Hey there!
I can definitely understand your situation! Take a look at the thread “Crush” Effect or Love feeling that I posted a few threads down… Tisha gave some awesome recommendations-
Primarily EST, Instant Honesty, and maybe some P83 to disinhibit him. It sounds like the issue isn’t sexual in nature, so while IS/b and IS/a and Eow can be very fun, your goal is more bonding, communication, and disinhibiting the barriers that might exist from past issues.
Once those are down and you are feeling close, the sexual/attraction mones can spice everything back up and enhance your connection, but I think that JUST the spice isn’t enough to fix fundamental issues in communication.
I just tested this sort of thing in my journal:
And am finding that IH is working VERY well whereas Cops are kind of intimidating him and making him uncomfortable… I just got Instant Shine and hope that that lightheartedness will be good for us (we DID actually break up because of our issues.)
Also, starting a journal on here could be great! It keeps track of what molecules can do what things. I find that just writing everything out, even the non-phero parts, really helps it all come together and helps to see patterns and decide where to go from there!