Hi, everyone, I enjoy meeting people and have alot of friends but the men step over me to get to my girlfrinds. OH, well I will try these products. My be my personality is just bad. Which one of these products should I try first.
Hi Debra, welcome! There are several ones to select from like Lust after me and turn up the heat. You might want to first start out with the to go bottles because the are smaller to test on before going with the bigger bottles once they work for you. My first suggestion will be to try Instant Shine among the Instant products.
Have you posted an introduction of yourself at the “hello” thread yet? If not, please do so you can qualify for gift certificate to purchase several pheros to help you out. Men and women on the forum will further assistant you so ask questions if you have any.
Debra, confidence is what men love. You can be average looking (not saying you are) with a lot of confidence and outshine an beautiful woman that has none. A woman with confidence walks, talks, smiles and simply behaves differently than a woman who lacks that quality. Spray your items on, and let your inner beauty shine for the world to see.
Not trying to sound rash or calling you a lier, or trying to insult anyone, but there is a limit on how ‘average’ you can look. . .:o
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Why would I get mad?
I used to dance and every night watched average girls get a lot of attention on stage and dances. Yet the most beautiful girls couldn’t get pissed on if we were on fire (and no, I didn’t have a bad attitude). I know all of it wasn’t confidence, but a lot of it was. In this one club the homliest girl I’ve ever seen let alone in a strip club used to get dances simply because she had the confidence to ask EVERYONE in the place and didn’t give a rat’s ass if you rejected her. She’d sashay away like she was the Queen of England. She wasn’t really confident, but she could sure play it like a virtuoso.
Like other people have said, it doesn’t matter what you look like. To be honest, it’s been my experience that a great many guys really aren’t as interested in the plastic Playboy look as the media would have you think.
As far as personality goes, well, you’re not saying what it is about your personality that might be bad or why you think that is so. It is true, however, that men don’t like extremes when it comes to personality; not in the long run at least. Complainers, doormats, shrinking violets, high-on-your-own-goods… eventually men get tired of this because they’re all high maintenance. That goes for women, too. 
I’m not saying you need to change who you are, because there truly is someone out there for everyone. If you’re too far from the norm in too many ways, however, it may take longer to find them.
If you don’t like yourself, why would anyone else? No offense to the men here, but they don’t want to hear all of that. They get it from all the other women in their lives and they don’t want to have to hear it from someone they would consider dating. I am sure that you are a wondeful person, but you have to believe that in your heart. If you don’t, it will show to everyone else.
Start with the Instant Shine…and smile, it increases your face value!
I agree, sometimes there’s that average-looking girl who gets the most attention because of her personality. A girl’s sweet smile and warm, confident personality can get her a lot of attention and admiration from members of both sexes.
Very very true. Looks are definitely a big deal for guys, but that doesn’t mean it’s a particular type of look.
I have to say that looks CAN be a big thing for guys. Not all guys feel that way. I know lots of women that do not fit into the barbie hottie catagory but I think they are fantastic. A set of flirtatious eyes and a bright smile can win me over far faster than a woman who just looks good. It is the attitude, the openness that will attract me over the appearance. Yes I am probably going to look at the eye candy but at the end of the night if she does not have that I will not be looking at her. I hate to say it but most of the eye candy I have met is not worth the work to try to keep.
The point of all of that is your personality and how you put yourself out there will make more of a difference than how you look. Some of the products will help you with that, Instant shine, Instant openness and some of the ladies products which.. I um have no clue to make you feel happy, shiny and sexy.
Put them on, smile and laugh and see who draws the men in then.. I think your girlfriends will have real competition.
Ponderu
Ah…the ‘Blank Beauties’. Highly overrated…as most men know. Real women, such as we are, is where it’s at. 
Looks will getcha in the door…but won’t keep ya there for long…not in a relationship of any substance…gotta back it up is what keeps you there.
quote=ariadne;114812] It is true, however, that men don’t like extremes when it comes to personality; not in the long run at least. Complainers, doormats, shrinking violets, high-on-your-own-goods… eventually men get tired of this because they’re all high maintenance. That goes for women, too.
Women are a general..PIA…pain in the ass. Don’t make it harder than it has to be. Men hate drama…most men. Others like the crazy ones…lol. Wolf says there’s a BIG difference betwen psycho and a little crazy cute.
I’m not saying you need to change who you are, because there truly is someone out there for everyone. If you’re too far from the norm in too many ways, however, it may take longer to find them.
Extreme personalities are not really accepted they don’t fit into society very well…make others uncomfortable. But ariadne’s right…they usually find one another…just gotta sift through more…lol
Excellent post! Reps! 
I suggest Instant Shine to brighten your own mood and those around you…Instant Sexiness/A for a little boost of sexy confidence
Men are visual creatures. They like to look…women like to show. No crime there…lol
Ah…the ‘Blank Beauties’. Highly overrated…as most men know. Real women, such as we are, is where it’s at. Looks will getcha in the door…but won’t keep ya there long…not in a relationship of any consequence…gotta back it up with some substance.
Often a high price to pay. ponderu.
Women are a general…pain in the ass. Men hate drama…most men. Others like the crazy ones…lol. Wolf says there’s a BIG difference betwen psycho and a little crazy cute.
Extreme personalities are not really accepted…and that doesn’t mean a bad personality…it means ,for some reason, they don’t fit comfortably into the societal ideal. But ariadne’s right…they usually find one another…just gotta sift through more…lol
Most excellent post ariadne…reps!
So true…warm, smiling, relaxed, open and self confident…that’s the ticket. 
Debra, I agree…Instant Shine to brighten your own mood and those around you, Instant Openness may help you..well…open up more and make it easier for those around to approach you…and Instant Sexiness/A for a little boost of sexy confidence. I would wait on the heavy sexual pheromones like Lust After me and Turn Up The Heat til after you’ve learned how to work the socials…which can be very attractive on their own.
Remember pheromones can only enhance …they’ll never do the work for you.
Bella
Hmm, I may have to disagree here. I think it depends as there are many interwoven factors and personality is merely one of them. I think the total package–appearance, lifestyle, personality, intelligence–is what makes the deal work. And, yes, a weakness in one area can be shored up by a strength in another. So, yeah, a great personality can offset a weaker appearance. But then an unusually attractive appearance can offset any of the other areas. It works both ways. To say that one particular area is more important than another is not a given or universal. It is a personal call by an individual.
Oddly, I find lifestyle to usually make or break a deal for me…
Thankfully the total package is subjective…different for everyone.
Ya know…that’s a big factor when you come right down to it.
I think it is important to say that while looks are important for getting a guy’s attention to begin with, each guy has a different type he is attracted to. You can make any look work for you if you put in the effort. Whatever your type, there is a guy who is totally into it. But if you let yourself be too shy and don’t flirt, he won’t approach because that’d be rude–and he doesn’t want to get smacked or have you call the police!
Instant Sexiness A is the starter pheromone blend. I’d start there. Instant Honesty and Instant Shine are worth a try as well.
Best wishes and congrats on taking a step in the direction of your absolute birthright, Debra: Total Goddessness!
Kitten
Very rarely do men invest all that they have in a one dimensional creature, no matter what they look like. If they do, it’s all they want AT THAT MOMENT. It never lasts long. Looks fade eventually no matter what you do and then what are you left with? As always the girls you take home and the girls you take home to mother are rarely the same.
OP, if you do not love yourself, it is apparent. God has given us all gifts to sheare with the world and I am sure that he blessed you with quite a few. Get out there and share them!
Hi Debra,
It is sometimes very difficult to feel confident, especially when we have seen men tripping over their own tongues to get to our friends. Itis hard to have much of a good attitude toward men at that point, yet… I personally believe that there is someone out there for everyone. It’s not all about being at the club gettin your groove on. Do you smile much? Smiles melt down more barriers than you could possibly imagine and theer aren’t very many people who look ugly smiling. Smiling bring sout your soul.
I have Instant Shine and I am certain that it has boosted my confidence (as well as losing a buttload, literally, of weight). Maybe you might need to work on your perception of men that you meet or maybe try to not have that self=fulfilling prophecy type thing (not saying you do) that they will be this way so I am already fed up with them type of vibe. I think men really love to think a woman is all interested in them and what they think about things. Thier opinions and all that. Being nice and smiling and fun have all kinds of magic in it.
Anyways, I hope you find what you’re looking for. I am a newbie too. Welcome!
heather
I for one can agree with that, and I am a man so my opinion can carry weight. though I can’t speak for men in general.
As a woman, I can tell you that we let you men think what you want about what we know and don’t know about you. What we really feel and want not to mention our motivation behind it is more convoluted than anything you guys can ever imagine.
I’m not that hard to decipher…personally, I have a tendency to be rather direct…if I’m interested…they know.