Hello, new to the forums and pheromones!

Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!
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Apologies for the long post.

Hi there, my name is Aidin and I am 20 years of age (I am a male for those who haven’t noticed :stuck_out_tongue:). I live in the UK and I am in my third year of study at university (Chemistry). I also own a pizza takeaway business. I try to go to the gym as often as I can but studies get in the way, I play paintball and am in the middle of setting up a tournament team currently. I was actually born in Iran but have been living in the UK since I was 9 months old so I’m practically British though I still hold some of my cultural values.

A little about myself before we get onto pheromones -

My parents are deaf (don’t really speak English either)and my entire childhood has been a difficult one for me (being the first born and all). I’ve had the responsibility of the whole family, doing everything for my parents; I was translating on the phone and at appointments/meetings from the age of 4 for example. And because of my parents expectations of me, I would always be studying at home quite a lot. As a result of this, I think it made me secluded a little from socialising with others around me. I would find it hard to fit in. I was the “kind you’d find alone in a corner.” I would find it hard to talk to others around me, especially girls. Skipping along a bit to high school times. I only ever had 1 good friend. I still had problems talking to people, it would take me a while to be able to talk to someone I didn’t know.

So moving along to the present, I still have problems talking to new people. I find it difficult especially in crowds. I only have a small number of friends and just 1 female friend. Unless its formal, I can’t talk to new people easily and find myself really tense around new people too.
For the first time in my life I went out to town for a night out/clubbin’ with a friend and his friends. I couldn’t speak to his friends until I actually got a little drunk (which also was my first time). I have to say I did enjoy the night in the end but it took more than a few drinks to enjoy it.

I always seem to have the feeling that I’m an odd one out and that no one would ever be interested in me. Now I know that’s not true but I’m sure you can all understand why I feel so.
Now I have been reading around here today and realised the potential of pheromones to enhance one’s self. I don’t come here with expectations, but rather, with an open mind.

I’ve never been in a relationship before and I’m starting to feel like I need some companionship. But I find it hard to even talk to females :frowning:. I am a shy person until I know someone well enough.

I want to be able to relax around people, I want to be confident around people. And I would like people around me to notice me. I want to be able to talk to people, especially females as I find that hard to do. I want to take opportunities and be able to take things further too.

I’ve tried helping myself by going out more and I find it a tiny bit easier now but I’m always so tense.

Any advice? What kind of pheromones would suit me? I’ve read a bit around here but there is so much information to take in and I don’t know where to start!

Thanks!

Quick note: I found this place by accident whilst browsing on Google for information on pheromones. I don’t even know how but one thing led to another.

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Hey there and welcome!

Well, you’ve given a lot of info about yourself. I think a lot of people find it difficult to open with people socially and I understand how you feel. Before I say anything about mones I’m going to say that I have no doubt you are great. You are studying for a hard qualification AND running your own business? You have skills a lot of people would envy.

So you’re shy and need a drink to loosen up? That’s also not unusual. A lot of us get so caught up in the image we project all the time we find it hard to project a different one. You know the word personality comes from the Greek “persona” which I think is “mask”? There’s a reason for that!

So here we go - I’m going to guess how other people see you: studious, hard working, successful and going places. Probably too committed to his work to be social. Takes himself a little seriously but if you get to know him he’s a good guy.

What you’ve got to do is stop seeing yourself how you see yourself. Start to see yourself like the people who love you see you - as this awesome talented guy who is a real catch for the right lady if he’d let himself loosen up a bit. Then start to act like who you want to be - become the person you want to be. It’s only being true to yourself - the only thing your changing is how true to yourself you are. You can work hard, study AND be fun.

The biggest lesson I learned in life was when I wanted a promotion. I looked at my boss and I thought “how would he react in this situation?” I didn’t copy him but I thought “right…when he enters a room he does it this way…when he speaks to a stranger he does it this way”. So I started acting like a confident person does, even when I wasn’t confident. I let other people decide for me whether they’d like me or fancy me or be my friend - I didn’t let myself decide that for them before I’d ever spoken to them.

Incidentally, one day I asked my boss how he could be so confident in difficult situations and he said “oh I just make it up as I go along. If you do it like you believe it no-one will question you.”

So he was doing exactly what I was doing and had all the same insecurities, he’d just learned to hide them behind the image he wanted to project.

So now onto mones. They aren’t magic and they’re not going to change your life overnight. What they do for me though, is they give me an edge. If I have everything in place they just seem to make things better and easier. As an example: IO - on it’s own if I sit in a bar and say nothing then I have a silent evening. If I go to a bar and start talking to people, forget I’ve got IO on and just go with the flow then conversation seems easy. Likewise, IG and Instant Shine - I put them on, think to myself my affirmations “I am dependable, cool, glowing with health” and I go out BEING that person. I believe the mones help me project that. But I still have to do 95% of the work.

And from what you’ve said about yourself I genuinely believe you can do that work.

What mones would I recommend for you? IG, Instant Shine, Instant Openness and maybe Instant Honesty. Try them in To Go using the GC for most of the cost and see if you like them. I do!

So long post gets a long reply!

Good luck, and don’t be down on yourself - you say you want to talk to females…well…often they want to be spoken to as well. Go in with no expectations and worst that happens is they bluff you away, best that happens is you end up in a relationship…2nd best is you get a female friend, and believe me, you can never have enough of them!

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Hey, well stevios sure beat me to it but I highly suggest his recommendations as well.

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Hi Aidin, welcome to the forum!

It sounds like you do have some confidence in yourself already, as you have your own business, and you are organizing a tournament. You just need to let others see it.

I think Instant Openness would be great in helping you to overcome that shyness of talking to new people, its very normal, actually, to feel a bit shy with strangers.

Instant Gentleman will give you a boost of confidence and also a percived aura of a guy who can handle whatever comes his way, a guy to be respected.

Instant Shine is a positive, uplifting phero mix that will boost both your mood as well as the moods of those around you.

To add depth and intimacy to conversations, use Instant Honesty. Others will feel comfortable around you and trust you more, IH helps to create and strengthen emotional bonds as well.

I hope this helps, and if you have any questions, just ask! :slight_smile:

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Hi Aidin and welcome to the forum!

Thank you for your intelligent and honest introduction.

I think shyness is such a common problem and stems from a lack of self-confidence. You have done well to find this forum as pheromones will help alleviate these negative feelings and give you a push in the right direction - helping you in relationships. Using pheromones will help you to start having faith in yourself. They are not magic potions and you have to start focusing on postive thoughts and feeling good about yourself.

Firstly I would recommend ammo as it is the best stand alone product for attracting girls. This phero will give you attraction, confidence, respect and approachability.

I would then go for the social pheromones. IO will increase the quantity of conversation and is a fantastic icebreaker when chatting to new people. IH is the deepening the quality of conversation and helps create intimacy and closer connections. IS is a mood enhancer and makes you and the people you are around feel great. This phero is great for eliminating shyness along with IO. CTTM2 is also a very good phero formaking you friendly and approachable.

IG may well be good for you. This phero gives you trust and respect but with a cool and laid back vibe. This will help you to feel relaxed and take away that tension you sometimes experience.

All these pheros can be bought in to go bottles that are smaller thena the regular bottles so you can buy more for less cash.

I hope this helps you and keep in touch.
Mackie72

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Oh wow, so many answers in such a short amount of time. Thanks everyone!

Firstly, yes your right Stevios, I do need to stop thinking about myself the way I do currently. I’m trying my best with that. I know being positive and believing with positive attitudes helps in general with life. I try to be like this as much as I can. I just don’t seem to have much self confidence about myself with socialising with others but I do think I am slowly improving.

Secondly to all who have suggested different pheromones. You’ve each listed a few. Are these to be used in combinations or alone?

Yes, I’m not the type of person to believe these are magic potions. I do however believe that they will help me to overcome/alleviate my fears; make me feel more confident maybe.

I know I can’t sit there and expect someone to come over to me to talk and I know I can’t expect to magically be able to just do what I want to. I just need to get in the mood/feel confident enough to initiate conversations and not feel so shy.

Thanks once again,
Aidin

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Hi Aidin
I would use each pheromone separately to begin with stating with one spray. Start small and build up gradually until you find your sweet spot where the pheros are the most effective. For IO for example you may feel the most effective with 2 sprays whilst ammo you may only need 1 spray.

All the best on your pheromone adventure.
Mackie

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How do I know its effective for the different pheromones there are? That may have sounded liek a stupid question, I guess you would notice a difference in moods… What if this effectiveness is felt with say 2 or 3 sprays. Do I just use the 2? Also do these actually give off a fragrance? I know that pheromones are naturally scentless to us humans.

Also when do I use the sprays and how often?

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Hey Aidin

You’re right, you’ll see different effects. e.g. Instant Shine just makes me happy :slight_smile: IG can make some people slightly nervous around me, but if I “work” it right it seems to make people want to be around me. It’s like a charisma thing - some people might find that intimidating while others will be drawn to it. One more thing to bear in mind is the mones won’t make anyone do anything they don’t want to or change their mind about anything. That’s why working “with” them is so important. I just see them as a way of projecting stronger what I’m doing anyway / who I am. It’s like they amp up what I naturally give off. When people find they don’t work it may just be they are sending out confusing signals by not wearing mones that work “with” them / not working “with” the mones themselves.

Generally they last 3 to 4 hours in my experience. I tend to apply in the morning 10 minutes before I leave home if I’m wearing them, then I might do so again if I’m going out in the evening. I tend to apply one each side of the neck if I’m wearing 2 sprays. If I go higher than 2 I apply to my wrists after that.

The scent for most of the Instant line is neroli -this is a light orange fragrance that can be strong at first but soon fades. I don’t find it any stronger than shower gel smell. By the end of the day I can’t smell it at all. Some scents, like the one used for Ammo, I can smell long after the mones have worn off though.

The other thing is the longer you have your bottles the less the scent is. I can tell a new bottle sometimes by how strong the fragrance is.

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The products generally last between 3 to 5 hours, depending on temperature, whether you’re inside or outside, whether you’re sweaty, etc.

And yes, you can combine them, but as Mackie said, you should test them individually first. This post should help How To Find Your Sweet Spot (How to find your sweet spot...).

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Ok thanks, I’ll check out the guide. I read though somewhere here that deodorant is not a good idea… Is this true? I do sweat more than the average person and the doctors haven’t figured out why yet which is annoying. I always use antiperspirant.

Just have to finish my Dissertation now for tomorrow. I will post back when I have decided on what to get tomorrow probably.

Thanks again everyone!

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I don’t know where you heard that, but deodorant is just fine! After all, you don’t want to counter-act the good effects of the pheros by being sweaty and stinky. :roll_eyes:

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Ok cool, thanks.

It was difficult choosing a best answer here. Very difficult I must say. But all posts here were brilliant and I thank you all. No one is better than the other though; all of you provided the much needed input.

I’ll have a browse of the shop and will be back once I place an order.

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Hello and welcome to PheroTalk. I am so happy you were able to discover this most amazing community. We consider each other like family here and are totally committed to helping each other out. There are so many great people here and now another too :slight_smile:.

I will be issuing your GC in just a short while to your email. I would love to be able to personally respond to every new user signing on, but because I want to ensure you get the GC in time I can only reply with this message at this time. I’m sure you are anxious to get started, just like the rest of us were too :slight_smile:. Its cool!

Of course I am available to answer any question you might have regarding mones selection by calling me personally on the hotline. Please select extension one and I will be able to consult you one on one.

Welcome to the forum.

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Hi Mickaelia and thanks for your reply :slight_smile:. I appreciate the GC very much and will be usign it in the next few days with my order once I hand in my final dissertation and project tomorrow :stuck_out_tongue:. Gives me time to browse properly.

Once agian, thansk for all the warm welcomes :slight_smile:

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Just noticed some of the sprays like Instant Gentlemen and AMMO are out of stock. Any idea when they will be restocked? Don’t know if I should wait or not for them as the others are in stock.

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Just took delivery of my pheros. Firstly thank you for the $35 GC, really appreciate that. And I wish to thank Jacob for the free gift which is what I wanted to get but you were out of stock on! Thanks so much! Really fast delivery too. I’m going to try them out today and keep a notepad on it so I can report back later.

Once again, Thanks!