I want a sex drive, please... (intro)

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Hi ~

I’m a 46 YO woman who’s happily married. My spouse and I have two elementary school age boys and live in the Pacific Northwest. (Yes, it does rain all the time, and yes, you are able to find a coffee stand anywhere. I think that everyone’s self-medicating for Seasonal Affective Disorder, or cloud-induced depression.) I’m short, cute, overweight, funny and musical. I take anti-depressants, and I know that they can sometimes reduce sex drive, but being depressed is even worse for my sex life. :slight_smile: I play multiple musical instruments, and my spouse and I play in a semi-professional folk band together. He’s tall, handsome, older than I am, and is a retired software engineer.

I spent ten years as a stay-at-home-mom, and now I’m going back to school to be certified as a teacher. (I’m putting off writing a big paper right now…) This change in roles is very stressful. I’ve never held a management position at work, even before the kids, and I have problems feeling assertive and being taking seriously. (Once again, I’m short, cute, overweight and funny. Not the kind of person who is taken seriously. It doesn’t help that I have a chipmunk voice.) My DH takes me seriously, as do my close friends. It’s just the folks who don’t know me so well who think that I’m not particularly worth listening to.

My spouse and I get along beautifully. We’re both pretty laid back emotionally, and we have very similar tastes and preferences. Our relationship would be absolutely perfect if I had more sex drive. I’ve never been really focused on sex, but now that I’m busy, stressed out and (probably) pre-menopausal, I’m just hardly ever in the mood. I also do not feel even a little bit sexy or attractive most of the time, although I know that DH (Dear Husband) thinks I’m very attractive. I don’t have lots of hangups about sex - I’m just not in the mood very often or very easily. This isn’t new - it’s been a problem for many years.

I bought a bottle of pheromone perfume about 15 years ago. No clue what was in it, but wearing it made me feel kind of attractive and more confident. My spouse had a bottle of similar stuff for men, and when he wore it I did seem to feel more romantic.

I’m looking for a few different things in pheromone perfume. My highest priority is that I want to be In The Mood more frequently. Right now we have our intimate moments only once or maybe twice a week, and it takes me forever to get into the activities. We use mellow music, low lighting, warm showers, massage with lavender oil, lots and lots of foreplay, but it still can take me up to two hours before I really feel that I can let go and enjoy sex.

I would like pheromones to:

  • make me feel like scheduling romantic encounters more frequently
  • get me in the mood more quickly
  • make me feel a bit sexier
  • help me feel more confident and attractive when we go out dancing (Celtic social dances. This involves a LOT of aerobic exercise, sweating, and dancing with many partners.)

But I would also like pheromones to:

  • give me more self-confidence and poise in public
  • help me be perceived as an authority (I really am pretty smart, and know my field)
  • help me step into a leadership role at work

Gads. Whatever this intro may be, it’s not too short… Thanks to you hearty folks who read this all the way through!

Cheers,

Akela

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Hey and welcome to the forums

That’s a good intro you got there. I wish I could help you a little more but I’m not sure how the female pheromones could boost your sex drive. The product for men called Turn up the Heat contains none in it. If you have your husband wear it, it could potentially turn you on to having sex more regularly.

If you want to feel more self-confident in public, there are two pheromones you can take. Instant sexiness A and instant sexiness B. IS/a gives off a vixen type vibe while IS/b gives off a sex-kitten type vibe. Pick one to your liking for public encounters. I don’t know how these will affect your sex drive though.

Good luck, there are many more forum members here who have more knowledge about this and will be happy to share it with you once they come around here.

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I recommend some stilettos (: hehe

Roland is right with the TUTH. You don’t even have to get the husband to wear it if you’re looking to keep this a secret - just the presence of androstenone will get you fired up even if it’s sprayed on yourself or your bedsheets just before.

Besides that, I don’t know a huge amount about the female products but I would place any amount of money on Instant Sexiness A or B being great for you. In addition I used to suffer from minor depression, i’m not saying it was anything severe or anything like yours, but I’ve found strong dosages of IS really cheer me up, increase focus and make me want to do things quick & smile. It also increases confidence, it’s really like you’re walking around with a glow/shine about you - just like the name. People smile at you more.

I hope you get the sexiness you are looking for :slight_smile: let us know how it goes.

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Thank you all. :slight_smile: Now I just wait for the gift certificate so I can order.

I think I 'm going to try a variety of to-go bottles. (Instant Shine, TUTH, Instant Openness and Instant Sexiness B). I really think that I’d prefer Instant Sexiness A. It’s not available to go right now, though. Any idea when it will be back in stock? I don’t mind spending $60 for something that works well for me, but I’d rather try a smaller initial investment.

Cheers,

Akela

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Just placed my order. I got great advice from Tisha, and followed it exactly.

I’ll report on the results later… probably next week. :wink:

Thank you for your help, and thank you for the gift certificate! I’ve been thinking about ordering for a long time, and this just made the decision much easier.

Cheers!

Akela

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Welcome to pherotalk Akela!

In terms of products to make you feel more confident for work and more assertive there was MX300 which was like the female version of A314.

I have had a few women on the forum use A314 successfully but they had to get use to it and do quite a few adjustments. In addition, there should be some putatives that will help your situation just not sure if I should recommend any because they are advanced products, non refundable and we don’t usually recommend them for new comers.

The advice you already received is great but for more advice on products to meet all your needs I suggest you give a call or pm our pheromone expert , Steve.

Good luck!

Your gc was issued! :wink:

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Thanks Mickaelia ~
I think that I probably will try MX300 next. Confident and assertive is EXACTLY what I need. I’ll look up both that and A314 on the forums to find out some specifics about what people (and female people in particular) have done to adjust to it.

I got my GC and placed my order less than 10 minutes later. Thank you! :slight_smile:

After I play with these beginning products, I’ll probably have a better idea about what questions to ask and what kinds of results I might look for.

I’m going to try to get a tracking number for my shipment (which was sent out this morning - WOW and thank you, by the way!). We’ll be out of town for a music festival this weekend. It would be fun to pick it up from my local shipping office and have the order before we leave, but it’s no biggie if I don’t get it till Monday. That’s still blindingly quick service.

Cheers and thanks for the suggestions
~Akela