A quick note 'bout me.
38 yrs old. Married 13 yrs. 2 kids (9 & 6).
Sex life: Appaling (avg. once every 2 months)
Career: excellent, but long hours. I’m in the IT field.
Location: Jersey Coast
Physique: A little overweight (thanks for the declining metabolism)
That said…
Have been, for quite some time now, trying to improve the physical side of my marriage. Wife simply has no interest, be that in me, or simply has turned cold. First started looking into Phero’s a couple years ago. Ordered a small sampler. Results seemed to be positive, but not conclusive. Further reading led me to believe that Phero’s are simply scams.
Next move… alpha-matize myself.
Found an excellent audio book (Secrets of the Alpha Male, by Carlos Xuma). I highly recommend to everyone. Learned quite a bit about myself as well as the opposite sex. And went out on numerous “hunts”. No, not for the prize, but simply for the thrill of the hunt. Well… call it practice. Thought perhaps simple changes in my attitude/behavior would help revive things at home. Practice went extraordinarily well, I must say. Found myself literally able to pick up just about any woman I approached and have obtained phone countless phone numbers, which ultimately are binned. Anyway, I am a slightly changed person, and I would have to say for the better. Much more in control than I was before. Alas, no difference in things at home.
I decided to explore the world of Phero’s again. I mistakenly fell to the hype of Nexus (blech… waste of money). So, now I find myself here… in search of knowledge (and truth – with all the scam sites out there purporting to have great customer testimonials).
So, I am off… on the quest to educate myself as much as possible and hope to find myself in a position of posting success stories.
Wish me luck.
Oh, and a big-fat kudos to runnerxvr for his extensive testing for which I’ve been silently reading for the past hour or so.
Hey. If you want to spark up your marriage again and bring back that umph I suggest trying Turn Up The Heat. or on the other hand Instant Female magic if she is tense all the time to relax her. Instant Honesty and Openness might help in the communications department. That all depends on what exactly your trying to do. Good luck
Great to have you here in Pherotalk so welcome Sorry to hear about your Nexus, i have heard about it before but i have not tried it so i have no comment on it.
Ok so you are in search of knowledge & interest in pheros here, that’s great Ok for your situation, i recommend Instant Honesty & Turn Up The Heat as these two work well for intimate relationships I leave it to you to decide on my recommendation there. Btw Lady Tisha AKA Tisha23 will be the one issuing you your $15GC when she visit your intro
Welcome aboard buddy
I haven tried the phero you mentioned, but i can vouch for most of the pheros ive used here.
a314 is my fav along with instant honesty.
turn up the heat also helps with the wifey.
good luck
vman, PhatSounds & chicagokid1:
Thanks for the warm welcome and quick reco’s.
There are quite a few out there so these at least give me a starting point. But, I am in IT, and therefore overly-analytical… so, I will be spending a good bit of time reading up before I jump in to buying anything.
I am kicking around the A314 and the Instant Honesty for starters. From what I’ve been reading, I think the TUtH will end up having negative results. Of course, I don’t have anything to base that on, except posts, and knowing just how my wife is. I think it may end up making her stand-offish. But as other’s have posted… using it for (only) those special moments. Problem is… there are no “special moments”. Maybe a quickie in the shower. Hope to get that changed.
Reading your intro reminded me of another poster by the name of jchirsch. His situation with his wife sounds pretty similar there and I think the advice I gave him may help you out. It’s worth a try anyways. Here’s the link The First Phero-Adventures of a Married Man. It’s 3 pages long, but interesting reading.
Alot of people use mones to spice up a existing relationship. Takes a little more work with the mones because your wife knows your natural mone signature and will need some time to adjust to the new one even though she will be unaware of it happening.
I suggest you try TUTH, Ishine and IH and possibly some IFM
I am glad to see you taking more then one approach on improving your self and relationship. I can already tell your well on your way to success.
Your GC is on its way
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Thanks [everyone] for the recos. I think I know where I’ll begin.
Perhaps the following:
Instant Female Magic
Instant Honesty
TUtH
Funnily enough, I was discussing the forum with my neighbor who is in the EXACT same situation I am in. So, this will be somewhat of a joint venture.
Anyway, I wanted to ask… From what I’ve read, as well being reco’ed by some other folk, I noticed that the A314 was not on your (tisha’s) reco list. Any particular reason? Seems to be somewhat of an advanced Phero. No? It does have its own exclusive thread. I think I had in my previous post that I was considering that as one of my starters. I guess I feel that the “respect” is one thing that I just don’t get from my wife… almost to a point where she treats me as being “beneath” her.
Just curious… and of course, if anyone else has input on a noob starting off with A314, please share your thoughts/experiences.
Hi Alph. A314 is indeed a great pheromone product, as a noob myself I have had very interesting results with it. But it is more of a product to help you in things like your professional life (and it might help in certain seduction contexts too). My first experience of it was quite funny - people were treating me as if I was some famous wit and raconteur like Peter Ustinov or something - I was actually explaining the differences between UNIX, LINUX and BSD to a client, lol.
It could have maybe an indirect beneficial effect to your marriage, as your wife would possibly think “Wow, my husband really is the man, see how folk defer to his wisdom…” which can only be a good thing. But maybe directly it would be a bit too formal in the context of a marriage. Some people liken it to donning an expensive suit - and you can’t wear a posh suit round the house all the time! Although maybe if you were also wearing the other products like IFM, TUTH, IH… it could be OK to wear around your wife.
Hello Alph. I’m a beginner in using A314, just like ntk23. I can count on my fingers how many times I used it LOL.
Most of the people in this forum use it for work related purposes.
I used it for meeting girls and socialising. They seem to listen very intently to everything I have to say . They didn’t mind I touching them, even on the first meeting LOL.
I’m not sure if you are both overweight, but doing some fun active things together, perhaps also with the kids, brings excitement on a mental level, connects you more with your body and helps you lose weight. Being more healthy makes people more sexy and also more sexual.
Pheros can mimic the scent of a healthy body in the meantime and once you are more healthy, the extra congruence turn sexy into supersexy.
Nope. Weight is not an issue. I’m very active, as are the kids. But, she very seldom breaks the barrier of the comforts of home. Doesn’t like the outside too much - hates hot weather, hates cold weather, hates rain, hates bugs, hates dirt.
But, I do agree… physical activities do improve things. That is something she doesn’t do, or at least not much. She’s been blessed with a good metabolism (noting family tree). If you saw what she eats at 11:00pm in front of the TV, you’d understand. I don’t know if that is psychologically telling her that she doesn’t need a real physical activity. Yes, she is thin, but not in great shape. I think she needs more physical activity, but I can never seem to get cooperation from her when I suggest something like roller-blading, going to play tennis, or even to just take a nice walk.
I feel like I’ve taken every approach to rekindle things. Have even gone to professional therapy, which unfurtunately she tanked just as things were getting a little deep, by accusing the therapist of screwing up the billing invoice, manifesting into an argument. When I straightened out the billling with the therapist, she said she didn’t think it would be a good idea for her to counsel, as any disagreements would be viewed as bias.
I don’t give up easily.
Well, I placed my order last night.
Of most importance to me right now is to see if the phero’s indeed have any impact on her behavior and/or attitude. Noooo, not a complete 180… I know the deal. When I see some real evidence that these work as advertised, then I will probably lean toward the communication phero’s. That’s one of our biggest sourses of tension. Another post on another thread made numerous produt suggestions. I will see how these first few go and then expand from there.
Sorry to hear about your Nexus, i have heard about it before but i have not tried it so i have no comment on it.
Ok for your situation, i recommend