Let’s break down attraction to the most basic elements.
Male and female.
Males are attracted to females.
Females are attracted to males.
Biologically speaking, what makes somebody male?
Testosterone.
Biologically speaking, what makes somebody female?
Estrogen.
Testosterone is attracted to estrogen.
Estrogen is attracted to testosterone.
Ever wonder why the jocks got the girls in high school? They worked out and played in competitive sports; two things conducive to promoting testosterone in the body.
Ever wonder why “bad boys” and criminals get the women? They’re risk takers. They pay no attention to law. They’re reckless and dangerous. Again, symptoms of high testosterone.
Research has linked high testosterone to criminal behavior. Research has linked competition and weight lifting to high testosterone as well.
Women are attracted to the jocks and bad boys simply because they are male in the sense that they have high testosterone.
Is the flip side true? Are men attracted to beautiful women simply because they are women in the sense that they have high estrogen?
Yes, studies have shown that men are attracted to women with high estrogen levels as well.
(Btw, you will find women use make up as well in order to give the illusion of the physical characteristics of high estrogen in order to attract males)
There’s a deeper science that goes into this about how high levels of testosterone and estrogen reflect underlying health and fertility, but I won’t get into that.
Strictly speaking in biological terms, testosterone makes the man and estrogen makes the women.
Is this surprising? No.
Drill down to the basics.
I am male, she is female.
Act accordingly and attraction will not be a problem.
Now, am I advocating that you go and inject yourself with 500 liters of testosterone? Absolutely not. Injecting yourself with synthetic testosterone shuts down your body’s ability to produce it naturally.
I am advocating however, that you engage in activities that will raise your testosterone levels.
Lifting heavy weights on a consistent basis coupled with proper nutrition and rest will raise levels of testosterone in the body. When you lift heavy weights, you literally create little tears in your muscle tissues. Testosterone, an anabolic hormone responsible for muscle growth among many other things, is produced by the body in order to rebuild the muscle to resist against future weight.
So instead of sitting on your butt playing World of Warcraft, Playstation, or X Box, get out there and pick up the weights.
You will find that by building your testosterone, your demeanor toward women and theirs toward you will change. When you lock eyes with a beautiful women, you won’t immediately shift your eyes to the ground and be embarrassed. You’ll lock eye contact with her and be comfortable about it. SHE will be the one who looks away.
You will find that women will start paying more attention to you. It’s as if they’re equipped with incredibly sensitive receptors to testosterone. (studies have shown that women are capable of identifying individuals with high testosterone simply by smelling sweaty t-shirts)
Try a regimen of weightlifting and compare your attitude and results with the opposite sex after a short period of time. You’ll be pleasantly surprised.
And don’t become so obsessed with testosterone that you start letting it control you, in terms of your behavior and attitude. Then you’ll turn into the jerk or the criminal.
The key is to have testosterone and control it. Don’t let it control you.
Just be true to your nature.
To illustrate my point even further, imagine a woman with a thick beard, mustache and a deep voice hitting on you at the bar. You would be repulsed right? Of course you would! This woman is not embracing her true nature as a female.
Women are a million times more repulsed because nice guys do exactly the same thing. They don’t embrace their true nature as a male.