Since I don’t have alot of female or PUA friends, I figure why not ask all of you. I am newly back on the dating scene. With texting now so popular, how long after receiving a woman’s phone # should you call/text her. Guys say not to call to soon because it looks desperate, but waiting 4 days would seem like your not interested. So, please explain the rules.
I text the next day and then, depending whether she responds, I call later that night.
There is no rule though, go with your gut
+1…ppl play these games where you have to wait days or a week and all that bs..If you’re interested in her, show her..cause if not, someone else will come along and do it, then you’re assed out!
Just dont throw EVERYTHING in the ring emotionally..Gotta give some push/pull so you’ll keep her interest. Let her know" Hey I’m diggin you’re groovy vibes"..but then dont call or text her every 3 mins..
you can call whilst you are still talking to her the first time you meet her… ‘hi sweetie. who is that dashing young man at the bar you are talking to’. (meaning yourself)
if you call her later, try calling her, being exciting and reawakening her interest in you… then end the call fairly soon without asking her out or showing too much direct interest. then call her again in a few days.
there has been so much written on this, much of it good. google phone game, experiment and see what works for you.
Call when you feel like doing it. There is no hard and fast rule.
Just make sure that you cut it short and always seem busy. Less time = more memorability, more time = too predictable and boring. Keep it brief, lively and interesting, and ALWAYS cut it short because you are busy 
. You know what I mean. At the end of the day, she is not your number.1 priority in life, so find a reason to cut it short. This includes a first date as well.
Or like Steve says, just go with your gut feeling.
I also like the idea of calling/texting her straight after you get her number just to be a little cheeky and so that she gets your number as well, so that she knows it’s not some strange stalker calling when you make the first call.
I have gotten text messages, emails or IM’s before I have gotten home from most recent dates. In today’s plugged in turned on society, most people drop some note saying they had fun or a good time. Usually I wait to call the next day, but I have been known to Text or IM most of the night afterward.
What if, you just invite her to the next fun thing you do.
this isn’t Swingers…you don’t have to wait a certain amount of days.
“Hunters, make the first move fast.” - Leil Lowndes, How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You
My way - and I have good success with it - is a combination of two things.
- If I am interested, I do not hesitate to call her immediately and make plans for later. He who hesitates is lost; she will lose that feeling that you induced, if you wait, and others will have a chance to take your place.
- I am too busy and self assured to be concerned with what others think. If she’s interested, she’ll appreciate the forthrightness. If not, then it wouldn’t have worked anyway. Win-win.
It also requires the right attitude, which is, “Yes, I’m interested, but I am not desperate, and I am a busy man, so I’d like to make plans for when we both have time, but I won’t be devastated without you.” Confidence is a very sexy thing to women.