A relative has a problem - she is nursing but horny and her husband is completely turned off. I suspect that her nursing is giving off a pheromone that dissuades her man from approaching.
I’ve noticed a bit of this effect myself but this guy is really affected.
Any reseach on this? Any remedy?
Oxytocin- given off when nursing, causes the infant’s highly plastic mind to be sedated, and also causes the mother to feel “one” with the child. To a man, a little bit of oxytocin is required, but too much oxytocin and he looses desire, because he already feels satiated. It is not unlike feeling too full to eat.
You see, oxytocin, vasopressin, and dopamine all share the same receptors. Dopamine drives desire. Too much oxytocin will overwhelm the receptors, hence dopamine is displaced
Excellent observation! She is doing some intense mothering with their baby and is probably radiating oxytocin.
I’ve tried the oxytocin spray from another vendor and it does make me feel “lovey dovey” and even uxorious… but not sexy and horny.
Maybe the treatment is IS/b for her.
I agree with Whitehall. When I was with my last girlfriend, our Saturdays often consisted of one of these two activities: movie nights on the couch or going out and doing something. Obviously, the movie-watching would consist of things like cuddling and me playing with her hair (and a little more). Going out, on the other hand, would range from exploring a historic or eclectic neighborhood, to taking a flying lesson on a Cessna together.
And I noticed a strange thing: after cuddling on the couch (a high-oxytocin activity), I just didn’t feel very sexual. Of course, I’d do it anyway, because hey, I’m a dude with my girlfriend on a Saturday night 
, but I had to actively get myself in the mood. By contrast, after flying a plane together (a high-dopamine activity) or even something more low-key like a swing dance class, I’d be super-turned on! We’d sometimes forego a nice restaurant and eat at a counter service place instead, just to get to the bedroom faster.
Come to think of it, this is probably why a lot of men don’t like to cuddle.
Dood I seriously wish that was me!
We are closing in on 4 months and I Olympic wood every morning.
All she can say is she needs more sleep…
Two more months and hopefully we can go back to normal…