Hi, Clear! Welcome!
You found this forum… a year ago? Dayum, girl, it’s about time you showed up! 
You’ve been missin’ all the fun! 
The boys suggestion of IS/B is a good one. It was one of my all time favorites. A long time ago there was also an IS/A, too, but neither one is available anymore and there’s been no word if/when they’re ever coming back. However, you’re in luck! After a long absence TAL and TAH are now available again and in the store. RUN… no joke,because there’s no telling when they will disappear again.
I’m petite, too, but with a curvy build and very girly/feminine in both gestures and appearance. Which belies my underlying alpha/assertive edge. 
The flag ship women’s products at AD were IS/A and IS/B. They both contained the feminine molecules TAL and TAH but in different proportions and they alsohad other unknown molecules added to them.
So, the difference between TAL and TAH…
TAL = Angelina Jolie - projects a strong, confident, sexy, take no prisoners alpha-babe vibe. Great for giving a “boost” to gals who need a little more confidence or who want to project a more alpha aura. It also works great for some already alpha-babes who have NP with it. Despite being alpha, instead of wrestling with, it they ride it like Yakima Canutt! Although for women like you/me, it can be a little too much of a good thing because already naturally being in alpha-babe territory, I don’t really need that kinda push or to project that kind of image.
TAH = Marilyn Monroe - projects a softer, sexy, more kittenish vibe. This is the one that has the edge of vulnerability you’re looking for. 
Yup, you sound like a TAH girl to me. So am I. I might mention that my husband loooves TAH and can’t seem to resist me when I wear it. TAL scares him and he don’t scare easy, lol.
I’ll never forget when I first started getting into all this and I was describing the effects of some of the various pheromones to my husband. When I got to TAL, he looked at me 
, and said, “You don’t have any of that do you?!” ROFL. Why, yes, in fact I do!
Some women find IS/B or TAH makes them feel a bit “ditsy” or too vulnerable. Reasons for that, well… if they’re a little ditsy to begin with this might not be the best choice, lol. Or they’re already feeling vulnerable before applying it, whether it be conscious or unconscious, and it can bring those feelings rushing to the surface. And other women find that TAH is just what it takes to soften their more assertive edge. Go figure. All kinds of possibilities, you see.
Which one attracts alpha-guys and which one attracts beta-guys? Both are attractive and both attract both alpha and beta guys. A lotta both in there, lol. How well either will work for you depends. It always depends, lol. It also depends on how you feel when wearing them.
TAL might get me hits but I don’t wear it too much, especially by itself , because I feel too ramped up. The uncomfortable feeling of having to wrestle with the self effects makes it uncomfortable. So, to counter act/balance out that feeling while at the same time getting the reactions I want from it, I temper it with softer/social molecules. We often use TAL and TAH together to balance the effects of one with the other.
For example, if you want to lessen the self effects of TAL, spray it to the back of your neck/head and TAH, up front, to the neck/chest area where you can huff it. I say lessen because no matter where you spray it you will be effected, just somewhat less.
OK, onward. Shy and reserved in small gatherings and can let loose in larger groups. IO and IH can help you there. I’d go with IO for self effects if you’re planning to be with just a few people. That should help you to open up more and make it easier for you to approach others and to also be more approachable at the same time. Where IO is described as more quantity of conversation than quality, IH is known for inspiring a deeper more intimate feeling of connection and more quality conversation. It makes it seem as if you and your target have known each other for a long time. That could also work well for you depending on the circumstances and your choice of companion(s).
And don’t forget the IShine! It imparts a bright, shiny, fun to be around you vibe. One can never go wrong icing the cake with IShine. 
So, how all and any of this works depends on numerous variables. Pheromones are/can be very mood directed. Pheromones can work for or against your personality type. If TAL or TAH, or any other pheromone/MX/putative doesn’t work for you/work as expected, or as others have reported, the reason could be as simple as it not agreeing with your personal chemistry. Because just as your individual targets reactions might vary, so will your reactions. So, again, it depends.
EoW at work? Yeah. No thanks, lol. Although a lot of women wear it and I’m sure it does what they want it to do, that’s exactly why I don’t wear it. To each her own.
Here’s the skinny… Essence of Woman is synthetic copulins manufactured in a lab to mimic the effect of natural copulins that are produced/emitted by women in their fertile years at the time of ovulation. (It’s a call of the wild, baby, and part of the mating game. Time to procreate!) Because it’s synthetic it has added elements (scents) that somewhat mimic the “earthier” smells in nature. So, primarily, it stinks! Despite what’s been said about the stench of it, it works extremely well for sexual attraction. We wear it because it’s a man magnet and works like a charm. Albeit a smelly little charm, lol. Copulins do have a vinegary/fermented fruit/earthy smell and that’s why it’s important to take the necessary steps to cover them up with perfume/cologne. Don’t let the smell scare you, it’s eminently workable, with a little patience and practice you’ll figure it out. The ladies who have taken the time to learn to use it correctly have all come out alive, well, and well-laid on the other side, lol. Yeah, we’re still here, using Essence of Woman, because it does exactly what it claims to do… attract men! That’s why we hold our noses and use it, lol.
Women, no matter their age, who are on The Pill do not make copulins and neither do women who are past menopause.
There are some places that you’re better off staying away from when applying Essence of Woman. Depending on where you’ve applied it, it can be a bugger to wash out. Essence of Woman belongs on your skin, not on clothing and never in your hair because it sticks like a mo-fo! Also, instead of applying Essence of Woman after applying your pheromones/perfume, apply it first. And after you apply it, it’s very important to make sure to let it dry down for a good 10-15 mins before applying any other pheromones/perfume over it or you risk bleed through of the stench.
There are tons of threads to search throughout the forum on EoW. Here’s one I responded to awhile back that might shed some light for you on the different ways you can use EoW.
Hmmm, you want jaw dropping? Try adding some IO, IShine, TAH, and a few drops of EoW to your “liquid courage”… and shake that up in a red dress… and while your at it, put 911 on speed dial!
It’s nice to have you here, Clear. Hope that helps some. Just boogie on over to the women’s forum if you have more any more questions. See ya there!
Bella