Hi CajunBullDog,
Coupla things.
Thanks for citing the races and your regions, because that can impact us in our communication NEEDs to FEEL rapport.
First off, WELCOME!!! and bless your determined masculine heart for wanting to rekindle and restrengthen (fluttering feminine appreciation). I think it is truly great and admirable.
That said, may I be so bold and direct about the cooling off.
Is it that your Dear Wife doesn’t seem innnnnterested in sex?
Is it that once there, well, it’s perfunctory (how fast DID we each get to the goal line?)
USUALLY for the woman, there has been some break in the communication. It’s not just TRUST. Sex is a dialogue. Let’s just hope it’s not the ONLY dialogue going on in a marriage.
The other aspect is THE SEDUCTION. THE FLIRTATION. Instant Honesty and Instant Openness help to move in that direction.
As I am oooooh so sure you already know, women need the FLIRTATION/SEDUCTION to FEEL arousal and respond oh so fabulously with lubricating, aka PJ
as some have written here. Ah, some fabulous men think of it as nectar, cream or honey. Oh, sorry, I digress! Wellll, to FEEL that arousal, we often need some flirtation for AWHILE before sex.
I was just talking with a married couple friends of mine. The verbal and caressing foreplay for the evening’s menu items start when he leaves in the morning. He tells her all he wants to do later. of course, uttered in sexy smoldering ways.
How is your physique? Sometimes a few pounds lost around the middle can improve our sexual appeal to each other on the nonconscious level.
Please feel free to venture on over to Da Ladies Lounge - aka Women’s Forum and we’re happy to let you in on what we think. lol! OK, so a LOT of what we think.
And the men here are FABULOUS and VERY helpful for what works that they have tried and proven.
OK, the race factor. Dr Kevin Hogan (Kevin Hogan, Speaker - Motivational, Influence, Body Langage Expert) has written a lot about body language, researched it for yrs etc. And I think it’s in his most recent book (Marketing - The Bold Approach Method: The Secret Language of Business and an Interview with Dr. Kevin Hogan , click to save and you can listen to an interview in which he talks about the different need to EYE contact by race) where he talks about different cultures/races and our need for EYE CONTACT. Black women needed the HIGHEST AMOUNT of eye contact. Are you giving your dear wife a LOT of eye contact during your communication? She may need that in conjunction with the pheromones to re-open up and reestablish rapport with you.
WELCOME!
April