Helpful Life Guidelines: Dale Carnegie

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I got to thinking a lot after reading and contributing Tourch10’s original post of “things to help your journey in mones”. I also was answering another question on the forum about a somewhat related idea, basically making friends.

While this isn’t technically about pheromones, I think it’s invaluable. I’m posting the Wikipedia article for Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People. It’s a little overwhelming at first but reading it or thinking about it every day helps me. Note these are guidelines, not all of them might affect your life, but many of them should at least be relateable.
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

  1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
  2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
  3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Six Ways to Make People Like You

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember that a man’s Name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in the terms of the other man’s interest.
  6. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.

Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking

  1. Avoid arguments.
  2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never tell someone they are wrong.
  3. If you’re wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
  4. Begin in a friendly way.
  5. Start with questions the other person will answer yes to.
  6. Let the other person do the talking.
  7. Let the other person feel the idea is his/hers.
  8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
  9. Sympathize with the other person.
  10. Appeal to noble motives.
  11. Dramatize your ideas.
  12. Throw down a challenge.

Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

  1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
  2. Call attention to other people’s mistakes indirectly.
  3. Talk about your own mistakes first.
  4. Ask questions instead of directly giving orders.
  5. Let the other person save face.
  6. Praise every improvement.
  7. Give them a fine reputation to live up to.
  8. Encourage them by making their faults seem easy to correct.
  9. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.

Eight Rules For Making your Home Life Happier

  1. Don’t nag.
  2. Don’t try to make your partner over.
  3. Don’t criticize.
  4. Give honest appreciation.
  5. Pay little attentions.
  6. Be courteous.
  7. Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.
  8. Listen carefully to what your partner says and make him/her feel important about what he/she says
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I like Dale, i read the book from him “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”…
The man knows what hes talking about…

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I love this book!

It helps you build a beautiful character that will smooth out all your interactions. When you learn to actively focus on the positive things others do and are liberal with expressing this, it has a very healing effect on them. It also causes them to show more of the good things to impress you. Instead of forcing good behaviour upon them from the outside, it brings out the best they have to offer. You respect the sovereignity of the other person while being a strong influence.

So many people out there are judgemental, or seem to take pleasure in listing complaints or find fault with others like it is some kind of treasure. After that, people really crave for some peace, warmth and positivity.

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I have his book.

But it kinda teaches you how to be fake. I know thats what it takes to be a successful businessman and thats why I dont see myself making a career in business. I just cant do it.