There are times where I tend to take charge of the room; it hasn’t happened in a while. I ponder if it was my pheromones. I am looking to get that again, and maybe something that’ll help boost my confidence so I can be a star again. Any suggestions on where to start?
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To get into more detail, I am 31 years old, male, and I live in Washington.
In the past few weeks, I have been feeling insecure. This naturally rubs my wife the wrong way. She in turn (of course) had gotten annoyed by this, and has grown a little distant. To the point where she doesn’t want me to talk to her like regular, while she asks me to be regular. It is hard for me to act like my normal self with these new rules in place. So I ask if I can leave so that I don’t bother her for a bit so we can carry on like regular after we get to recollect ourselves. But she doesn’t want me to leave either. She has been afraid of this other girl that has shown an interest in me, and that makes her feel insecure.
This has gone on in a little loop on a pretty regular basis after the initial kick-off.
I am quite shy, but my job position (small biz owner), makes me have to deal with public regularly if I want to get paid.
Ladies have always found me attractive because of my looks and smarts. I would say that I am a Beta borderline Alpha. I say this because I am quite manly in my thoughts and actions (cavemanish) with my only issue really is being shy. Some ladies have viewed me as a go getter, and assertive, but that was only when I had an immediate need to overcome being shy; most view me as being gentle and kind. Most of the time when there are other males around, I do tend to take the lead, on occasion I don’t.
ADHD going on.
What I initially intended on doing with phero’s was just to break this stupid loop with my wife by triggering her comfort by having her feel more secure about me in general. I can imagine that lately she might think of me as whimpy, whereas she normally thinks of me as capable. I would just like to break this barrier for a moment, long enough to get on with our lives.
After doing some reading on your forum, I discovered that there was an assortment of pheromones that can have different effects. So I am also interested in boosting my confidence on those rough shy feeling days. And, it wouldn’t hurt to try something for when I visit customers to see if they respond to anything either.
When I mentioned take charge of the room above, really, I had charge of the whole department I was going to school for. As a student I had a lot of influence being a 4.0 and president of our club, being the only student that had aced all of the classes since that department was started when I was a kid. I was on fire. But without all my yes men, my shyness kicked back in.
Please excuse my ADHD.
Products I have discovered and hold some interest in are the IS, a314, ammo, and tuth.
I figure that the ammo and IS would be my helper when it comes to my misses. The alpha a314 with IS when it comes to customer presentation. And the tuth for the mistress, just kidding, really, just to add some spice with my misses every once in a while.
I understand the idea of od when it comes to pheromones. One time my misses came home wearing some phero’s, and when she placed her wrist to my nose I felt a surge of a brute cavemanish sensation, power, and anger. This is why I concluded that this can be a desirable way to allow us a chance to bond again.
Sex? It’s there, sometimes just for relieve, sometimes (not enough in my opinion, my preference) for passion, and sometimes as animals lusting after each other (her preference).
Welcome Qew,
Pheromones can help open up communication doors to start fixing your marriage but it won’t fix your problems.
In marriage it is important there is good communication and compromise, the two c’s.
You both should understand the way each other feel and be sensitive to it and also realize that men and women are different and handle things differently
Men usually want to isolate themselves when there is a problem and figure out a solution, women rarely are looking for a solution (this is general, of course there are exceptions) they want to be heard and feel like they are being listened to.
She doesn’t want you to leave because she wants to talk and wants to be heard
Listen to her and find a way to express your feelings as well
IO to ease you guys into conversation
IH for her to open up on a deeper level and trust you , for closeness and warmth in relationships like these
You really want to use the socials to initiate convo and to allow for opening up
IG to give that dependable, mature vibe and still have you approachable which is what you want in a marriage
Eventually Ammo to show your interest in her sexually and to boast your confidence
You need to figure out at what stage you want to use each of these but you do want to start of by fixing the obv communication issues before anything else.
Your gc was issued!
Thank you for your answer, I had put a lot of thought into it. I don’t know how you did it, but you nailed it right on the head.
I would like to report that I received my shipment on my wife’s birthday, and just previously, I had explained to her that I was getting this package. She was giggly excited about it. We both put on some instant shine, and wow, we were beaming with smiles from ear to ear all day. I heard her on the phone with her mom telling how awesome I made her birthday be. For the last few days we have been very intimate, both sexually and non sexually, very close, sleeping tied up like pretzels on the couch each night. I know that most of it comes from us being able to communicate and compromise, and that has been a struggle. I feel that instant shine and ammo 2012 summer edition helped us overlook griping long enough that we just simply enjoyed each others company. I honestly feel that our bond is still here very much so, and to think that last week we were compromising on a divorce.
I have been poking around here pretty regularly over the last week. This is a great community. Tons of relevant information. I hope to be able to help others as I learn too.
Thank you,
Qew