while going to sleep, cuddled up together. Time spent bonding. Increasing the bonding, the clinginess, the openness, the communication.
I am in no means trying to use these to get laid or anything. While pheromones may help with that, its something that does not interest me. I’m wanting to be laid back, chill, gain new friends, and repair relationships I once had that are not broken. These are things that I have read briefly that can happen as a result from use of pheromones. I would be in debt to this site if all of those things happened to come true as a direct or indirect use of pheromones. I’ve read that it can be life changing. I’m a gambling man, so I think its worth the risk. At the very least, its one more thing I can add to my collection of knowledge in my head. And its intriguing to see just how these things work with our brains and bodies. That in itself is worth spending countless hours reading about.
Anyways, I’m sure this is far too long for a simple introduction. Again, thank you to the site and all the members who contribute to it. Thanks to you, I shall be losing out on many hours of sleep
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