makes me feeel chipper. and close. well.
yesterday, like i just got it for the first time, and yesterday me and my
boyfriend broke up for like 10 hrs ( unhealthy ) so i was home alone.
naturally, im the type of person that is usually unaffected by disloyalty, i
dont know what it is. i don’t cry, i just ignore it. and around my friends and
people, i can be involving and social but im always.. like, not there. i dont
know. i fear real closeness with people. mistrust issues obviously.
so no one was around, and for some i got the bright idea of spraying
instant honesty x2 to the back of my neck ONCE. [23 yr old femme, on
birth control] and for a brief 10 minutes my emotions surfaced. i was
being affected by my own pheromones!! ahhh !!
it wasnt unstoppable bawling, but there were some tears, and rocking
back and forth, holding my knees to my chest. but it actually felt good to
get it out. ( maybe this can be used for people who bottle things in? )
anyways after that soft wave of emotions passed, my best friend shannon
came home and idk, he seemed in a good mood? he just went grocery
shopping. but i was in a hella good mood. ( sprayed two sprays of instant
shine like 5 hrs earlier. ) and i was talking a bunchh, and he liked the hugs
but he didn’t seem affected by the pheros at all. damn. ( i would never use
any kind of sexual, serious pheromone around this guy. ever. hes like my
brother. ) well about 20-30 minutes passed, no one in my room but me. it
was like 5 pm. just me alone with my active pheros. which were
apparently working because i seriously felt like i was bonding with
myself here! lol. i dont know what caused it, but i wanted someone to
come over RIGHT THEN. and i usually dont invite anyone over but my
boyfriend. well on myspace, there are a few guys who added me from
my area but ive never met them before! three are online, i message ALL
of them and give them my number and told them that they should come
over. ( hey i wanted to meet someone new! ) my feelings behind this?
i wanted to feel a closeness with someone. and i knew the night would
probably lead to something. but not sex. but i did want that feeling.
i dont know if it was because of the first instant honesty spray, or because
my boyfriend had just screwed up. (MYSPACE ADD-1000HOTGIRLS
ADDICTION) that totally deserved the caps.
anyways, someone came over about an hour later. his name was bryan.
very cute, the night was pretty eventful. exactly what i knew it’d be.
with my pheros on, my alter-ego charismatic christy came out dork,
and i was looking so cute, i knew something would happen.
no matter who it was. basically, alot of touching. but no sex. lots of staring.
just friendly pecks and neck nipping. lol. it was funny. it wasnt sexual though at all. ( at least i didnt think so )
he left about two hours later. and right after he left, i had the urge to call up
my ex boyfriend. we made up, on the phone, and for me it was a great
talk. but i dont know how it was for him. pheros cant affect someone over
the phone can they? could’ve just been my attitude. emotional states
are as infectious as diseases. he was definitely feeling what i was feeling.
we made up. im happy. but now that im awake this morning
i realize how stupid it was of me to invite a complete stranger over my
house. ( i will never be alone again when i wear this stuff ) lol!
just wanted to share my experience.
how do you guys feel when you wear instant honesty? alone or with people?
Wow, inviting a random guy to your place huh? Risque..(where are my accents?) You ladies are so lucky to be able to do what..or I guess my Myspace game just isn’t up to par..
IH…well…is pretty much exactly how you describe it. I’d say that the fact you broke up with your bf is a factor in the intensity of your self-effects (wanting to feel close to someone). I suggest trying it when you are in a different situation/mindset.
Without a doubt, IME, it pulls out things that are emotionally important to that person whether or not they were consciously considering sharing it or not. Sometimes, if I’m by myself that means reflecting on my own thoughts, but not casually, being very involved in the reflection process.
A lot of the closeness is manifested in pats on the back for me. I dunno why, but people love patting me on the back with IH on. Shannon might have been effected by the pheromones, but was probably more wondering about what’s up with you. Not saying you don’t normally chat with him and hug him, but it does sound like you acted differently than normal due to the feelings you were having.
With people, it usually results in stories being shared, whether those stories are hardships or funny memories. Overtime, I’d also say that people treat me as if they’ve known me for longer or as if we’ve been through hella bullshit together (like old elementary school buddies getting into trouble at every turn – partners in crime, if you will).
Your pheromones didn’t work over the phone, but as you said, attitudes are infectious.
Girl that was crazy, never do that again. LOL Sorry I am older then you and the mom just came out in me. I get protective of my forum family
I am glad you mentioned the emotional thing though. I use IH alot. I have never, as far as I recall, used it in a distressing situation though. So the results have been bonding and increased closeness with others but never emotional until the other day.
My mother in law passed away and my husbands family are not a emotional bunch. They tend to bottle things and get snappish with each other because of it. Its rather uncomfortable. I didnt know what to wear pheromonally to the furneral. I was gonna go with no mones but at the last minute decided on IH 4X 3 sprays. Well I expected a little sniffling but they let it all out for once. Its not unusual for most people to cry at funerals but I have been to others with them and they hold back. They looked very shocked but relieved after that. No more fighting at least for the rest of the day. Its not good to bottle up emotion (no pun intended LOL)
So you could be right, it helps people release whats bottled up which would coinside with the other types of effects I have seen with it.
Now back to your inviting strange boys to you room. I think it was a combo of the IH and your being upset about your BF. You needed to reach out to someone and have them reach back.
lol i totally agree that it was a ridiculous thing to do.
i really did want to feel close to someone, and yeah i think the boyfriend
thing just made it like ALOT more intense than what it actually should be.
that was such a good move of you to use IH at a funeral! i think
its an excellent idea, people really do need to let that stuff out. thats
what a funeral is for. you know to commiserate. let it out.
yeah tomorrow i’ll use it on my own. i think i’ll be alot happier then.
well i’ll see what happens.
do you think that people would let out things that they actually feel happy
about? i mean we’re talking about sad stuff. but i think it’d be nice if
someone opened up about good things.
ahh lord knows i need more of those people in my life.
people to let me know when im messing up. <3
Yes, people would let out things that they are happy about. Anything that is emotionally impactful is game. That includes happy, boring, sad…all emotions. However, the thing is that negative emotions come much more easily to the mind and people usually want to vent negative emotions more than positive emotions.
But it does happen. All the time for me actually, just wear it when you’re going out with your friends to have a good time (not even clubbing or anything, just going out to hang out) with some upbeat socials like Instant Shine or p74.
And, christymich? I dunno if it’s the new forum design or what, but just fyi, that light pink is very hard for me to read – not really a huge deal though, since I highlight everything I read anyways.
