I’m married (1 year) to a woman who is emotionally difficult , and has stated a few times that she is not in love with me, but then changes her mind later.
What I’m working on, is to regulate her emotional state, using pheromones.
It’s a tough problem, but I want to stay married and I want a good sex life with her (which is almost non-existent today, 1X a month if I get lucky). It’s easy to say “goodbye” in the moment since I have only been married to her for a short time, but picking up the pieces is hard to do. It’s better to stick with it if I can fix it.
I am an attractive 40 yo man with a good personality, and I have no trouble at all with most women. I want to remain faithful to my wife and build a marriage to last a lifetime. Pheromones may be my last chance.
I am open to good advice, and would like to hear your experience on matters like this with regard to pheromone usage.
Hey john welcome aboard.
Im sorry about your difficult times.
Lots of people have had good results using instant female magic. It seems to calm women down during there stressful time of the month.
For increase intimacy in the bedroom I am a big fan of turn up the heat.
Maybe others will chime in with suggestions.
good luck and feel free to ask ?s
Yes your situation seems bad, like the other user stated Istant female magic would be ideal in calming her down and making her comfortable around your presence.
Try some of the other social like Ihonesty to innitite bonding and understanding with her and sit her down and just talk it out and see where that goes, maybe some TUTH to spice things up but try communicating with Ihonesty first to build up comfort and trust levels.
Sorry to hear about your situation there. It must been hard for you there. Anyway good to have you in Pherotalk Ok i try my best to help you there in your situation as you said pheros may be your last chance there.
Ok here is my recommendation> Try Turn Up The Heat, Instant Honesty for intimate relationship & instant Female Magic for calming her down & making her more comfortable with you This is the best recommendation i can help you there.
This problem seems to have a cycle, but it happens every 5 or 6 months. She gets quiet, and won’t look at me, and the I know something’s wrong but it’s nothing I ever did.
She once told me she was still in love with her ex boyfriend (who was a druggie and unemployed! Great self esteem boost for me!) and that there was no chemistry between us at all. (Writing this makes me feel like a fool.) I know for a fact that she’s not seeing anybody.
She’s 39yo, and has 2 kids 4yo and 10yo, neither of them mine. (I’m feeling dumber as this goes on, somebody slap me!)
This happened once before we got married (Now I really feel good!), and has happened twice since getting married Aug 4 07.
Her prominent emotion is probably depression when this occurs, although I’m not sure. She just gets quiet and distant.
I have learned from her stories that she can’t stick with something, whether it’s a husband, a job, a car, or whatever. I feel like another small town in the path of her tornado like life.
I don’t want to leave her, but I sometimes think it’s what I need to do for my own sanity. Maybe pheromones can help soften things and buy me some time to make up my mind and maybe orchestrate a graceful exit(?) or fix the problem and have a great life with this woman(?).
I appreciate your help, and getting this off my chest is helping me see things I didn’t see before.
hey John I’m sorry to hear about your problem with your relationship and your wife.
as Tish said pheromones might not help you out whit your situation. Maybe Turn Up The Heat for the intimate part. Have you tried sitting down with her and talking to her??
I would also suggesting changing couple of things you do in your relationship. Do things that will surprise her, Take her out, buy flowers here and there, etc.. Don’t just do those things on valentine’s day or anniversary, etc..She will be expecting that already so it wont help on those days.
A good thing you can try is actually getting a night and cook for her! It could be something simple, nothing fancy but make it look fancy! Small things like this goes a loooong way.
Also spice up your sex life, I’m not assuming your not doing a good job in that category but a couple of tips wont hurt. Read on some kamasutra books, try out some kinky stuff with her, pour that chocolate syrup all over her! lol, you get the point.
Thanks for providing more info. Dont feel stupid for loving someone. Ultimately its her problem not yours although of course it effects you. She is lucky to have found someone who cares enough to try and make it better.
What your describing to me sounds like she could be mildly bipolar. Its a form of depression that cycles. I dont know if you could get her to see a doctor for this or not but I would try.
I am not going to tell you pheromones will cure this but they can improve other aspects of your relationship.
I suggest the products that I mentioned in my first post to you. Turn Up The Heat you can use in small amounts to increase arousal but only use it when she is in her good cycles. Go slow with that one because you dont want to come on to strong. Start with one spray and work up to two and I would hold it there at first.
One other thing, She may need a strong alpha presence to make her feel secure and grounded. I dont want to suggest to many products cause I know they are expensive but consider A314 over TUTH if you cant get them both.
I wish it was that simple, unfortunately I wasn’t looking when I got into this relationship. She has always been a little on the frigid side. I bought flowers for no reason at lease twice a month, and nothing. I made dinner on numerous occasions, but she prefers her own cooking (she said so). And the sex life - she is incredibly resistant to anything outside the parameters of the basic mechanics of producing an orgasm for me. It sucks! She won’t participate in foreplay. No kissing, no talking dirty, just boring clinical mechanical maintenance sex. I can’t get her to orgasm. I have only got her to orgasm about 3 times during our whole relationship.
I have never had this kind of trouble with a woman. She is a very pleasant person to have around, but sexually she’s a bump on a log. I don’t want to leave her, but this can’t be good for her either.
I want it to be good for both of us, and I thought we might achieve better living through chemistry. That is why I’m here, giving this a try. I’m just a little afraid that I’m gonna get into trouble. I have been using some sample packs of Perception from another site, and it seems like women are all over me. I found SmartMones when I was looking to reorder the other stuff, and was impressed with the range of designed effects you can create with different mixes, so I decided to switch and target some key elements in our relationship.
I want a good sex life, but that’s not my only goal. In past relationships I felt like a stud, and had sex 3 to 5 times a week and sometimes more. Now, it’s more like dud at 1X a month. And I can get it done better by myself! You know it’s trouble when self pleasure is more fun than sex with your partner!
So, now that I’ve totally revealed myself, and now I feel like a real dork, Got any ideas? This is a real project, and I don’t mind using this as an experiment for the books - because really, what have I got to lose?
Thanks for the advice. Keep it coming, I’ll try anything once (Hey! There’s my problem! hahaha!).
, and has stated a few times that she is not in love with me, but then changes her mind later.
