HI wk19, welcome to the forum.
As far as spark in the bedroom is concerned, there are two aspects to consider. First is physical arousal, which Turn up the Heat can accomplish nicely for you. It is androstenone that is unbuffered and can make women very turned-on sexually. Don’t wear it all the time, however, just a spray or two before you head to the bedroom. If she is exposed to it at a time when sexual activity is definitely not an option, such as in front of the kids, at church, at her parent’s house…this can lead to irritability and grumpiness. Sort of blue balls for women.
The other aspect you simply must consider is that women are not wired like men, we do not respond well sexually if there are other tensions in the relationship. I always recommend to married people that they start with Instant Honesty. It is beta-androstenol based and encourages trust and openness. It will really help her to feel like opening up and sharing whatever is on her mind. This is a crucial thing in any relationship, and a lot of men do not realize how important it is to us women. Good communication may solve a lot of the sexual issues at home. Even if it doesn’t fix it, she will feel more comfortable talking about what is at the base of your troubles.
I came here to add some spark back to my marriage as well. So I sympathize with what you’re going through. I learned something the hard way, and that is that the people who know you best, i.e. spouse, are already well familiar with your own natural pheromone signature. We all put off specific pheromones, in specific quantities, every day. Supplementing those with products that you spray on will alter that signature.
Your wife may not be able to put her finger on what has changed when you start wearing pheros, but she will notice that something is indeed different. And unfortunately, it is in our nature to wonder who, not what, caused the change. So if she starts giving you suspicious glances and asking what’s different, don’t panic. If it seems like she’s giving you the cold shoulder at first, don’t worry. Just be patient, and keep on exposing her to the pheros you’re wearing. She’ll come around.
Some have discovered that their spouse adjusted within hours or days. My husband took a month to get over his suspicions and just react to the pheros. Then we had a lot of fun, but I had to exercise a lot of patience in the beginning.
Just thought you’d want to know ahead of time. 