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I am 57 years old and have been married to the same woman for almost 35 years. We have been having some serious problems lately. I need to win her back.

Will Phero’s work for me at my age? I have been reading about pheromones for 2 or 3 years and have a science background so I understand the biological considerations. I would think from a logical point of view that at my age they might work MORE effectively because of a normal decline in my natural body hormone levels.

I am not a dominant personality, but I am not shy by any means. Professionally, I coach American football so I would have to say I have somewhat of a “presence” about me, at least in some circles. I like women to be attracted to me obviously, and any man that says he doesn’t is an idiot. However at this time, I want to have an impact on only one woman.

I have a deadline facing me in a couple of weeks and can not afford to make a mistake in my choice of products. What would you suggest for this “one time” shot. Right now it seems the A314 (I believe that is right) and the Ammo are the most popular but, I am a newbie and know little if any at all.

Thanks for the speedy responses especially from the veterans. I you can help me work this out, I will become your biggest fan.
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hi welcome.

im sorry you are having problems with your woman.. and im sure you can benefit from pheros, you arent even all that old :wink:

yes, ammo does serve to create attraction but it really depends on the nature of the problem that you are facing with her. is it the attraction problem? or is it something like communication issues.. trust issues etc etc?

if its the attraction problem, then yes, you should def give ammo a shot, and maybe even turn up the heat.

however, if its communication issues, you should consider instant honesty to achieve the bonding effect coupled with more seriuos deep conversations.

gluck :slight_smile:

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Thanks, and yes there are some trust issues. Should I mix them or will that have a cancelling effect?

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Hello and welcome to the forum.

I am sorry to hear that you are having problems with your marriage. Quite a few guys come here with that same issue. The thing to remember is that the pheromones will not improve your relationship. You have to do that. But they can perhaps help you.

My first recommendation is to read the thread in my signature block for married guys. It discusses strategies and the pheromones you can use as part of those strategies. But again the big thing to remember is that it is all about the relationship between you two and that will be up to you two to work on.

Once you read that thread come back and let us know what you think. Then we can move forward from there.

Good luck and looking forward to hearing back from you.

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W . . . . let’s try to make YOU your biggest fan instead of you focusing on extolling someone else.

Congrats on such a long marriage. Took a lotta work to make it that far didn’t it ? Welllll, it’s going to take some work to put that train back on the rails. If you’ve invested 35 years of blood, sweat & tears it’s gotta be worth giving IT a run for ITS money.
(IT being whatever happened - however it happened - whenever it happened).

IF I’m taking your post correctly, you’re seeing this as a one time, one shot deal where you either make it or break it. HIGHLY DOUBTFUL that you’re going to find a magic product that’s going to turn that corner FOR you.

So, just exactly where DOES the rubber meet the road ?
Without totally discounting HER - - - - the answer is inside YOU. Do you want her ? YES you do … you wouldn’t be here asking the question if you didn’t. BUT, do you want her to satisfy your ego that you aren’t just another busted marriage … OR … do you want to be with HER ? (LONG PAUSE here bub … let that sink in)

Take a knee … take two if you need to - go to a nice quiet dinner together … or just sit quietly on the couch together with just the two of you. Keep it simple.

Tell her how you feel and do not argue. If you’ve messed up don’t you dare make excuses. Man up and apologize.

If the two of you have just drifted apart as a result of the daily grind and you’ve finally woken up to the fact, then just tell her.

You absolutely HAVE to mean it though. There is NO WAY you’re gonna pull the wool over a woman’s eyes who’s put up with your azz for 35 years. NOT gonna happen.

You have to stop being a testosterone generator and become human again. The two of you found something in each other all those years ago & yeah, things change over time … but the foundation is still there.

THAT’s the closest thing to a magic bullet you’re gonna find. Funny how the simplest things are the most REAL.

You can add A314 to the mix if you like but some Instant Shine & Instant Openness may be a little better to begin with. BUT, you have to realize they are an addition to you instead of vice versa.

You’re in a corner and obviously don’t like it. This isn’t something you can ‘fight’ your way out of though. So drop the guards and the defenses and do what you have to do.

Tisha may show up soon with some more advice & maybe even a GC to give you a hand. This group will be right here & you can come back and let us know how it goes.

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hi there :slight_smile:

you can layer them on top of each other, but i dont think you should mix them..

when i say this, i mean no disrespect since i know you are older than me and have a lot more experience when it comes to relationships, but remember that pheros really arent everything. it enhances what you already have but it cant create miracles..

anyways, with that said, give instant honesty layered with ammo a shot. it might also be a good idea to test them out before you get to see her, just so you know what dosages works the best for you.

<3 remmy

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Thanks to bosshank and scoupe, both were great posts and the post “For Married Guys” was execellent.

Let me make it absolutely clear that there was no infidelity here and I am not trying to cover anything up. Yes, she has developed some trust issues because I spend to much time working and she can have quite a vivid imagination. There is also a monster-in-law factor here also I believe feeding that imagination. I am simply looking for some aid to make her really listen to what I am saying. Maybe the Instant Honesty is a better option for know.

As far as whether I really want to be with HER and is she worth it, YOU DAMN RIGHT. We’re talking about the “Queen of the World” and to hell with my ego, I have been around to long to worry about my ego. Everyone who knows me knows how much I love her. Literally can’t live without her. I am her biggest fan and the problem is that I didn’t tell her that enough I guess, so you are right about the communication issue and I have been working on that for three weeks.

I think we had drifted apart some because of our differing occupations and would have continued to drift except, I had an real life “near death” experience that shook me back into reality (I know that sounds melodramatic) and now I am in panic mode.

Just looking for an edge to help me get through to her. The flowers and gifts routine won’t work because that is a normal thing I do. I was hoping maybe the pheromones might “fan the flame” I know is still there.

I can’t believe I’m telling complete strangers this stuff. I guess that show my level of panic. Thanks for all the help. I’ll shut up now.

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Hello Welcome to Pherotalk :slight_smile:

My name is Tisha and I am the hostess and adviser here on PT.

I am sorry to hear your having a bit of trouble with your relationship. It doesn’t sound like you or she has done anything unfix-able though. Its gonna take some work and mones can help but they wont do it for you. I think you know that though.

A314 is a great product, it can attract women, it makes you the Alpha and gives you presence. I think you have that already from what you have described so I don’t suggest it. I will explain below.

What I am seeing is a lose in connection intimacy and trust. I don’t think the trust issue is all about you and other women although the subject probably comes up even though your not doing anything. Women can sometimes feel insecure when they feel the connection break and distance taking over between there partners and themselves. They look for reasons and being suspicious that there is another women is the first thing they look for. The trust that she has lost is not really in you but in what you had together. Of course Monster in law is not helping her see whats really happening by influencing her thoughts in that direction. What happens depends on the women and her way of dealing with insecurity. Some attack the problem head on and some some begin to build a emotional wall to protect themselves from the pain they are sure is coming. That wall is what you need to stop because once its in place its very hard to scale. Communication is key here but if it were me I would attack the problem from four directions or in the case of mones 4 emotions. Connection security trust and wellbeing

I suggest IH 2X strength. This helps open up deeper more meaningful communication. Gives a feeling of connection and in some ways trust.

IFM to increase affection. To calm ease and help her get past the anxiety she is feeling in your relationship

I suggest Instant Gentlemen over A314. You have the alpha part down pretty much. You have a presence and a sort of powerful aura. A314 does evoke trust and respect but it can be sort of cold when deeper emotions are involved. IG increases respect and presence but it gives a feeling of safety security. Sort of like “this guy will be here for me” dependability. This is important in long term relationships especially with strong independant women. Strong women have emotional issues they just hide them better. We need that feeling of security knowing that our men have out back when we need them.

Ishine 2X This gives a feeling of wellbeing, it uplifts warms its charismatic charming its that invisible pull that some people have. It can make things feel new again. IH is good at that to.

Now the more sexual attraction mixes like AMMO TUTH etc etc are great but I dont suggest those just yet. You haven’t mentioned sex being a issue and most times in situations like this its like putting a band aid on a gapping cut. It may arouse but they wont get to the true emotions that are causing the problem.

They have to-go size bottles so you can try things out and see what you think. I know time is a issue for you but you do need to try them out one at a time to find your dosage. IFM is best used to the back of the neck and covered either by one of the other products or cologne.

Now my other advice to you, You had to know this was coming LOL :smiley:

Think back to when you were first together and part of how attraction and affection was displayed. Try to incorporate some of that back into your relationship. Spend time with her, really see her, make sure she knows how important she is to you by showing her not just telling her. Men tend to do this through sex its how they connect but its not how women connect. Its the small things like helping her clean up something. Noticing her new sweater, Really listening when she speaks. Being interested in how she feels, thinks and who she is. Asking her how her day was. Never leaving her without a kiss, (I don’t mean when you get up to get a beer but when you go out LOL) All these things lead to connecting.

Another thing to work on is body language. I can watch a couples body language when together and tell you how strong their marriage is and who is having problems without ever speaking to them. Alot of times I can tell you what at least part of their problems are just by how they move. All mammals communicate not only verbally but through pheromones and body language. Its just that Verbal is in the conscious thought and Pheromonal and body language is processed in the sub conscious mind.

I have a basic link in my signature below but I suggest you pop into the book store and get The definitive book of body language by Allan and Barbara Pease. Its a real eye opener and can help you in many aspects of life not just your relationship. I don’t know if you ever noticed this but charming magnetic men have body language down to perfection.

This will help you not only project what your feeling but read what she is feeling giving you a deeper understanding of your relationship.

I know I know your probably thinking I am nuts but really just get the book it will help.

Your GC is on its way :smiley:

If you need anything just let us know.

Tisha

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Hi Weminuche, just to add my two cents worth!

You’ve already been and read bosshanks married guys thread and have had some excellent advice.

In my signature strip below there is a link to my journal, you might want to read it! I had similar issues regarding trust (both ways) and these guys and gals here, along with some of the products have saved my marriage, for that I’m eternally grateful.

As to products, my suggestion would be IFM and Instant Honesty, they worked for me

Sincerely hope we can help and good luck, keep fighting for it and never, ever give up. I nearly did and have nightmares about it.

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Good lookin out … for YOURSELF W.

That smokin hot avatar of Tisha’s has a way of hittin the nail square on the head don’t cha know. Fantastic feminine perspective for you.

The situ is repairable & your head’s in the right place.
Take a short walk w/ a couple of pheromones to start with - couple it with what you realized and my money’s on you taking your lady’s imagination in a slightly different direction.

Rock it bro … then let us know how ya flow.