Okay so many people ask, so here is a complete list of IOI’s as defined by Mystery in his book “How to get beautiful women in bed.” The Mystery Method. Hope this helps you all. It helps me to review them every now and then.
*She reinitiates conversations when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
*She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so
*She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
*If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
*She smiles at you
*She stands nearby (proximity)
*She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
*While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
*She says something to her friend and they both giggle
*She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
*While you’re talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
*She asks you for your name
*She asks you your age
*She compliments you
*She is playful and tries to challenge you
*She’s disagreeing but laughing
*She’s punching your arm but laughing
*She uses nicknames for you
*She plays with her hair while talking to you
*When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
*She repeatedly touches you in any way
*She asks if you have a girlfriend
*She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
*When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
*She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
*She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
*If it comes up that you like something, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
*When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
*She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she’s looking
*She introduces you to friends
*She buys you a drink
*She calls you a player or a heartbreaker
*On her way out, she re-approaches you to tell you that she is leaving
*On your way out, she asks you where you are going
*She returns your calls
*She invents reasons to be near you, interact with you, or have isolation with you
Passive IOIs
*Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing) but she stays
*She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods
*If you move, she follows you or waits for you
*She doesn’t flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close
*She doesn’t resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token resistance to avoid feeling like a slut)
The most important IOIs to look for are:
*She re-initiates conversation when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
My additions
- She mirrors your body language
- She is shy, doesn’t speak, can’t make/maintain eye contact
- She gets the DIHL look
- She preens (adjusts clothes, hair, checks herself in mirror)
